The MakeMeThinner Support Forum

[smartipantz]

Hi Nickie,

The first week is the most difficult and you need to stay focus on what you want more. Get through that week and the symptoms and it becomes easier and easier with each week. After a few weeks, you will be noticing some MAJOR changes in the way your clothes fit and how you feel. I'm telling you, those feelings are soooo much better than a thoughtless cheat and it lasts a heck of a lot longer. Then the compliments come. I know you want to lose your weight but you need to come to grips with your triggers and learn to control them.... otherwise you are just wasting your money and getting frustrated.

I lost 67 pounds the first time around. I didn't change my eating habits and gain alot of it back. I came back to Medifast because it's the only program that really works for me. I don't feel deprived, I feel good, I don't have to plan and I lose faster than any other program I have been on. It was a no-brainer for me.

Use the forum to spill out your frustrations. This support board was so important to me. Unfortunately it's not as busy as it used to be which is sad. But we are here to help. Hang in there - you can do it (if you want to do it).

Hugs,

Smarti

[DogMa]

Nickie, quit it!! Why are you thinking about maintenance, and how you're going to eat for the rest of your life??? For heaven's sake, girl, get through a day - and a week, and a month - before thinking that far ahead!!

Sorry. But c'mon. Three hours at a time, right? No need to think about what you can or can't eat a year from now, or five years from now.

[nickieluv]

Thanks Smarti and Robin. I am trying hard today! And it seems like even when I say I won't plan ahead, I can't help but think about it.

I just am starting to wonder if it's healthy for me to say 'you can have that at goal' or not. That was all my maintenance thing was about. Sometimes I try to make it through by saying that I can have this or that later on. But maybe I really can't.

For sure, though, I can't have it NOW, so I guess I'll just keep saying 'not now' and worry about later, later.

So today I'm trying to have a good day 1 and we are invited to a spur of the moment family birthday party. Seriously? I'm finally in a place where I feel ready to stick to my guns (hard though it is!) and I get invited for pizza and cake? So I am not there, but my husband and my older daughter went. And the second the door closed behind them I was at the fridge, looking around. Thank heavens I had pre-mixed shakes in there - I ended up grabbing one of them. It was time to eat again anyway - my every-two-hours schedule has been every-three-hours so far today. But it's all been MF. After church I did have my bar and a shake at the same time - even though that's not what I was 'supposed' to do (I should have had one or the other and then waited at least an hour to eat again) - it was better than so many other things. I may end up right on track today, or I might have extra supplements (I keep saying that, because I have to keep it in the front of my mind that it's OK to do that if I have to).

I have a baby here that won't sleep - she dozes for a bit and then wakes up crying again. It seems too soon for her to be teething but it certainly seems like that's what it is. Anyway, that's stressing me out. I love her and I love to hold her but sometimes you need your arms free, you know?

I'm thinking it's a really good thing I don't have any of those new bars. On a day like today I could eat a whole box I bet. I have them on my order for next month, but by then I should be in a better place and able to get through a day on only the food I'm supposed to have.

I don't remember a day 1 this hard. Usually it's day 2 that does me in. But it's always at least a week before I'm really feeling invincible. This is worth it. Temporary pain for terrific gain.

OK, I'll probably be back a few more times today - so far every time I log on, someone else has posted their amazing results - maybe next time I can browse the studio pics. Until then - off I go.

[SuzyQ66]

Nickie - come here as often as you need too. You need to get through today with total compliance. I know it's hard but you can do this. I went through week 1 just a few weeks ago and I remember it being very hard. Harder than the first time around. I just kept myself busy. I cleaned and cleaned, and when I thought I cleaned enough, I did more cleaning. I remember washing walls, washing windows. I even moved out my washer and dryer and cleaned underneath and behind those things. Keep yourself busy. When you do that, all of sudden, 2-3 hours have gone by and it's time for another supplement. Then you keep busy again for a couple more hours. Nickie - you just need to do this for week 1. I am ending week 3 today and those cravings have all left. Ask yourself....is eating whatever you are craving right now, more important than losing weight. I am sure losing weight is more important otherwise you would not be here.

[DogMa]

I used to do that, too, Suzy. Anything to distract myself, and I'm so OCD that once I DID get focused on cleaning something, I'd go on a tear and get totally obsessed and eventually forget the hunger (emotional or physical) for a while.

Hang in there, Nickie. I'd say just tell yourself you're not having that stuff for now. When it comes to maintenance, you can decide whether you can handle having stuff once in a while or not. Heck, some of that stuff you might not even WANT. But it's not a choice you have to make now.

[nickieluv]

Well, if I let myself think too long about food, I get head hunger, so I will try to just pretend food does not exist any more - at least not anything that isn't lean or green.

It is just crazy how much eating is tied into other stuff for me. It keeps boredom at bay, helps me ease feelings of almost every kind, keeps me company, keeps me from thinking about things I might not want to acknowledge at that moment, usually something I'm supposed to be doing but don't want to do.

