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[katieb920]

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[lifelovinaries]

:wave: T, i think i had givin my opinion on this in your journal before. Did you think that maybe you and your body are comfortable at a little over 140? Maybe that is what's happening. You are so close to goal already and your body is happy where it is, weight-wise. There is nothing wrong with raising your goal at this point. It seems like it would be less stressful to transition and try to maintain (and still drop a few in the process, maybe) than to struggle to lose it now. It's not cheating, it's being realistic. THIS STATEMENT DOESN'T APPLY TO OWTO! Only because she isn't as close to goal as you are. Good luck with the decision, regardless, we are still here for ya!

[queenielou]

Hey T,

Just dropping by to check on you. I hope you had a nice weekend and that this new week will bring you to goal

[holberry]

Tawanda, tawanda wake up!
hope your day is terrific!

[Tawanda]

Thanks guys. I've just mentally been in a bad place. One that I don't like but for some reason I'm stayng there so maybe I don't dislike it as much as I believe I do (confused? me too).

I posted this elsewhere (on Lauren's maintenance thread) but felt that I wanted to also post it here, where maybe I'll see it often over the next few days.

I've been struggling for months now and the hole I'm digging for myself just seems to be getting deeper instead of improving......so......I think it is time for me to see if I can change my thought processes, my feelings, my attitude by beginning to do more activities----i.e. exercise. I hope that I will follow in the footsteps of so many here, that I will love the feelings that I get when I move my body and become more fit. Many, many years ago I attended (and loved) daily exercise classes, ran every weekday morning (at 5 a.m.) with a friend and was 'fit'. I did love it, and I did miss it when we moved out to the country where driving into town to meet with others to exercise just wasn't feasible (cost and time-wise---we were building a home and all extras were given up).

So...time to get off my bum and begin. (I'm going to put this into my journal also).

[Lauren]

Hey, T. -

Thanks for your honesty here - with yourself and with others. Here's what I think, for whatever it's worth.

I remember saying something similar to this waaay back when, to someone else here, and I'll repeat the sentiment to you. I think that sometimes we get too stuck in our heads and our emotions. While I absolutely see the value in figuring out "why" we eat, or "why" we are struggling with compliance, or "why" anything else, I sometimes think you should go with the "who cares why?" I know this sounds counter-intuitive, that we are all supposed to be figuring ourselves out during this weight-loss journey, but perhaps overthinking the whole thing is a big part of the problem. Why not just stop thinking, and start doing. Put the brain on freeze and get the body in motion?

I always find it frustrating when folks post here that they aren't sure they want to begin exercising because they're worried it will stall their weight loss. It seems, to me, that we should get some perspective. Even if major exercise did stall someone's weight loss temporarily, do they really believe that they're better off not exercising? Is that really a logical assumption? Wouldn't it be better to get all the benefits of exercise: energy, the high from the endorphins, a fitter looking body, increased cardiovascular strength and wellness, overall improved health, then to worry about what the scale may do for a week or two? Okay, sorry, that was a little off subject.

I just know that, for me, I stopped hyper-analyzing everything I thought or did, and just stuck to the diet and stayed the course on the exercise. I didn't "debate" sticking to the plan, I truly and completely believed there was no other alternative. I've said this a million times here, but it's no joke: pretend you are on a desert island where the only food options are MF meals, water, and L&G. That's it. There Is No Other Option. When I tell you that I didn't have any temptations the whole time I was losing, I am serious. It's not because I am stronger, have greater willpower, or some grand dieting brilliance - it's because I trained myself to believe that it was my only option.

T., just stop thinking and go for a walk. Don't analyze why you may or may not want to walk. Don't debate the merits of what time of day you should exercise, or which friend to call. Just take action. Just do it. Life can be so much simpler for you if you just look at your day like this:

Wake Up
Eat MF Meal
Drink Water
Exercise/Activity
Drink Water
Eat MF Meal
Drink Water
Eat L&G
Exercise/Activity
Drink Water
Eat MF Meal
Drink Water
Eat MF Meal
Drink Water
Eat MF Meal
Go to Bed - Proud

No, the order doesn't matter, but just do it all in a day. There are so many other stressors in life, why not just take this part out of the stress equation, and make it the one component of your life that's EASY???

