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[purplepansy]

I went to the doctor yesterday and my blood pressure was sky high. 155/101. He put me on bp meds. I don't wantt to take them, but I guess I have to. I know that high bp runs in my family and my mother had a stroke this past July , so I guess it is in my destiny. Although I'm sure this extra weight doesn't help.
My daughters boy friend of two years broke up with her last weekend and she is crushed. I know eventually she will get over it, but I am very worried about her, the little b*stard sent a break up email out of the blue and she hasn't talked to him verbally. He shut off all communication and his parents are also screening her calls. She feels betrayed not only by him, but his parents. I have been on a emotional roller coaster with her all week, she is in college and she came home, crying. She packed up everything that was in her room related to him and put it in our cellar. She hasn't eaten and lost 9 pounds this week. I'm so worried. She refuses to talk to someone. I'm not angry at him for breaking up as they were very serious and he has a right to change his heart. I'm angry at the way he did this and i'm more angry at his parents for not excepting her calls, I would never have done that to him, he has become part of our family, spending weeks at our home. We grew fond of him....thanx for letting me vent... wheeeww I feel better

[Kauket]

Ugh how frustrating. My kids aren't old enough to start dating yet, but I have many many fears about it. When someone hurts your kid's feelings you just want to butt in and break all the other kids' fingers.

Maybe you could have a bonfire with her and help her burn some of the old stuff. (Be sure to put some of it back with or without her knowledge because eventually she'll miss some of it) It's sort of juvinile, but when your heart has been trampled, it might help her get some aggression out.

[raederle]

What a crappy week!!! I feel terrible for your daughter-- I guess we've all been there at some point in our lives, but that doesn't make it any easier to swallow when it happens to someone you love. I can totally understand your anger at his parents, but I suppose they're doing what they think they need to in order to protect their son; it might not be the best way to handle it, but I'm sure they think it's best... Ahhh, crazy parents of crazy kids falling out of love... What can you do?

About your bp meds, that's a real downer, and I'm sorry you have to deal with that. You should use this new info as a reason to stay even more dedicated to MF, because hopefully if you get to goal, you won't need those meds anymore. Now there's a reason to keep on shakin'!

I hope things get better for you and your daughter soon... Keep strong, and beware sneaky urges to turn to food for solace! (Gosh knows that's what *I'd* be thinking, which is what got me into this predicament... )

[LilMsTexas]

There is no excuse for that type of breakup after a 2 year relationship. An Email break off is something for a brief "seeing each other" thing where no real emotions are involved. I was expecting you to say they were in High School NOT COLLEGE! You're talking about a man having his Mommy screen his calls. GOOD GRIEF! Thank goodness she's rid of that pitiful fella before she actually had his OFFSPRING for crying out loud! I'm glad your daughter saved herself the torture of being married to a spineless little Mama's boy.........GOOD FOR HER! She'll come to realize this eventually..........when her Knight in Shining armor shows himself and she falls madly in love with a man worthy of her brilliance!!

As for your blood pressure.......Diabetes runs in my family as well as heart problems. I was diagnosed with Diabetes 4 years ago and BELIEVE ME I know what it is like to have to deal with a disease on a daily basis. Having said that............as your weight goes down, and idiot boy is further in the distance from your daughter, your blood pressure will follow suit. I am looking forward to getting off my diabetes meds and you can look forward to getting off of these TEMPORARY bp meds. You and Your daughter should have a CELEBRATION instead of a wake over this break-up!! What would her children look like if she had actually bred with a weasle??? Until she gets to this place Mama just put your arms around her, love her, and buy her some new shoes!!

CHEERS!!

[24KaratGold]

There is no excuse for that type of breakup after a 2 year relationship. An Email break off is something for a brief "seeing each other" thing where no real emotions are involved. I was expecting you to say they were in High School NOT COLLEGE! You're talking about a man having his Mommy screen his calls. GOOD GRIEF! Thank goodness she's rid of that pitiful fella before she actually had his OFFSPRING for crying out loud! I'm glad your daughter saved herself the torture of being married to a spineless little Mama's boy.........GOOD FOR HER! She'll come to realize this eventually..........when her Knight in Shining armor shows himself and she falls madly in love with a man worthy of her brilliance!!

As for your blood pressure.......Diabetes runs in my family as well as heart problems. I was diagnosed with Diabetes 4 years ago and BELIEVE ME I know what it is like to have to deal with a disease on a daily basis. Having said that............as your weight goes down, and idiot boy is further in the distance from your daughter, your blood pressure will follow suit. I am looking forward to getting off my diabetes meds and you can look forward to getting off of these TEMPORARY bp meds. You and Your daughter should have a CELEBRATION instead of a wake over this break-up!! What would her children look like if she had actually bred with a weasle??? Until she gets to this place Mama just put your arms around her, love her, and buy her some new shoes!!

CHEERS!!

I don't often do this, but . . .

What she said. Ditto.

[dlr2424]

PPansy...I'm so sorry for your challeges this week...the BP pills...you'll be off them in no time at all...once that weight drops watch out...now for the boyfriend....I have 2 teenage girls...it is so painful when you welcome someone into your heart...they become part of the family..and then something happens...I have spent many nights with my oldest as she has cried in my arms...nothing can take that pain away but time, as hard as that is ..all we can do is be there for them. Life can be so challenging and seem so unfair at times but hopefully with each challenge we grow stronger and learn something from each situation...GOD never promised life would be easy...but HE did promise He would be with us always.
I pray for strength for your daughter and for you as well

Donna...dlr2424

[doglover]

Purple - wow what a crappy week

I am not a dr. but only offer this piece of info. My mom was told she had high blood pressure and they wanted to give her med's. She didn't want to take them and asked for a second bp test the second day. The next day all was FINE! She then went a third and fourth day and all was FINE! Dr. said there could have been something wrong that day or the person didn't do the test right. So you may want to check a couple more times before you begin putting pills in your mouth, just to be sure. I was very ill 2 yrs. ago and had my bp taken several times a day. It was always different, up and down.

Anyway, my 2 cents!

On the daughter thing...my daughter is 12 (son is 9) and I cannot imagine how I will react when someone hurts their hearts! Oh my. Grab her all the time and hug her and just be there. Don't offer advise, don't tell her you know (she won't believe you), just be with her. Give her lots of MF forum hugs too!

Good luck!
Donna