The MakeMeThinner Support Forum

[Jeanette]

Hey Stephanie:

I wanted to start a new thread on this topic. I think the way you have determined your goal weight is a pretty good one.

I chose 180 as my goal weight because I feel it is definitely attainable. I have not been that weight since junior high school, so I really don't have a frame of reference for my mind regarding a size I "used to be."

I still want to keep a soft, curvy figure and not be too thin or too muscular. If, once I reach 180, I feel I should go lower, then I will readjust it. But for now, I want to have something realistic to shoot for.

Give yourself a chance to get to 175, then re-evaluate. The most important things are being in a healthy body and having a good self-image.

Best of luck, Stephanie!

[finalstraw]

Thanks Jeanette,

I did lose the weight down to 150 about 6 years ago, but a warning about weight training. I lost it doing low fat (rice, rice, rice), I realize now, I was probably consuming (get ready everyone) 500 calories a day but no protien. I LOST all muscle, could not even run, my legs were to weak. So I decide to go to the gym, got addicted to it and the way I was looking, I turned into a very muscular thin person gained back to 175 but was all muscle. Loved the looks and comments, but one day did not want to go to the gym, then the next, then they next.

All my muscle weight turned into fat and literally overnight. I had very large leg muscles, they literally jiggled when I walked once I stopped going to the gym. So be careful gaining muscle, once you start building it, you have to maintain it.

Then the same story as everybody else, an extra 5lbs turned into 10lbs, and so on.

I will lose to 175lbs and see how I look then decide, good suggestion Jeanette.

[shineface]

Hi Ladies---

Jeannette it is so good to see you back -- missed your posts!

Stephanie - I'm also struggling with goal setting. At first I set my goal at 180 -which I don't think I've seen since the late '80's!!! Then I decided I was wimping out and went down to 150 -which I haven't seen since the late 70's!!!! As usual it's my own little game of obsessing and perhaps looking for a way to sabotage myself by not keeping things simple.

I like what you both said - goals are a good thing - but nothing to get stressed out about. From here on I think I'll be happy as long as I am staying on my progam, seeing results and feeling good. No matter what goal I post - I know the neighborhood I want to end up in and I will also know when it feels right to begin maintenance.

I love this forum - together -I will do this once and for all!!!

[finalstraw]

Shineface,

Actually, my first goal is 199. I just want to get down under 200lbs. When you are a woman and you have to give any information about yourself that includes weight, just mentioning the 200's will get looks.

So, you and I are starting at about the same weight, lets make our first goal 199, then work at it from there. Anyone else that is currently over 200lbs can join in.

I am going to add that to my signature, my first goal is 199 lbs.

[shineface]

Stephanie -- I like that thought process... I'm already on board with it!!
I just changed my profile to reflect a 1st goal of 199 ...

God, we are all awesome and together we are gonna do it!!!

Thanks girlfriend!

[star85]

Hey Stephanie!
When I posted my goals I put my 1st goal as 200 just because I figured it worked out evenly after losing the first 25 pounds, then it would be 20 lbs., 20 lbs. and 20 lbs. , but what the heck, if you're in, I'm in too! I'll change my 1st goal to 199 too and join the club! I need all the support I can get. I'll be ecstatic just to make it to 199 lbs. To be honest I was 130 lbs. 3 yrs. ago and I was just cleaning out my closet because I always donate to "Good Will." When I held up some of the clothes I wore 3 yrs ago, I honestly could not believe I was that tiny. I couldn't picture myself that small again. It's so weird how when I was that small, I didn't see myself as that small, even though people always told me I was. I swear the shirts I wore then, (which were loose) wouldn't even cover one of my breasts right now if I tried putting one on. Which I did, that's how I know (Hee Hee). It might sound funny, but I am so serious it's scary! By the way I quickly went and delivered all the clothes to "Good Will" because just looking at those clothes got me very upset. I took a recent full body photo of me today since I lost 20 lbs. so far. I wanted to post it on the"Studio Forum", but to be honest with everyone, after looking at the picture, I swear I see NO difference from my 1st "Before" picture when I started. That was a disappointment. I know I am smaller because when I started I wore a tight 16/loose 18 size Lee jeans and last night I bought a pair of size 14 Lee jeans that fit very nice, but I can't tell in the picture! Well thank you for letting me vent. I needed that, and thanks Stephanie for starting the "Under 200 Club!" I will gladly join. Keep in touch. Time for my next shake........ Bye all!!!!!!!!

