The MakeMeThinner Support Forum

[katesmom]

Hi Oksoonergirl26-Happy Friday !!

I would like to know about the running and walking too, like Katie, I do not want to be on a roll of losing and then have everything halt !
Maybe it is wise until I have lost at least 30 lbs???

Please advise !!

Pam

(Men can be jerks !! )

[Susie Q]

Hope you're having a great weekend and are recovering from the Dentist! I put off going too! I'd much rather go to the GYN

[lifelovinaries]

wow, i am so proud of you for running the half marathon and by yourself no less! WTG I need to be able to motivate myself to start an exercise regimen. That doesn't seem to be in the cards right now but i know it's coming. I am mentally accepting what it takes to stay OP and will soon be moving towards adding in small amounts of exercise because i KNOW it is absolutely necessary to be completely healthy. Reading your posts and those of other "exercisers" helps to motivate me to move towards that goal!

[Joy]

Sending you wishes for a happy week!
joy

[katieb920]

HELLO HELLO HELLO, anyone there. We miss you

[oksoonergirl26]

Hey girls (and guy)-been having a really rough go of things lately. Not been on plan, did really good until Friday night and then everything fell apart. My husband and I are still really struggling with our issues and I know we will get through it, but it is wreaking havoc on my emotions and thus my appetite (throw TOM in there too, which just makes everything worse). The scale isn't up, but it isn't down. I was 153 on Thursday, but I am not getting on there because I think it is probably up. Between my personal and continuing professional issues I don't feel like I can give anybody advice on anything right now. I have only exercised once since we got back from the half marathon. I had planned to work out today, but because of my stupidity with food going to the gym and not being near a bathroom was NOT an option-so tomorrow is another day. I am so inspired by reading about everyone's wonderful progress and on-plan behavior. I will get back there-I can't let these things derail me. Thanks for checking in with me guys.

Kara

[katesmom]

Hi !
We are all here for you ! There are bumps in the road of life, it is how we navigate them that is important. You are just creeping over the bump and I can feel you almost over the top ! Bumps exist for ALL of us..Please be kind to yourself, take one moment at a time and believe that you can do anything...

Pam

[Joy]

I really value your honesty and ability you have to share on the forum. I think getting to the point where we can take care of our needs and intergrate the rest of our lives is huge task, and sometimes it takes more than a few attempts.

best regards,
joy

[lifelovinaries]

i can empathize with the emotional issues. Even now, i have not gained complete control over emotional eating. Sometimes i eat due to emotional stresses and sometimes i don't eat at all. It really varies and is difficult to fight through to find the balance. Everything takes time and it will get straightened out. I have to tell myself that there are so many things in my life that i cannot control but i CAN control what i put into my mouth. Granted, at times when saying this to myself, i tell myself to SHUT UP and i make the wrong choice but in making the wrong choice at that time, i am given the chance to make a better choice for the next meal. Just remember, you have our FULL support, regardless

[katesmom]

Good Morning OKsoonergirl...
Today is going to be a great day....I can feel it and I hope that you are hanging in there.
I just read T's message in her journal, pretty powerful wasn't it?
I hope you can stop by and let us know that you're okay.

We miss you !

Pam

[oksoonergirl26]

I read T's post and it made me feel really bad, because I just cannot seem to reel it in. I did better this weekend than I have in a long time. I had an off-plan meal, versus three whole days of off plan behavior. Thankfully, tomorrow we don't have any Super Bowl parties to worry about. As far as my relationship issues, I broke down and called a counselor who actually couldn't get me in until the 18th, but I am going to go through with it. I exercised a total of 6 hours this week, but no running. I wanted to run today, but it was only about 40 degrees and cloudy. I am just grateful that we don't have the horrible weather that the East Coast is getting. I am down to 151 this morning, so I have made some progress. My boss has started the plan through her doctor TSFL, so I am helping her out with support, advice and encouragement. It makes me feel useful-something I don't always feel. One of my main problems lately with my husband is that I don't feel like he needs me; that he would rather be around our running/boot camp coach and it hurts my feelings. I am such a jealous person for many many reasons and even though my husband has never ever done anything to cause me not to trust him, I just don't trust that he won't leave me for something younger, thinner, and cuter. I have to get over these issues and not eat myself back to 228 pounds in the process. While we were training for this half-marathon I isolated myself from nonrunning, non healthy minded friends and now I am lonely. My husband wants to do the four hours of boot camp a week and I know I need to do it, but I don't want to. The only reason I do is because of the need and I want to be around him. Sounds pathetic I know. I have to get my friends back so I am not so needy on him. We were actually in a healthier emotional place before we started losing weight. I just need for it all to get on the same page, but I don't know if it is possible. One thing that amazes me about all of this is how aware am I of how bad food is. I honestly use to think nothing of eating an entire pizza by myself or downing an entire box of cereal, drinking a gallon of sweet tea (with two cups of sugar), or other really bad things. Now, my indulgence is one or two pieces of thin crust, light on the cheese pizza, a single bowl of cereal, and unsweetened or Splenda in my tea. When I do indulge I know that I have to exercise it off or it will show up on the scale. It is all about choices.

[DogMa]

I'm so sorry. But you're in McKinney!! I count as a running, healthy-minded person. I'm going to PM you my number. I'll be your friend. Right now you're both going through a lot of changes, so it's not surprising that your relationship is going through something of a rocky patch. But you can get through it, and the counseling is a good start. Is he going, too, or just you for now? Would he be open to going later on, if the counselor thinks it's a good idea?

[lifelovinaries]

I have to get over these issues and not eat myself back to 228 pounds in the process.

Eating yourself back to 228 would only make you feel insecure. Erase that from your mind as a possibility. Emotions can sometimes consume us and at those times, a mf supplement just doesn't look as appetizing as some other choices we can find around the house. Been there...

The only reason I do is because of the need and I want to be around him. Sounds pathetic I know.

Actually, IMO it, doesn't sound pathetic. It sounds like you are sacrificing your wants to do what you think you have to do to aid in repairing your relationship and no one else should judge what is right for YOU! Right now, i guess you do have the need and want to be around him, things are a little rocky and those feelings are natural. Don't beat yourself up about feeling like that. Try to look at the positive side of things, in doing it for now, it can benefit you physically too.

One thing that amazes me about all of this is how aware am I of how bad food is. I honestly use to think nothing of eating an entire pizza by myself or downing an entire box of cereal, drinking a gallon of sweet tea (with two cups of sugar), or other really bad things. Now, my indulgence is one or two pieces of thin crust, light on the cheese pizza, a single bowl of cereal, and unsweetened or Splenda in my tea. When I do indulge I know that I have to exercise it off or it will show up on the scale. It is all about choices.

Realizing that you have become aware of food choices is a HUGE step in the battle. Thus far it has allowed you to make better choices and lose a bunch of weight. Stick to that, new adjustments always take time...especially those in dealing with our physical selves. Although weightloss can make us feel more secure and self confident, it can also make us feel insecure in ways we NEVER dreamed of. We all know about mf cheats and restarting and everything else that goes along with it. One meal at a time...one meal at a time. Focus on the positive, keep your head up, keep shakin and work on the healthiest you that you can be! And remember, we are ALWAYS here to lend a listening computer screen and support in your LIFE!

[Joy]

I have a simple wish for you to have a nice day and more than one reason to smile!

regards,
joy

[oksoonergirl26]

Just a quick check-in. Had a totally off-plan, but healthy day. Running a 5K on Sunday. Hope all my East Coast buddies aren't snowed under, keeping warm and safe!