The MakeMeThinner Support Forum

[StrivingSister]

Okay.

People are starting to notice ! At least four people have commented that I look like I have lost a dramatic amount weight - and not just in the face, either! With only 11 pounds? And, to make the shock even more striking, I am a Muslim woman, so when I go out, I am covered from top to bottom in a loose-fitting garment/ dress (called hijab)...so for the 2 out 4 four people who didn't see me out of hijab to say that look like I have lost sooo much - wow .

While I am soooo happy that I am losing weight, people are talking to me like I was/am so huge! There was even a neck-rolls reference! I see myself, and yes, I've got some "junk-in-the-trunk" (so to speak) but I didn't realize that people saw me as so big!

Are MY eyes deceiving me or is it THEM? I mean, I know the most important thing is what I think of my own self...but could I be in denial or something?

Thoughts?

[DogMa]

I started out just a few pounds less than you did, and I'm 4 inches shorter!! So no, I don't think you could have been all that big. I'm sure it's just people not phrasing it well but just trying to say you look better.

[Pashta]

No I don't think you were/are that big, but 11 pounds is a lot to lose. It makes a big difference in your face for most people, so that is probably what it is. It's a compliment though, so don't worry, be happy!! Congratulations on losing 11 WHOLE POUNDS ALREADY!!

[Lizabette]

HI SISTER,

Well, I'm sure people are trying to be complimentary. I started out at 195, near your weight, and our goals are 135. But I am only 5'1". People are often amazed when someone begins to change before their eyes.

I am thinking that a lot of people who haven't seen me for some time will not know what to say when they see me at or near my goal. It will be fun to see what they say...and you know, they will say something!

The most important thing is how we feel about ourselves...and I am beginning to feel very good about myself, aren't you?

Lizabette

[dede4wd]

I agree with Lizabette, I think they're trying to be supportive but choosing the words wrong, they want you to know they noticed, and want to inspire you to continue.

I've been told the same thing since someone saw me with a RTD on my 3rd day!!! It's just people cheering you on in their own way.

It's all about how YOU feel about how you look and yourself in general! Although, 11lbs gone forever ain't nothing to sneeze at!

Way to go!

DeDe

[DogMa]

I saw someone a month or so ago who I hadn't seen in a long time. I'd lost about 30 pounds since the last time I saw her (almost 50 total), and all she could say was my haircut was very flattering! Either she couldn't quite figure out the difference or she was uncomfortable saying something about my weight (I'm guessing the latter).

I'm guessing some people are reluctant to comment on weight loss for just this reason; they don't want it to sound like they thought you were huge to start with.

[Loribug]

Hey Dogma, I'm with you, kind of like asking a woman when is she due?

Where is that foot in mouth emoticon?

[Diana]

It is amazing what stumbles out of people's mouths when they think they're being supportive!!! Just like the rest of the advice -- try to glean the compliment and disgard the rest.

On the other hand, my husband took my "before" pictures and all I could say was :shock: H O L Y C O W !!!! (Note the 300+ starting weight.) I'm still a size 12 in my head. What happened??!!??

I think, too, that size impacts other people's perceptions of who we are and when we start changing, their perceptions are challenged and have to adjust. And, honestly, how many women out there WANT what we're accomplishing?? just some humble ramblings

Go get 'em, Sister!!
Diana