The MakeMeThinner Support Forum

[Tawanda]

I truly never know what to say back to people. If I say I appreciate your input then I feel like I'm requesting input -- if I don't say thank you back then I feel like I sound very ungrateful for the time and thought people put into their posts here ..... and if I don't name people by name, then I feel like I'm snubbing some of you (which I do not want to do).....if I name names, then I might forget someone (which would be horrible! ) and if I make comments back, I'm concerned that I will not be fair in my replies........What a dilemma!!!

Okay....so what to do??

I'm going to have a cuppa coffee and mull it over.

(scale is still stuck)

Be back later.......

[holberry]

Hi Tawanda!
I think all your responses are heartfelt. But I too am a bit overwhelmed sometimes with responding to everyone, and I know I miss many here in my haste, and I do not mean to!
Anyhow, it is all good and we are all here for the good of ourselves
hb

[Pashta]

Hey, this is your blog so you can write whatever you want in it. You don't have to respond to everyone or even anyone if you don't have the time or don't feel like it.

I know Chynna seemed to get upset about that but that's a rare case. Most folks understand that people don't have all day long to read everyone's journals, let alone respond.

Have you tried mixing it up, like adding some calories and fat or doing less exercise or more exercise? Make a small change and that should get you going...

[DonicaB]

Hi guys, I think we need to be careful in thinking that we fully understood the point Chynna was trying to make in her journal. Remember.....sometimes the things we write down can be easily misunderstood. It is hard to hear the tone of a person's voice in the written word. I do not think that Chynna was saying she felt like everyone should respond to her. She was a little disappointed that very few people responded to her during a time that she was feeling down and was ill.

As I said in Chynna's journal.......I think we are kidding ourselves if we say we don't care if people respond. Of course we do......I mean this is a SUPPORT forum. We all joined this forum because we wanted the support from one another. Yes, I write in my journal for me, but I also write in there with the hopes that someone might be able to give me new perspective on issues that I face and to encourage me. If Chynna didn't feel supported I think she had a right to say so in her journal. I, for one, felt horrible because I hadn't been an encourager to her during her time of need. I want to be encouraging to everyone if I can. I know I can't always respond to everyone, but I think maybe I can try to do a better job of reaching out to others.

Please understand my intent here.......everything I have just written has been written in kindness. I don't want anyone to feel like they don't belong here.

All of this is in my humble opinion!!!!

DonicaB

[bikipatra]

How do you think I felt about belonging after the comments she made about me?

[SuzyQ66]

I look to all of your for support. Don't worry Tawanda about responding to everybody...you have given me loads of support and have shed light for me on several subjects. Your journal is insightful.

I think we just need this subject of cliques to die. There is no easy answer for any of this and Donica you are right - sometimes it's hard to put things in writing and know a person's true intent. E-mailing and IM-ing is known for this and these message boards must be too.

I think some of us- including myself - take things too personally sometimes and may take things the wrong way. There have been times that I have been in a rush and have read somebody's journal too fast and then interpreted it the wrong way - Biki I did do that to you once and even told you I felt stupid for it.

None of us are perfect - I sometimes in the past have felt that I might have said congrats too many times, or awesome etc - but I always meant it. We are all in this together and we are all working out our lives and weight issues together - it can get messy sometimes because we are dealing with things that we don't want to deal with - isn't that what got us here to begin with.

I would love for everybody to just 'kiss' and make-up. We are in some way like a family - it may be disfunctional at times - I know mine can be at times - but in the end we all have the same goal - to healthy futures and loads of weight loss.

Please have a great night and know that I appreciate all of you. I hope we can just put this in the past and move forward to better days.

[KeleeGrl]

"Can't we all just get along" ....thought I would throw my 2 cents in!

[Tawanda]

Good morning!

I think Kelli and everyone else has given some great input and if I've been out of line, then I need a slap upside the head (I'll do it myself, thankyouverymuch---don't be lining up to do it!! )....if I was right on, well, that isn't making me feel real good about the whole situation either.

So........anyway. Just thought I'd pop in for a moment and I hoped to see Donica checking in---I'll continue to check in and watch for her during the day today. Sure hope she is feeling better (along with anyone else who may be feeling crummy).

[DonicaB]

Good Morning Tawanda~ (Oops, actually it's after noon now) Thanks so much for checking in on me. I do feel so much better today. I actually woke up hungry so that was a good sign.

How's the scale movement coming??????

DonicaB

[Tawanda]

I don't really have anything to journal this morning. Glad to see that Donica is back and feeling better.

I'm missing Katie and Jody (goodtaste).....there are quite a few who are missing from the boards. Lucy, how are you doing? Musical Momma ... so many missing....

[Tawanda]

Oh heavens! I said I didn't have anything to journal.......well, slap me upside the head! (don't do it!! it was just an expression!!)

My DH gave me the nicest NSV possible this morning. He gave me a hug & smooch g'bye this morning, as is the norm when he heads off to work, and he had his hand on my waist. He matter of factly said "you're getting skinny". I was and came back with something along the lines of 'well, not skinny and I have a long way to go yet'. Groan!!!! He said 'it is working' or something-----I wasn't listening as well at that point cause I was thinking "why didn't I just say THANK YOU?!"

Oh well, even with my less than gracious acceptance of his compliment, it was a great NSV and I'll make sure I tell him how very nice it was of him to say it..

I do have a long way to go......but that was pretty darn wonderful to hear.

[ChynnaDoll]

Awwwwwwww, that is the sweetest thing:+))))...he sounds like a very lovable DH..sounds alot like mine...he does the kiss thing every morning too before he leaves, well maybe i shouldn't say every morning cuz he didn't this morning...maybe it was my breath..i even got'a wiff of'it myself...that is AWFUL...let me stop..lol!..no but seriously, i too find it hard to say *thank you* to a compliment someone gives me, and usually respond back with REALLLLY??? you think so?...for the life of me i don't know why i do that...actually one time someone DID just come out and say to me why can't'cha just say thank you very much and be done with it...oh well!

Please don't laft at me but i got'a ask a question?..what does NSV and DH mean?...i see that all the time?

Love,
Chynna

[Tawanda]

NSV is a non scale victory and DH is dear husband, darling husband, sometimes even darn husband.

You'll see DS for dear sister or dear son, DD for dear daughter, DMIL for dear mother in law, DGD for dear granddaughter....etc.

I believe there are lists online of acronyms that are used.....FWIW (for what is it worth) HTH (hope that helps)..........yeah, there are a lot of them!!

[ChynnaDoll]

Wow, there ALOT of them..thanks so much for having enlightened me. Now i will be more cognizant when they appear:+)

Love,
Chynna

[DonicaB]

Tawanda~ Congratulations on your sweet NSV! It sounds like you have a sweet and supportive hubby. I, too, struggle with accepting compliments. Why is that? If someone figures it out, please tell me!!!!

DonicaB