Dear dear Rae ~
B.T.D.T. I
hate it when it happens, too.
I have NO idea why it occurs – when we figure it out, rae, we will surely help 65% of our population.
For me, it seems like a part of my brain steps aside and grants another part to take control of the thinking center, to be BOSS for the day (or the week, or a month, etc.).
For many of us, we love the safety that Medifast offers: prescribed doses of food to be taken are prescribed ties of the day. Noting more, nothing less and when we do take them accordingly, we are successful. Once we step outside the safe parameters, we go food ballistic, scarfing every thing not nailed down!
It amazes me when the physical cues are present – sense of feeling full, empty plates or containers and yet I ignore them and want to defy all sensible things for the dangerous thrill of it all. It is like an evil force that takes control.
I do not know the answer to why it happens. It used to bug the puckies out of me because I didn’t know. For me, I have now come to realize there are some things just I do not know now and I may never truly understand them; they just are. Rather than become hung up on the ‘why’ or the ‘how’ of it all, I merely move forward accepting and understanding what I do know.
I cannot figure out the miracle of birth – how a single cell from a man and a woman grows into a marvelous baby upon their union, how it can live inside the dark confines of the womb and then be birthed into the hearts and lives of a family and yet it does. All my ponderings do not change the fact that it happens.
Perhaps your setback joins mine and others – something we cannot truly explain away, it is something that happens.
Like others have stated, forgive yourself, and don’t beat yourself up for being human. You came to the right place: we know how it feels, you do not need more whippings from us, you just need help to move forward.
True story from my girlhood. A friend’s grandmother was recounting the days when she was a young woman during the war (WW II) and rubber was in scarce supply because it was used for the war efforts to provide tires, etc. for army vehicles. The elastic that was available for the average person was of poor quality because the best of the best was used for the “soldier boys.”
The Grandmother was on her way to church with her family and as she walked down the aisle, the waistband in her underdoodies gave way. Evidently this was a common occurrence during this period of time as she said sometimes unders could be seen on dance floors, too.
She merely stepped out of them and continued on her way. From that point on, she always used a safety pin at her waistband to prevent future mishaps.
Application, step out of the situation and continue on your Medifast way for now. To prevent future mishaps, here are a couple of safety pins:
Alcohol is a common denominator for people who overeat. When a person has alcohol, it lowers their rational thinking ability; it also lowers their resistance to eating sensibly. Most appetizers are high calorie/high fat/salty – they make a person thirsty, thus increasing drink orders. Limit alcohol consumption. Drink water or tea in between alcoholic drinks. Often times we drink just because everyone else is or to have something to do with our hands.
When a person transitions to regular foods, it is imperative that we do so over a period of time, adding back in small amounts the regular foods and then we need to keep our daily menu fairly low in fat and low in calories for a period of time. While on the weight loss program, our metabolism slows down and as exercise is increased, the metabolism will increase and then we will be able to handle higher calorie consumption on a daily basis.
Your week’s menu contained a lot of carbolic foods & high fat foods – bread from your sub sandwich, lentils, rice, pasta for your lasagna, bread n’ butter, hummus, the alcoholic drinks = carbs, etc.
Many times during social engagements, we do not drink as much water as normal and our fluids can get totally imbalanced, particularly when we eat a lot of commercially prepared foods – they have a lot more sodium than the average low cal/low fat meal has. I suspect a lot of your weight gain is due to water retention. Coffee (any caffeinated drinks) and alcohol are dehydrating, our body needs extra hydration to flush and refill the cells and a day or two back on the program ought to take care of the majority of the weight gain.
Use raw veggies for appetizers avoid the hot crunchy ones because they are high fat/high calorie.
You are on top of things, raederle. You’ll be right back into the swing of things very soon.
I love bread, pie and candy and when I eat them, they seem to trigger a desire for more and more and it is hard to stop.
I do best when I avoid them all together except for special occasions or on weekends.
I have finally come to the conclusion that as much as I want to be able to eat the way I used to – with sweet abandon – it is not possible to do so and remain at a healthy weight.
It’s a trade-off: Eat what I want and as much as I want and get fat & cranky or eat what I want with restriction and stay healthier and happier. Some days I like it better than others.
I was actually angry for a while that others could eat whatever they wanted to eat without any seemingly negative consequences. I think I am over my mad now but I still don’t like it, rae.
Perhaps this is the time to utilize some of the training you got as a lawyer. Select a side to support, gather the evidence necessary to set up the defense or prosecution for eating beyond safe caloric limits and use that as your mental arsenal when you are thinking about going beyond your safe food allowance.
According to my husband, there is not one shred of evidence that I have a logical brain cell circulating in my head as I operate according to my heart and my emotions but perhaps filling a yellow notepad with particular points that lead to your pork-out may provide you with some clues.
Personally, I would step out of it, go forward as if it didn’t happen, use the safety pin of your Medifast products this week and at a later time when you are feeling less vulnerable, revisit the ‘whys.’