The MakeMeThinner Support Forum

[Patty]

Brenda - Sending big to you!

[rodeomom]

thanks for reminding me to count my blessings too!

No problem! I honestly think that starting the day with an accounting of my blessings will put me in the right frame of mind to be good to myself and others. I plan to try to make myself stop and think before I allow myself to give into negative feelings. Granted, that will take some time since I am a "shoot to kill and ask questions later" kind of person, but I intend to try.

I was going through some old journals from a very dark period in my life this evening and found some very profound messages that I wrote to myself back then. While in therapy a few years ago, I learned something that made a huge impact on me. I kept saying that so & so made me mad or so & so did something to make me happy and so forth. My counselor helped me realize that nobody has power over my emotions but me - NOBODY. People will do and say all sorts of things to and around me, but I have the power to choose how I react to those things. I intend to treat my cravings in the same manner. I may not have any control over what my body tells me I want to eat, but I do have control over how I react to that craving.

Jayzoe, I am glad that my journaling helped you see your blessings. If you ever need someone to remind you feel free to PM or email me.

[rodeomom]

Brenda - Sending big to you!

Awww, how sweet of you! Just when I needed one too. Usually, when my daughter goes to bed she "allows" me to give her a kiss on the cheek. Last night I was feeling so crummy that I asked her for a big hug. I know she thought I was going nuts or something, but she wrapped her arms around me and squeezed. I needed that!!

She and I have been sharing secrets lately. She will ask me about my life when I was her age and she is sharing things with me that she once thought she couldn't tell me. Not long ago, she remembered that I told her that her dad and I were using 3 different types of contraceptives the night I got pregnant with her (2 weeks later her father was killed by a drunk driver). Her reaction was to think "Man, you really didn't want me did you?" We were discussing that and she wondered how I could tell her in one sentance that I don't want to see her make the same mistakes that I made (pre-marital sex et al) then in the next sentance tell her that she was not a mistake. I answered "How can you call being conceived through 3 kinds of birth control a mistake? God wanted your father and I to conceive you and no amount of birth control was going to get in the way." We laughed and it felt good. Having a teenage daughter these days is tough and I never know if I am doing the right thing or not, but I am greatful for conversations like that one.

Wow, I don't know where that all came from, but it is out now. No point in getting rid of it. Maybe there is someone out there that needs to see it.

Blessings all and good night.

[katieb920]

Having a teenage daughter these days is tough and I never know if I am doing the right thing or not, but I am greatful for conversations like that one.

Wow, I don't know where that all came from, but it is out now. No point in getting rid of it. Maybe there is someone out there that needs to see it.

Blessings all and good night.

Brenda, You absolutely did the right thing, talking to your daughter. I only wished my mother and I were able to talk like that when I was a teenager. I was frightned to see what my mother would say, so I kept it all bottled up. Until one day when I was a Little older (23) we had our first heart to heart talk. It was the best thing ever. That day I learned my mother wanted to talk to me to, but she was so nervous that I would just ignore her and distance myself from her. (See I was kind of a rebel did everything a teenager was not suppose to do) (well the one thing I did not do was drink or do drugs) That was the first day that I realized mothers are going to be mothers (the protector) but I also realized she was my best friend.

I am so happy that you and your daughter have a special bond. Yeah she is a teenager, but she is your daughter first. And from what I can see you are a great mother.

Katie

[aquarianskye]

Hey! I have to chime in here on the whole 'mistake' thing. I saw the best thing on Roseanne years and years ago when she said something along the lines of (I'm paraphrasing here) "a mistake is something you would change if you could. A surprise is something that you didn't know you wanted until you got it"

I tell all my kids that they were surprises. No planned babies here but I wouldn't give them back even on our worse days!

I'm so glad that you and Deanna are sharing such wonderful times.

[rodeomom]

Don't we all wish children came with instruction books? I am not talking the Dr Spock kind either, I want one for my specific age, make and model ya know?

Thanks for chiming in guys. Being a mom to a 16 almost 17 year old is tough and I never know if I am doing the right thing or not. Your feedback makes me feel a little more secure.

Doctor's appt when well. I got the stitches taken out and a hard cast put on. Now I don't feel like I have to be quite as "protective" of that foot like I was with the splint and ace bandage. Next appt is on Jan 31 when he will take the cast off, x-ray and decide if it stays off or has to go back on for more healing.

[bikipatra]

Glad your appointment went well. I go back in on the 17th for my check up but then later that day have a root canal with a different dentist. When it rains, it pours!

[rodeomom]

I sure hope you are taking care of yourself, Biki. Your body is going through heck right now and you need to make sure you don't over do it!

Now, if I could only take my own advice. I was so happy to get out yesterday that I stopped at my favorite fabric store then went to the mall for some AE sweats for Deanna. We have a store called Goodies in our mall that is in a transition period looking for a different space. Everything in the store is on sale and the clearance stuff is 60% off of the lowest clearance price. I got some summer clothes all in sizes that are too small for me right now and a couple of "warm-up" suits (you know the kind with the matching pants and wind breaker type jackets). The suits were regularly $70 and I got them for $4.00 each not bad. Most of my jeans won't go over my cast so I have had to resort to "comfy" pants like sweats, flannel jammies and warm up suit pants. Anyway, I am ready for summer and a slimmer me when it gets here. By then I hope to be able to send all of last year's summer stuff to Becki - though at the rate she is going she just might catch up or even pass me up.

