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[want2Bthin]

Hi guys-

I had an interesting evening last night. Around midnight my husband came & got me up & told me his stomach was hurting really bad. Let me just tell you all this- my husband is MR. MACHO (sp). He has to be almost dieing before he tells me anything. So I got up & the fun began.

His stomach was poking out by his belly button. He was really in alot of pain. I told him we needed to go the ER & he didn't even argue. I got my 9 year old daughter up & we headed off. Most of you know that I was in a bad car accident in November & ever since then I have had a hard time getting in the car. I have had alot of recovering to go through so I have not had to go out much & when I do my husband drives unless it is just right by my house.

Anyway, I obviously had to drive him to the hospital. It was dark & I was a nervous wreck but I was trying to be strong for my husband & daughter. I live in Louisville, KY so it is farely large here & it took us about 20 minutes to get to the closest hospital.

When we got there they took him right on back. He has an abdominal hernia(sp). We were there for several hours & they sent us home & gave us a surgeon to follow up with. It was about 5 am before we went to bed & I did not sleep much b/c I was so worried about him.

He is uncomfortable today & will go see the surgeon on Friday the 1st. He is pretty much unable to do anything. I have a back injury that I have been dealing with since the car accident so I have to be careful myself. I am just trying to suck up my pain & take care of him.

Back to the driving thing for a minute. I have been praying for peace in the car for a long time. I guess when God answers he does it in a big way. Talk about jumping in with both feet. I had no choice but to just do it. I didn't cry or anything & believe me I have cried when in the car since the accident.

Anyway, I just needed to share. Funny thing though- I use to want to eat the entire house when I was stressed before but not today! So that is a positive for me. I know we will get through this but the timing is stinky. For all of you who pray please add my hubby to your list.

Thanks for listening.
Angelia

[Sablebaby]

Angelia,

I'm so sorry for the rough time you are having. I hope your hubby will be okay. As for jumping in the car, great going! Sometimes that's the push we need to just do it.
And not turning to food is wonderful! <img src='http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/4/4_17_2.gif' alt='Well Done' border=0>

[dlr2424]

Angelia.................. ..........health challenges can be so stressful...... ......i wish I lived closeby so I could be of some help....... ........but on the bright side..........you drove.... .....and you didn't eat...... .....that's big time....... .....baby steps and faith... .....you have my prayers and if there is anything else I can do....... .....just hollar...........

Donna....dlr2424

[LuzInIt]

Hi Angelia. Sorry about your night; going to the ER has to be one of the worst experiences there is - even for non-trauma events. My daughter's tummy just popped out with an umbilical hernia last week. She's in manageable pain and the surgeon we saw this week told her surgery could be at her timing. Of course, since he told her her flat little stomach would be swollen for a few weeks, there will be no surgery until after swimsuit season is over .

I, too, had a serious car accident (about three years ago) with lots of head trauma. It was the third accident for me within a 6-month period (none my fault) after over 35 years of driving accident-free. Talk about a skittish and emotional driver. Because I am the main driver for our business, I had no choice but to get "right back in the saddle", but I would cringe constantly while driving, sure that all the other cars on the road were out to get me. It took me about two years to fully recover emotionally behind the wheel, but be encouraged. I did finally get back to my pre-accident confident-driving self. It just may take you awhile to fully recover.

A big congratulations for dealing with your very stressful evening without resorting to old foodie habits! Way to go .

[LuzInIt]

Oh my, I didn't mean to have that rolling laughy guy after talking about my daughter's surgery (how insensitive ). I pushed the wrong button - I'm really not very good at decorating my posts .

[LeeannNH]

hi angelia

im sorry to hear about your husband. i know this must be a really hard time for you. i do think it is amazing that you were able to be strong for him (driving and support) and also, you are being strong for yourself (food stuff). it is also a huge accomplishment that you overcame a real fear after your accident.

hang in there and know that everyone here is rooting for you and for a full recovery for your hubby

take care
leeann

[ljm498]

Wow Angelia! Talk about stressful! But you certainly pulled through with flying colors. Be proud! Not eating during this must have been tough. I know it would have been for me, that's for sure! Way to go!

