The MakeMeThinner Support Forum

[Carrie]

Not forgetting WHY we’re doing this has come up several times in recent posts - I thought it time to revisit a helpful little exercise…..

The following is a post I started back in February, before I received my first MF order, and was weighing in at 266.5. I’ve added some P.S.’s to make them current.

Thinking about WHY we are doing this is very important, especially when we are jonesing for food.

Here’s the old post………

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2/27/04

I've started a list of "Things I'll Be Able To Do" and "Things I Won't Have To Do Anymore" and I thought we could all share a few ....... I bet some of 'em are on everybody's list. Here's a sampling of mine:

Things I'll Be Able To Do
1. Say "I'm hungry" out loud. I won't dare do it now. (P.S. Now if I’m hungry I just say it!)
2. Wear a tank top TUCKED INTO A PAIR OF SHORTS even! (Did this last weekend!)
3. Cross my legs - haven't been able to do that in years. (P.S. I’m a leg crossin’ lady now!)
4. Fit in an airplane seat AND the seatbelt. I once went through an entire flight pretending that my seatbelt was fastened. I had it pulled tightly across my stomach with my t-shirt bloused over it. I was too mortified to ask for an extension. (P.S. Took a cross-country trip last summer and fit just fine.)
5. Dance without feeling like a fool. (P.S. Within the last couple weeks I have returned to the dance floor and boogie like a MANIAC!!!)
6. Grocery shop without shame. (P.S. Don’t spend much time in the grocery store, but couldn’t care less what people think of what I have in my cart.)
7. Shop for clothes in the regular section. (P.S. Most of my clothing comes from the REGULAR section now, WAHOO!!!!!!)
8. Not worry about running into old friends -or meeting new people for that matter. (P.S. I enjoy running into old friends, because they always compliment me, and I love meeting new people cause I’m just ‘normal’ size now.)

Things I Won't Have To Do Anymore
1. Order from Lane Bryant or Roamans or Just my Size EVER AGAIN, I HATE THEM! Matter of fact I think I will have a bonfire and BURN all those ugly clothes. (P.S. The biggest size in my house is a shirt that’s 18/20. All the tents are OUTA here! No more Lane Bryant for me!)
2. Heave myself out of the bathtub. (P.S. not a problem anymore)
3. Wonder if a chair is gonna break. (P.S. Doesn’t occur to me anymore, and I fit in any chair, anywhere)
4. Cut the labels out of my clothes. (Duh, like people can't tell they're plus size!)
5. Wonder how many people around me are thinking about how fat I am - Like they don't have anything better to do, LOL. (P.S. Don’t think that way anymore, and besides I’ve noticed guys checking me out again with appreciation in their eyes, it’s NICE!)
6. Cringe in shame every time I hear someone use the word "fat". (P.S. This doesn’t have the same power over me that it used to. It doesn’t seem to set off a negative emotion anymore).

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It’s amazing that though I still have a long way to go I have accomplished almost all of the goals on that list. Here’s some new ones:

Why I’m working to lose more weight:
1. I want to lose the ‘obese’ designation from my BMI
2. Ditto to the ‘overweight’ designation
3. I want to look even better
4. I want to be healthy and lessen my risks for weight-related diseases as much as possible
5. I want to continue growing my self-esteem and confidence
6. I want to be able to ALWAYS shop in the smaller sizes and find lots of stuff that looks great
7. I want to order from VICTORIA’S SECRET!
8. I want to go to the beach and sunbathe/swim proudly, instead of hoping nobody sees me
9. I want to get small enough that even ‘chubby’ won’t apply to me
10. I want to continue living my life every day. Before I was just existing. Now I do things because I want to, and because I can.

So what are your lists? What’s motivating you to be here?

Carrie

[Alicia40]

9. I want to get small enough that even ‘chubby’ won’t apply to me

[Hi Carrie:

I want to be able to look myself in the mirror and like what I see. I used to think I didnt care what other people thought or said about me (my coworker referred to me as a chubby girl) it hurt. I do care, but most of all I care about how I feel about myself. I know I dont want to hurt anymore and feel exhausted. So here is my list:

1. I dont want to be chubby, fat, lardy anymore
2. I dont want to see big gobes of cellulite all over my body
3. I want to have more energy for my children (I am a single Mom)
4. I dont want to feel afraid to date (its been a long time)
5. I dont want to hide at home watching movies scarfing down whatever I can get my hands on, instead I want to feel inspired to be creative.
6. Overall I want to feel healthy and from that comes Joy and happines.

I sure i will pick up more for my list along the way. Today is day 4 for me and this forum is helping me tremendously.

Thank you all

PS > I would like to wear something other than Black for a change and feel okay

[LongWay2go]

Wow, I don't know where to start, so I'll just start and quit when I get tired!

1. I want to walk without a cane (Done! It's hanging in the coat closet now!)
2. I want to go out SHOPPING again! (Done! I'm terrorizing them at Costco and the mall!)
3. I want to retire my wheelchair (Done! Old Betsy lives in the front of the garage now.)
4. I want to get out of a chair without need of a support rail, high-back chair or other "helper" impliment (Done! I can get up from a chair without assistance whatsoever!)
5. I want to be able to sit on my sofa again. (Done! I couldn't get up from it before, so I couldn't sit on it.)
6. I want to be able to travel again. (Done! Vegas, baby!)
7. I want to be able to drive my car again. (Done! Can't keep me off the road now!)
8. I want to be able to sleep on a bed instead of in a "big boy" recliner. (Done!)
9. I want to be able to do the morning bathroom routine without a chair to sit in. (Done! Chair has been retired to the basement!)
10. I want to not have to take 8 vicodene a day to control pain. (Done! Vicodene be gone!)