ANYWAY - what I was getting at is that I spent too much time "upright" yesterday and paid for it today. For example, I took a pain pill dose when I woke up yesterday and didn't need another until about 5pm. Today, I have been back on the every 4 hour schedual. Oh well, it was worth it to be out and about.

[siglamb962]

Brenda - Sending big to you!

Awww, how sweet of you! Just when I needed one too. Usually, when my daughter goes to bed she "allows" me to give her a kiss on the cheek. Last night I was feeling so crummy that I asked her for a big hug. I know she thought I was going nuts or something, but she wrapped her arms around me and squeezed. I needed that!!

She and I have been sharing secrets lately. She will ask me about my life when I was her age and she is sharing things with me that she once thought she couldn't tell me. Not long ago, she remembered that I told her that her dad and I were using 3 different types of contraceptives the night I got pregnant with her (2 weeks later her father was killed by a drunk driver). Her reaction was to think "Man, you really didn't want me did you?" We were discussing that and she wondered how I could tell her in one sentance that I don't want to see her make the same mistakes that I made (pre-marital sex et al) then in the next sentance tell her that she was not a mistake. I answered "How can you call being conceived through 3 kinds of birth control a mistake? God wanted your father and I to conceive you and no amount of birth control was going to get in the way." We laughed and it felt good. Having a teenage daughter these days is tough and I never know if I am doing the right thing or not, but I am greatful for conversations like that one.

Wow, I don't know where that all came from, but it is out now. No point in getting rid of it. Maybe there is someone out there that needs to see it.

Blessings all and good night.

I have a baby that was conceived 6 weeks after my wedding, on two kinds of birth control after being told I would never have kids! We are so lucky, aren't we?

I think God gave her to you because he had to take her father from you.

You are so strong and wonderful!!!!!!!!!! I bet your daughter is amazing too.

[siglamb962]

Don't we all wish children came with instruction books? I am not talking the Dr Spock kind either, I want one for my specific age, make and model ya know?

Thanks for chiming in guys. Being a mom to a 16 almost 17 year old is tough and I never know if I am doing the right thing or not. Your feedback makes me feel a little more secure.

Doctor's appt when well. I got the stitches taken out and a hard cast put on. Now I don't feel like I have to be quite as "protective" of that foot like I was with the splint and ace bandage. Next appt is on Jan 31 when he will take the cast off, x-ray and decide if it stays off or has to go back on for more healing.

Awesome!!!! I know you'll be back to yourself in no time. Running around causing trouble soon, I bet.

[rodeomom]

ME? Cause trouble? NEVER!!! hee hee!

As usual, I did too much on a good day (yesterday) and I am paying for it today with some pain. Oh well, I suppose I will never learn eh?

I would like to ask for prayers for a dear friend of mine. Her name is Alicia and she is battling stage 4, metastatic, non-operable breast cancer. She had been in remission was a total miracle last summer, but they found more spots in her liver and her blood markers are up. The last time she was in Chicago at the Cancer Treatment Centers of America she was told that they have run out of options other then experimental treatments. Now she is in the hospital with penuamonia (sp?). She is very sick and I am very worried. She is young, only in her late 30's early 40's. Anyone who is a believer that would add her to your prayers would be a blessing. Thanks

[siglamb962]

Absolutely! I will pray for a slow progression and lots of time left with little pain.

[rodeomom]

Thank you Becki! I know she is very sick and has been fighting this for a long time. The chemo is causing severe burns on her feet and now with the fluid in her lungs, I am truly worried for her, but we serve a might God that does answer the prayers of His people.

[rodeomom]

I have been so pre-occupied with my friend's stuggle that I havn't posted anything about my journey recently. I still haven't weighed myself since before my surgery - that day at the hospital I was 240.5 fully clothed which is right at what my ticker reveals. Since I was off plan for the surgery and everything I was not really too motivated to get on a scale. The other day, though I put on a pair of pants that had been snug in the thighs the last time I wore them (pre-surgery) and low and behold they are actually baggy in the thigh now. I am wondering how that happened since I was WAY off plan and not even trying for at least 3 weeks. Not that I am complaining though. My scale at home is not very reliable so I am not going to weigh on it right now. Besides, I know my cast has to weigh a good 5-10 pounds right? Maybe I will stop by my physical therapist's office next time I am by there and weigh on that scale. That is the one that I set a mini goal with. I was wanting to get to the point where I didn't have to move the bottom weight to the 250 mark. I know that scale weighs me heavier than any other, but I like that visible goal anyway.

I have been able to stay on plan even through this stressful time with my friend. In fact, today, I have noticed that I am not even feeling any hunger or cravings. Since my restart on the second, the cravings have been a bear to deal with and the hunger pangs have been more irritating than the first time around. I don't know if I am just too stressed or if I am finally in full ketosis. Whatever it is I am greatful for it.

[ChynnaDoll]

Just checkin' in on'ya my friend:+)
It saddens me so much to hear about your dear struggle of your dear friend, and the saddness i feel coming from as well shows just how MUCH you truely love her..thank God she has YOU by your side helping her through this difficult time.. that is what a TRUE friend would do...what a blessing you are. Both of you are in my prayers Bren.

Hey!..CONGRAT'S on those pants feeling more roomier..don't it feel good when that happens?:+)))

Ok..ttyl!

Chynna