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[rodeomom]

We always know that clavicles will pull our SoJo out of the lurking and into the light.

Thanks SoJo for the condolances. I was truely blessed to have know Alicia walking in her honor is the least that I can do.

REMEMBER - if anyone wants to sponsor me for the Relay for Life as I walk in memory of my friend. - I can send you the link to the page to make your pledge!

[queenielou]

Hey Bren,

I just wanted to stop in and thank you for the wonderful example you are setting after the loss of your friend. I think a lot of times grief causes us to turn inward but in your efforts to raise awareness and money for cancer, you are showing others alternative ways to deal with difficult times. I'm sorry for your loss. I'm glad you're here.

[rodeomom]

Thank you Queenie for your kind words. Anyone who knew Alicia would have known that she would not have wanted us to cry for her. Sure, we can cry for ourselves knowing that we have been jilted and are no longer able to be in her presence, but not for her. She was a strong and faithful Christian and my peace and comfort comes from knowing that she is in the presence of our Holy Father. If Alicia thought for one minute that I would abandon my "post" here on MMT because of her passing she would reach down and kick my butt. I am dedicated to this site and to the people here who are on this journey with me. She knew that and was proud of me for that.

I made her a quilt last fall. It was all pink and some of the fabric had the Breast Cancer pink ribbons on it. When I gave it to her I told her that ever stitch included a prayer for her healing and for the researchers who are desparately seeking a cure. She loved it. For months she told me that she was going to have me make another one like it so she could buy it and raffle it off at the Relay. We never got that all together, but it doesn't matter because I am still going to make that quilt and I am going to donate it to the ACS to raffle off for funds to find a cure.

Tomorrow's memorial service will be difficult, but I know that I will be surrounded by all the people who loved her and we will celebrate her life together.

[katesmom]

Brenda,
Hello and God Bless You...Stay Strong...I'm sure you will help to celebrate your friends memory in style...

Expecting 6-10 inches os Snow here tonight-UGH !

Rest well..

Wilson

[rodeomom]

Day 5 100% on plan and all is well. I have gotten in all of my water and then some and so far so good on my Medi-Meals. I haven't even had a smidge of peanut butter which everyone should know by now is my weakness.

Tomorrow, after the memorial service, there will be a get-together involving food as usual. I know that there will be veggie plates and lunch meat so I am pretty sure I will be OK. I will have a soup or shake before I go then just have my lean and green early instead of at dinner as usual. Alicia would not want me going off plan on account of her - that was just the kind of gal she was.

[AmazonQueen]

You'll do fine and stay on plan, your a great mentor! And athough its a hard thing to go to keep the happiness in your heart

[rodeomom]

Thanks, AQ, for the vote of confidence. I am beginning to feel better about my journey these days since I am honestly and fully on plan. The last month has been a rough one for me as far as staying on plan. When I am not on plan I feel like such a hippocrate here trying to spur everyone along with support and stuff. I start wondering what right I have to tell people they can do it when I can't even stay compliant. Now that I am through day 5, I am hoping that will be enough to pull me through tomorrow. While I am an emotional eater, I usually don't eat when I am sad or have been crying. I suspect there will be a little of that tomorrow. There will be a few people there that have not seen me since my weight loss - so I am sure that will encourage me to stay OP too.

I hope y'all don't mind the pink lettering - it is one of my ways of honoring Alicia for now.

[AmazonQueen]

At some point we all have a down period, but you have come this far and even when all he** brakes loose you will always have the friends of the forum to keep ya on track. I dont think your a hipocryte (sp) but a trusted advisor. Just look for the pickles on the buffet BTW It's my day 5 too so we can compare notes at roll call... I keep hearing something about a pot of gold at the end of the rainbow for the biggest loser hmmm if week 1 looks good maybe I might get in on it.

[rodeomom]

Yea - you should join our little contest. You can get the information in the "Weight Loss" room under the 100 days challenge thread with the most recent date. It was katesmom's idea and I turned it into a competition.

I am gonna win the money, you know, but you are always welcome join in on the fun!!! It really doesn't matter that you would be getting a late start - most of us had some bumps in the road that put us a little behind.

Let me know if you want more info.

[KellyC]

Just stopping by to let you know I'm sending positive thoughts to you on this difficult day.

[rodeomom]

Just stopping by to let you know I'm sending positive thoughts to you on this difficult day.

Bless you Kelly! I mean that from the bottom of my heart. It was a difficult day, but the service was beautiful. I am completely exhausted now, emotionally and physically. This kind of stuff takes a lot out of a person. I ended up being on my feet way too long so my ankle is screaming at me too. I think I am going to take a long hot bath to soak my ankle then wrap up in a warm blanket on the couch with my buddy, Tucker, (my silkey terrier) and a good Beverly Lewis book.

I got to talk to Alicia's husband and told him that I wanted some of her clothing so that I can make quilts for her two son's out of them. He thought that was a good idea and told me I was welcome to whatever I needed. Those will probably be difficult quilts to make, but I am up to the challenge to give something to her boys.

[AmazonQueen]

That is such a sweet idea. I wish I could sew but I'm a speed demon on the machine. I do a great cross stitch though. I'm glad you've made it through the hardest part and can start the heart healing process.

[rodeomom]

I didn't quilt until recently, but I have been sewing clothing for a long time. Once I taught myself how to quilt I was instantly addicted. Being able to cut up fabric into little pieces then put them together in a pattern is just sooo cool to me.

I had a quilt made out of my daughter's baby clothes years ago and it is so cool to be able to get it out and remember those outfits. I just thought Alicia's sons might like being able to wrap up in a quilt made from their mom's clothing. It would be kinda like she was hugging them.

[Janae]

What a comforting idea! They will love them.

Janae

[aquarianskye]

You really are amazing Brenda. Even in such rough times you find incredible ways to touch people. I feel blessed to be your friend.