Sheila, you think that you learned something this morning, but I am positive that being non-judgemental was already within you!
I know how it hurts sometimes, when people make derogatory statements. I have had problems over the past four years, regulating an out of whack thyroid (Grave's)disease, having to go through two rounds of radiation that made me hypothyroid and tons and tons of medication adjustments.
I have a neighbor who is a little older than I, who took the opportunity as I was gaining weight with the thyroid disease and also from poor food choices, to call me "fatty, hi fatty', "you are so fat, have you looked at yourself in a mirror lately", and "you are disgusting looking, you ought to be ashamed of yourself".
I was devastated. Hurt, you bet? But, I did not feel that this person deserved any explanation, yet I was so tempted to speak up in my defense, but I remained silent.
Fortunately, for all of us on our weight loss journeys, the good people out there outweigh the nasty ones. We cannot escape them, but we sure can be proud of ourselves, and like you said, Sheila, we can look at overweight people with compassion, and caring because we have been there.
I am so happy that you picked yourself up, and turned a negative experience into a very positive one!
Joan
. I had chores to do, I had to pay some bills, I had to do this and that 
, but my husband convinced me that I should take him to the beach so I could spend some time with him. So I agreed, that I should. We started out going to the beach here on our base. We hadnt walked 10 feet from the car and it started raining. Secretly, I was glad that it started raining.. 
.so we could leave. Well, we got in the car, and my son talked me into driving out to the beach in beautiful Kailua. It wasnt raining at all there, and we had a nice time. I thought I heard a couple of guys make a joke about me, but I didnt let it spoil our day. They were with 2 really pretty and skinny Hawaiian girls. I know I am more than half way to my goal now, and I should be more proud of myself, but it is hard sometimes. Especially here, in Hawaii, where so many of the women go around so scantilly clad, on a daily basis. I know when I get to my goal, I will feel much better about myself. But until then, its going to take some work as far as my mentality goes. Anyway, I went to the gym tonight, and I do feel a little more confident after working out.
. In spite of those unthinking idiots at the beach 
, I bet it was great spending time together. AND you went to the gym afterward ?!?! 
You are my hero!! 
But, if they only took the time to open your book and read some of your pages, they would find all the beautiful attributes in there, that they are lacking. You sound like a wonderful mother and a successful MF loser. There is nothing better than that, so continue to hold your head up, smile adversity in the face and rise above the idiots!! It is the only way to fly!!! 
. i have sorta been around the same since, though i have lost a little. those stupid insensitive people arent even worth our time. when we get to where we want to be rather than being like them we can help others also trying to do what we are doing. god knows its soo important to take care of your health 
) We can't really change other's attitudes but we can change how those attitudes affect us. I know it's hard. Shallow people many times say hurtful things. My mother always told me to consider the source. Hopefully they'll learn too.
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