The MakeMeThinner Support Forum

[Allie]

My mom is going through a rough breakup with her boyfriend, and having a tough time with my 16yo brother. Yesterday, my aunt and I took her out. we got pedicures and massages, and eventually ended up at the beach.

There was a woman that was jogging slowly down the beach, who was probably about 20lbs "overweight". My aunt turns to my mom and says "Bob may not love you, but at least you don't have to deal with that" and pointed at the jogger.

I wanted to punch her

What was she thinking? I'm sitting there and Im 60lbs from my goal, and I'm sure that my mom didn't appreciate the part about "He may not love you".

Allie

[Jen]

When I hear stuff like that, I just look at the speaker and simply say "wow, how incredibly thoughtless".

[Blessedmommieof3]

OMGosh!! I sit here with my jaw dropped, resting on the desk!!

I like Jen's reply... I need to keep that one in mind. I've had several times that would've been a good reply.

[Sojourner]

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That is SO not cool.
Are we related?--because that is exactly the sort of thing my mother would say, except that she'd say it in Spanish if the person was not Latino. As if only Latinos speak Spanish. Hello? We live in California! What's great is that she's been busted a couple of times by people who do speak Spanish, and then she totally back-pedals and tries to act as if they misunderstood or something. I dunno. Some people never learn I guess. They are working on some horrible karma, eh?

[Aerie]

Aren't families great? You can always count on them to knock you right off you freakin' horse. I can sympathize I have an aunt from hell. She's probably 150-200# overweight and as mean and hateful as a wet cat. Has been all her life. When I was just a little tiny girl she said to me "You're going to look just like me when you grow up."
So......For the last 20 years I've secretely been calling her Jabba the Hut.

[ascicles]

I think it's kind of funny! I would have laughed.

[Elke]

When people around me are that stupid, I usually say..."thats me best friend, or mom or sister or whatever I make up at the time. Then the rude people are like oh sorry. Then I tell them that they are not related but you never know and rude people need to keep it to them selves.

[Jan]

Hmmmm,
May I help out "your aunt" for a moment?? I'm afraid I too have been right in your aunt's shoes. I haven't said that .. but I'm afraid I have had one or two things pop right out.. mostly with my grown children. Ohhhh, they let me know right away I'm assuming your mom and aunt have a long time "relationship" and most likely know each other quite well. That's exactly when we are most likely to "say something". I of course don't know your aunt at all.. so I don't know if this is her MO but I'm guessing she was just trying to make your mom feel better. Her words were somewhat strange to say the least but maybe if we look at her motivation. I don't think she was trying to hurt you or your mom... she just picked a doooozie of a thing to say. Look at it in the long run.. if this is not her usual MO.. then I wouldn't hold it against her. I probably would have replied "what??? that's supposed to make me feel better??" I don't think her intention was to hurt you either... just a very very unfortunate choice of words to try to help.
jan