Well, I have been walking around for two days on the verge of tears, developing a sore throat and just feeling pretty alone. That said...
I KNOW these are--no, were--- all signs of impending self-sabotage!
The holidays are still tough without my husband, as are the change of seasons and weekends and yadda, yadda, yadda. Spring is coming and that makes me feel, I don't know, mushy somehow - softer, more vulnerable, on edge open to outside stimuli.
In the past I got through all of this wonderful stuff by pushing the feelings back down with food. I'm not doing that anymore and it does get uncomfortable - often. I come here... I talk to friends... I'm keeping a journal - all changes, new responses and things that I need to do instead of ordering take-out whatever. I know right now, in my heart of hearts that I am at a really critical point in my program. I have not stumbled, cheated or swayed off course even once because I know how hard it would be to start again --- and maybe I wouldn't have one more start left in me - then what would I do... hopefully, none of the things that have crossed my mind over the years. I have just crossed the 50 pound mark - fantastic accomplishment - I am actually a little over 1/3 of the way through my weight loss - reason to celebrate!!!! BUT I KNOW ME - the former me if I can get through this... about now is the time self-sabotage kicks in - because if I am not fat and I am not sad and I am not sick -- than who the H-LL am I???
It's a new day and I'm doing this a new way --- but I need to "write" out loud what I know is lurking in the recesses of my mind. I don't feel like I am at risk of going off of my program BUT I know that I need to be on guard every minute. Being sick - old response -I'll feel better if I eat ... feeling sad or lonely - old response - my buddies Ben & Jerry or Mac & Cheese will get me through - thay have always been there for me and in my old way of thinking --they've never let me down by being busy or unavailable. I'm the only one that can give them life - they have no life of their own -- make any sense?
That's about it for now -- except as always, thank you for being here and listening and understanding --- you are all there and you give me life and the vision of a healthier one going forward!!!
WE WILL do this together!!!