Things yet to do:

1. DRIVE that new Z4 instead of riding in it. (My driving is limited to my Grand Caravan at the moment.)
2. Fly without buying two seats.
3. Buy new clothes off the rack anywhere I please!
4. Never order again from the "fat man" clothing catalog.
5. Dispose of all my "fat man" clothes, except one shirt, pair of pants and undies to remind me of WHY I never want to be fat again!
6. Get off all 3 hypertension drugs
7. Stop taking 24 pills a day, just to survive.
8. Devote my time to helping others change their lives the MediFast way.
9. Enjoy being in photos instead of being embarrassed by being "captured".
10. FIT IN MY SPIDEY TIGHTS!!!

For all that has been and all that is to come, I am grateful. For all my new friends and family I have met here, I am grateful. For having this opportunity to change my life, I am grateful. For all the people who made MediFast a reality for us, I am grateful. For life, I am once again, grateful. No longer do I pray for death to take the pain away - and for that, I am the MOST grateful!

~Spidey

[Crystal]

Hmmm....let's see.....what do I want?

I want to be proud of how I look.

I want to lose the "obese" and "overweight designation associated with my weight and BMI, and be on the low side of my suggested weight and BMI range.

I want to fit into and look good in whatever I try on.

I want to buy a cute bathing suit.

I want to be more active.

I want to be in lots of pictures.

I want to wear all the clothes I have bought in the last 5 years that don't fit any more...including my ski suit.

I want to go skiing.

I want to order anything I want and know that it will fit.

I want to be able to pull anything out of my closet and know that it will fit.

...I think that is it for now....

Crystal

[gr8views]

Many of my wants and don't wants mirror others... Here's a few more...

Want to walk to and from my car without getting out of breath (at 7500 feet above sea level at work)
Want to have cheaper life insurance!
Want to be more social, more confident, less introverted.
Want to go on vacation in exotic places with no discomfort due to my weight.
Want my back to NOT hurt anymore!
Want to smile ALL the time!
Want to 'strut my stuff' and keep my husband fantasizing!
Want to buy and wear cute, CHEAPER clothing! (Still hate the fact that large sizes cost more, aren't on sale much, and can only be found in specialty stores or shops...)
Want to hike all over the Sandia, Jemez and Sangre de Cristo mountains in my backyard.
Want to spread the word about Medifast and the changes it has made on my life!

Just a couple of the things I want!

[TamiL]

GREAT POST CARRIE!! thats just what I needed latley..a reminder of all things I want to do....have yet to do...
most of my list are similar to whats been posted above.
but most of all...I want to just feel comfortable in my own skin.
Ive not been here in a while...but logging on today and reading all this...is just what I needed!! Im trying to figure out so many things... Ive been on and off again with my program...but havent gained any weight..just been staying steady...
Today I am just greatful to have this forum to come to when Im feeling BLAH...and read all the great posts from all of you!!

I WANT TO WEAR LEATHER PANTS LIKE NANCY!!!

Tami

[purplepansy]

1. see a cute outfit and buy it off the rack.
2. get my belly button peirced
3. start dancing professionally again.
4. be on top for sex
5. feel sexy again
6. not look in the mirror and feel so sick at the fat girl
7. not panic when I have to go to doctor and faced with that damn scale
8. have my husband and children be proud of me not embarrassed.
9. thow away the sweat pants
10. wear a belt
11. feel good at the pool

[Karen]

WOW! I have just finished week one, (weigh in is tomorrow). I LOVE reading all these posts. It says everything I want to say, but couldn't seem to find the words. I want all of the above mentioned plus:
I want to walk into a room and not be the heaviest person there.
I want to be able to have FUN again.
I want to go hiking with my outdoorsie hubby, who gave up a life in beautiful New Zealand, to come here and marry me!
I want to actually be able to tell people how much I weigh!

In fact, in less than a week on MF and reading these posts, I feel secure enough to say, I am 5'2 and weighed in last week at the doctors offic at 298. (whew! I haven't admitted to my weight to ANYONE in 20 years! But I am going to ENJOY telling just how much I loose each week! Wish me luck tomorrow!!

Thanks for being here everybody. You don't know just how much of a help you are!!

[DutchChoc]

I feel honored to be the first one to wish you luck, Karen! Welcome aboard this train to Thinsville and do not give up your seat to any tempting little diversion that comes along and sooner than you think, you'll be meeting some or all or even more of your own goals than you might imagine right now. As someone here says (Sara, I think, and probably others), MF is da bomb -- it will work if you work with it.

Keep checking in here and coming back because participation is part of the fun and seems to provide the kind of lasting motivation and encouragement that makes the difference between quitting/going away and staying/seeing this through.

[Karen]

Thanks DutchChoc. I had a grand day. Down 7 pounds at my first weigh in at the doc's office. (she is supervising my MF plan) My initial labs weren't all that good, but I expect them to be better next time. This feels so good, I sure wish I had started years ago, but I am on a ROLL now. No quitting, no cheating. Just losing. :-)

[gr8views]

Good for you... 7 pounds gone for good!

Just keep shaking, checking in here and keep the faith. You're going say goodbye to the '90s here shortly! WOO HOO!

Di

[DutchChoc]

Congratulations, Karen! It feels so good to do well that it's relatively easy to stay on track as long as you're vigilant and can stay relatively non-passionate in your interactions with food and foodie ideas. Take advantage of your own momentum and just hang in there and go for the longest possible ride. This group will help you.