[Dean0408]

Hey there Angelia........well, what can I say? YOU DONE GOOD!

When the chips were down, and you were really needed by your loved one, you overcame your fear and JUST DID IT!! I know how stressful it had to have been for you to drive again.........but, there was no other choice and you performed beautifully.

As far as eating during this whole thing.......excellent job in not doing so. Do you know what impressed me most about the not eating? You didn't say......"I really wanted to eat during the stress, but I forced myself not to". Now this would have been somewhat of an accomplishment......BUT.....in this case......YOU DIDN'T EVEN WANT TO EAT!! Do you know how significant this is?? It is big time significant.......it means even in a very stressful time.........you didn't look to food for comfort.......didn't even have the urge. (what the heck good would eating have done in that situation anyhow?......hmmmmm.... Now, sucking your thumb and curling up in the fetal position is another story....that would have definately helped.....hehe )

Sorry to hear about your husband's hernia. They will get that fixed up for him in no time and he will be good as new. He will be in some pain for awhile though............but it is just nice that it turned out to be a hernia and not something much more serious.

Anyhow, congratulations for your bravery in knowing what had to be done and overcoming your fears to help your hubby when he needed you. My hat is off to you Angelia.

Dean

[want2Bthin]

THANKS GUYS!

Dean- I love your responses to everyone on this forum. They are so insightful & full of praise. Thank your for all you said. You are so right, we are lucky it is just a hernia. By the way, I really wanted to curl up in the fetal position, suck my thumb & cry....

LuzInIt- I am glad your daughter can do surgery when she wants. Sorry you had to go through all the trauma from the accidents. I really appreciate knowing that things will get better.

Donna(dlr)- You are so sweet! We will be fine here. It's funny how strong we can be when we have to. My husband has always been my rock - he always fixes everything so I guess I am very spoiled by him & I always turn to him for strength. I wish you lived close by too so we could meet. Heck, I wished all of my MF buddies lived nearby.

Ljm, LeeannNH, & Sablebaby- Thanks for your kind words.

Angelia

[24KaratGold]

Yikes, what a scary evening for you and your hubby! I'll join with the others to say I'm glad that it's "only" a hernia, but hernias hurt, and if left untreated they can become a real problem. My husband had hernia surgery about four years ago; I remember it well.

As for being forced to drive again, I have a basic theory in life that you just do the things you have to do when you have to do them. You had to do it, and so you did, and that's a real test of character. Be proud of yourself for standing up to the challenge, and doing it well.

Good luck to you and hubby.

[mytime]

Angelia, what a really hard time for you and your family. You did such a great job !!! It can be so hard to be brave and have to manage everything and you did it without going off of plan. My prayers are with all of you. Keep us posted on the surgery and hang in there. Mytime

[LilMsTexas]

Ok.......I don't like it when Dean and 24K beat me to posting. They always say exactly what I would have said so GET OUT OF MY HEAD GUYS lol

As horrible as it may seem, God works in mysterious ways. Soooooooo many times we are able to overcome situations for the sake of others but not for ourselves. Just like when women can lift cars off their children in an accident and have unimagineable strength in a crisis......sometimes our instincts just take over and help us through "flight or fight".

And just like Dean said......your thoughts were allllllll about helping your husband and overcoming your fears. Besides that, driving with a donut in your hand isn't the safest hehe

Take care of your husband sweetie because you're doing an awesome job taking care of yourself!!
Chris

[want2Bthin]

Just wanted to let you guys know that my husband is going have surgery on Tuesday, July 12th.

Believe it or not, we are going to travel to Lansdale, PA (outside Philadelphia) for his surgery. It is about 700 miles from here (Louisville, KY). We are going to a center that only does hernia operations & they also do a safer surgery with much less recovery time. There is no place closer that does this type.

I am hoping to have peace during our travels (no freakin' out or anything on my part ). We will be leaving on Monday the 11th to go out there.

Angelia

[kassilou]

Wow, I would never have thought you would have to go that far for that kind of operation. Faster recovery time sounds great, tho. I hope all goes well for you both.

[martha]

ANGELIA_-

Will add you and your family to my prayer list along with Christi---Have a safe trip--and let us know what happens and when you get home--Martha