So I'm saying I made it today but I don't know if that's true - I did a 4&2. I really only wanted extra meat but I had the veggies too so I could call it something real, instead of 5&1&meat. But I guess it was probably, more accurately, 4&double-1, since I had the two L&G practically at the same time. I know there's issues surrounding that because of too many carbs at one time or something like that. I feel some guilt about it because it wasn't extra supplements, but extra real food. Tomorrow my goal is 5&1 as it will be every day. For now I am just happy to say that I didn't have any pizza or cake or candy etc.

So it's off to bed early tonight - not quite yet, but probably by 8 or 9 - and then another day begins tomorrow. I did not exercise today - because of the unexpected party hubster was gone and I had the baby alone, and she wanted to be held, so I was stuck. Plus I forgot that I had intended to exercise in the first place. One day at a time.

[nickieluv]

So I don't care that I didn't exercise yesterday and I don't care that I was 4&2. I've decided that it was a step in the right direction and therefore a good day.

I was down almost 3 pounds this morning - I had no expectations of anything like that, and was even prepared to be up from yesterday's weight. So that was a nice surprise. I know the scale can't be the only thing to keep you going, but it does help as I'm coming into a tough day 2 (probably it will be tough, it usually is) and when I feel tempted I can just remind myself that if I stay true to the plan, I will lose. Not 3 pounds a day, although that would be awesome - but can you imagine what my skin would look like if I lost 90 pounds in a month? Eeeeeww!!! There is something to be said for taking it slow.

So the girls have to go to the doctor today - we're leaving in just a few minutes so I can run some errands on the way. I was late with my first shake because I had to get us all up and dressed, so it was probably 90 minutes into the day before I had it. Still planning on eating every 2 hours - that didn't happen yesterday and maybe that was why I wanted so much food at L&G time. I'm going to pack a bar in the diaper bag and we should be home in plenty of time for the 3rd meal of the day at 1.

I am nervous but also excited because I finally feel like I've gotten serious about this. I even told my SIL yesterday that for Thanksgiving we would bring a plain green vegetable so that between that and the turkey I could have a L&G (I hear Robin screaming at me not to think so far ahead! ). I just feel I need to plan and visualize how I'm going to handle myself that day, because there will be SO much temptation and not going there is not an option. My usual course of action is to 'take a break,' but that has been disastrous in the past. That will be a day I just take it one choice at a time, because once I get home the temptation will be totally gone. And the next day when I'm not suffering from carb hangover and water retention, I'll be one day stronger and one day closer to goal.

Enough future-tripping, then. I feel good about getting through the holidays without veering off course. Just take it one gathering, one choice at a time. No food is worth going through this week 1 of hell again. Ugh!

[DogMa]

Ha. Nah, with Thanksgiving so close, I'm not gonna yell about planning for THAT. And that's what I used to do, too. Bring a nice green veggie or salad or whatever, and then have some turkey. And bring along a pudding or cocoa or something for dessert, since we're usually still sitting around a couple of hours later.

Good job yesterday AND good job in not freaking out about having a bigger L&G and deciding you screwed up and might as well give up for the day.

[katieb920]

Great Job Nicks.......

I hear you about planning..... I have already decided that under no circumstance will I have any part of the Meal.. IF I am in the medi goove by that time I am not going to disrupt it. I am going for a 6/0

Have a great day.

[SuzyQ66]

Good job yesterday Nickie!! You are on the right track. Keep up the good work....1/2 through Day 2.

I had company for dinner Saturday night. We made steak, potatoes, mushrooms, asparagus and rolls. I just had my small filet, had 1/2 c muchrooms and made myself a salad. I was not upset at all that I couldn't have the potatoes or rolls....and those can be my favorite part of a meal.

I am sure I will do something similar when it comes to Thanksgiving. Just bring my salad and eat the turkey. That does sound good...LOL!!

[SuzyQ66]

Nickie - Here is an article about what having the wrong mind set can do. Granted the article focuses on exercise (it does mention weight loss) but I think you can apply it losing weight. I hope it helps.....

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/27598392/

[SuzyQ66]

Hey Nickie - how did yesterday turn out for you and how is today going??

[nickieluv]

Well I am all set for Thanksgiving. And I'm trying very hard to get through that holiday before contemplating Christmas. Mostly I'm psyched about Disney so that's taking up a lot of my thoughts - helping in the food department, too, since I have 95 days to go before we leave and I don't want to weigh this much by then!

Today is going OK. I can't say I'm in the zone yet, because I still feel some hunger, but yesterday I was all set to have a 4&2 again but when dinnertime came, I actually didn't want to eat past my 1 serving. That was nice, since on day 1 I thought I could eat a whole cow. So yesterday was 5&1 (although I did have a bar and cocoa at the end of the day so I could go to bed early, and that made two bars for the day - progress, not perfection).

I'm off for now!

[DogMa]

Good job, Nicks. I think you really ARE making progress this time. It's really NOT about being perfect! Yay, you!

[SuzyQ66]

Hooray Nickie...you are on the road to success!!