SharonR wrote:You're being brave Joy!
You can join us as much as possible. This is how I feel, weigh when you just can't take it anymore, but be honest and tell everyone and give us the stats? Does that sound fair?
I think it's just kinda fun to see how long we can last. I started thinking last night I might cave and I started this whole thing!
all we can do is our best.
I like you, feel I might be a disappointed after a month if I see a small number. How did you deal with the 6 pounds lost? I mean it's better than my 5 pound lose this month!
At first I WAS disappointed, especially after seeing how much my buddy Denise lost...I was happy for her though! But I knew I'd done my best that month (that's all we can do, after all), and six pounds lost was PROGRESS, especially considering I'd spent a few years in Restarts and not losing ANYTHING at all...even gaining! I thought of Robin (Dogma), who's averaged about 5 lbs. a month, and has still stuck to her plan for over a YEAR....and now she's almost at goal (that's very inspiring to me....if she could do it, then I can too!)
I've been an all-or-nothing person in the past and it wasn't getting me ANYWHERE, so I'm learning to let go of my perfectionism.....to strive for excellence and do my best each day to be compliant (and I am most of the time!). I just don't throw the baby out with the bathwater anymore if I am less than perfect on MF on any given day, I don't allow a lapse to turn into a relapse anymore....I just get right back on the MF wagon right away and have an RTD. Then I'll say out loud, "I am ON plan right NOW and for the rest of this day. This was a "pause"....I'm still on MY weight-loss Plan!" The difference is that I'm not "under" or "following" a program....it's MINE....my plan...MY choice. It's an excellent program I happen to believe in, but it's MINE. It puts ME in charge. Does that make sense? It may not sound like much, but it's a huge attitude adjustment for me.
I do my best to see the scale as a TOOL, just one place to measure or gain information from. I find that it serves me better to get on it not so often. My HA, Jan, has been a great source of strength and information to me....she didn't get on very often while she was in the losing phase, and I think that fits for me as well.
As you say, we all must do what works best for us individually. I don't see others as "weak" for weighing more often...it's not a moral issue....neither good OR bad. It's just another way. If weighing less often works better for some of us, that's fine too....not silly or weak in any way.
Joy
Motto: The time will pass whether I diet or not.