Stop thinking. Start doing. I promise you that when you reach your goal, the insights and self-analysis can and will come. For now, treat your brain to a little downtime. :-)

Much love,

Lauren

[Lizabette]

Hey TEE, my girl, aren't we lucky to have LAUREN around to boost us when we need it?

[queenielou]

I agree, Lizabette! I just read two of Lauren's posts - one here and one in C-gal's journal and realized that Lauren is really speaking to me today. The idea that there are no other options is something I need to train myself to think immediately. That was a great post, Lauren. I hope it speaks to you T the way it spoke to me Exercising is such a wonderful part of my life (when I do it of course). Today will be my third day of kickboxing and it really doesn't get any better than to know that I'm pushing myself to my limits and feeling stronger because of it.

Lauren is right (this is the theme for today) about the benefits of exercise versus what the scale might say. Who sees the numbers on the scale besides you? You've already reached a healthy weight. Perhaps now if you incorporate Unca's advice on making your goal being healthy and fit and Lauren's advice about not worrying about any exercise-induced stalls, seeing the same number on the scale over and over again will be less stressful. I just know that getting moving is always a good idea. At the very least, you'll feel better about yourself because of it. Hope this week is better than last week for you

[CGal67]

I just know that, for me, I stopped hyper-analyzing everything I thought or did, and just stuck to the diet and stayed the course on the exercise. I didn't "debate" sticking to the plan, I truly and completely believed there was no other alternative. I've said this a million times here, but it's no joke: pretend you are on a desert island where the only food options are MF meals, water, and L&G. That's it. There Is No Other Option. When I tell you that I didn't have any temptations the whole time I was losing, I am serious. It's not because I am stronger, have greater willpower, or some grand dieting brilliance - it's because I trained myself to believe that it was my only option.

Just take action. Just do it. Life can be so much simpler for you if you just look at your day like this:

Wake Up
Eat MF Meal
Drink Water
Exercise/Activity
Drink Water
Eat MF Meal
Drink Water
Eat L&G
Exercise/Activity
Drink Water
Eat MF Meal
Drink Water
Eat MF Meal
Drink Water
Eat MF Meal
Go to Bed - Proud

No, the order doesn't matter, but just do it all in a day. There are so many other stressors in life, why not just take this part out of the stress equation, and make it the one component of your life that's EASY???

Stop thinking. Start doing. I promise you that when you reach your goal, the insights and self-analysis can and will come. For now, treat your brain to a little downtime. :-)

Much love,

Lauren

I LOVE THIS, and simply must cut and paste to WORD so I can look at it everyday when I get to my desk (and I may need to put it on the bathroom mirror as well).

Wonderful advice!!

Carrie

[Tawanda]

Lauren, thank you.

[holberry]

morning T

[AmazonQueen]

This is my 1st time visiting your journal and just want to say high.

[Tawanda]

Hi and I'm on program!

I did 6-0 yesterday and had some hard moments when cutting up food for the twins, but I stuck to program and drank 68 oz of water, too.

This morning I'm above ticker (147).....but hope that I will be back to my ticker weight (145) by roll call.

Babies will be here again today and are probably spending the night so their parents can have a 'date night'. I have my sugar-free gum on the kitchen counter and my resolve is still strong. I keep reading Lauren's words in her post above.....no food exists other than MF----I do not believe that , but I do keep telling myself that NO foods go into my mouth unless they are MF foods. I am not sure how long I will do the 6-0, but it seems to be the easiest way to make sure that I'll continue to be compliant. If it doesn't come out of a MF packet, I cannot eat it.

Hope it is a good day for all. I feel like I'm getting a sore throat and have a little bit of a headache. I sure hope it isn't the creeping crud that so many have battled in the past couple months.

Time for more coffee and my supplement.

[holberry]

Morning!

[Serendipity]

See what happens when I skip journals bacause I'm busy????? I miss all the good stuff. That was a great post, Lauren, as usual.

Now, I'm gonna have to ask for everyone's cooperation here. No more profound posting or fun stuff until I can get back to reading every post in late April. Thankyouverymuchandgoodbye.