The way I look at it: If I am not attracted to myself, how can I expect others to be? I AM NOT happy being overweight. Some people are, and more power to em! I do not think I am attractive physically the way that I am. Does that mean I think I am not a good person or worth knowing? NO. I know who I am on the inside and although I can always improve on that part, I am okay with the inside. I do not like what is on the outside. I have some magor work to do... I have good personal hygiene etc., and I am not an albatross for heaven sakes. However, I totally understand that if I was single, guys wouldn't be beating down my door. To be honest, would I be persuing a man that was morbidly obese? Not too sure. Even if he was a great guy, there has to be some physical attraction. Although this might sound vain, I am not attracted to overweight men. I could be a good friend etc., but I can't help it if I don't desire that type of man. I get blasted when I tell other women this because they usually think I am saying that it's ok to discriminate against overweight people. That is not what I am saying. There is a difference between respect and attraction. I expect respect, but I do not expect a man to be a attracted to me when I know deep down I wouldn't be attracted to a morbidly obese man. Which brings me to my point: It's okay to loose for love if you are trying to loose it to love yourself more!
What you look like on the outside isn't always a reflection of who you are on the inside; however, how you take care of yourself physically has a lot to do with who you are on the INSIDE. Make sense?
Luvs