Kelyn

[finalstraw]

Kelyn

You are almost there, We will all party with you in probably a week.

[star85]

Thank you Stephanie. I realy needed that encouragement right about now. I don't know whether P.M.S. is starting or what, but I have been so hungry and craving food lately. You would think seeing my progress would stop me from cheating, but it never does. I usually cheat around the same time I see myself making good progress, but I don't know why. Maybe sub-consciously I don't think I'll ever be slender again. Who knows. Thanks for being there though. I haven't cheated yet. Even when I'm in ketosis and following the plan to the letter, I still crave delicious real food! I think it might be the same food choices over and over again that bore me.( shake, bars, chili, soup). I know I have to do it for now to lose the weight though, but it's hard. I regret ever letting myself get to this weight. I never understood until now how hard it is to lose weight. My heart goes out to every person that has had to deal with a weight problem throughout their entire life. I can totally empathize with every single one of them. I have never judged anyone by the way they look anyway, but I'm just saying it is not easy to lose weight and you can never tell someone, "just lose the weight". People who say things like that need to walk in that persons shoes for a while first! Well I'm on a rampage again. I better stop now. Thanks again. I better go have another shake! Take care..... Talk to ya soon!

Kelyn

[finalstraw]

Kelyn,

I read everyday where people say it gets easier. I will be on the diet 1 month in a few days and it has not gotten easier for me. Everyday, there is a trigger on the TV or something that really makes me crave and even consider eating it. I struggle everyday by talking to myself and says 'just one more day, just make it through today, tomorrow is another day'. I am on the full fast, but I do every now and then have a meal out with family and friends, I just count my calories and do not eat more than 500. On these occassions, I don't drink all the shakes for the day because I have had enough calories.

Give yourself a goal, like every 5 or 10 pounds, then go out and have a lean & green at a resturant and enjoy yourself. It will really give you something to work towards and keep the diet from being so monotonous. If you don't like restuarants, have something at home that you have been craving, just eat less than 500 calories, then back on the diet until you have met another goal. That is what I do, it really helps.

I suppose I am not as strong as some on the forum.

[star85]

Thanks for the suggestions Stephanie. I'll try them.

Kelyn

[Lois]

Hi sisters!

I read this thread today with interest....thanks for sharing so honestly.

I have such a distorted view of my own body. There were times when I was thin and thought I was fat, times when I was fat and fooled myself into thinking I wasn't all THAT fat, and everything else in between.

I can remember sitting on the beach with my husband a few years back, after I'd lost weight and weighed about 160 (oh, how I wish I weighed that NOW!!) and asking the poor man to point out the women who he thought were about the same size as me!!!!! I have NEVER told anyone about this before

But I was desperate to get some kind of objective picture in my mind of my size....crazy, huh?

Some people (most people?) can just look in a mirror and SEE how large or small they are,,,,not me! I need help! My own self assessment has been so confused for so long that I just can't see myself as I am. But this will change, I hope, once my body reaches a healthy weight and STAYS THERE!!

So....keep on keepin' on, my beautiful sisters....and remember that you are truely lovely TODAY, no matter what you weigh.

hugs,

Lois

[finalstraw]

Lois,

I understand what you are saying, that is why my first goal was 150, but I allowed my husband to pick a weight for me and he picked 175. I do hope to lose past that, but if my hubby likes 175, I will be shoot for that.

Ask your significant other, show him some old pics and go for the weight he pics.

[BonitaGirl]

I tried asking my husband to pick a body of mine he liked the best, and he wouldn't do it. He said, "They are all you...and I love you however you are" Awwwwwwwwwwwwww

I kept trying to get him to answer and he wouldn't...said I had to pick for myself. So right now, I am taking it at 20lb chunks and I will stop when I am comfortable again.

[ErikaEastwood]

Im looking to be at 150 that would put me in a 13/14 and some 12 and ill be happy with that... I chose 135 which would prob put me in a size 9/10 but everyone thinks that would be extremely thin for me since im a tall person but I wanted to give it an extra 15 lbs since weight fluctuates with periods every month and all that stuff..