The MakeMeThinner Support Forum

[Sarya]

You're probably right, but I understand the emotion behind the comment. Sometimes we say what we know will nip a situation in the bud instead of something a little more tactful or polite because we're so frustrated and just want it to stop.

[GucciGoo]

You are entitled to your opinion, albeit in the minority.

I, however, feel a burst of relief from finally telling this girl what I thought, after years of her being pessimistic and critical over everything I do.

[GucciGoo]

It's true that she doesn't sound like she was trying to be mean, but clearly she doesn't understand that she _is_ in fact, being mean or rude herself. You ask once, fine. Twice maybe.. but every few minutes??

Manly, from other posts I've seen of yours I think perhaps you get away with having less support than some of us I know for a fact how angry I get when I feel like people are constantly bringing up my diet or pushing me to "stop depriving myself". This is hard for me. I really like a lot of things that I cannot eat during the weightloss phase. I am an emotional eater. I eat for comfort. I eat for pms. I eat because it makes me feel quiet and satiated inside mentally as well as physically. Changing all of those head trips into something healthier is difficult. Women traditionally look towards their female friends for support and encouragement. When you feel like you are getting the opposite it hurts.. even when it is completely unintentional.

--S

Thank you Sarya, I came here to share my relief. After all, I was surrounded by fattening food and a person who was just dying for me to cheat so she could say "I told you so" like she has before. And I didn't let her do it. I am glad most of you understand how good it feels that I did NOT cheat and that I quieted the source of temptation.

[ascicles]

Ehhh, I'm always in the minority on here. I'm used to it.

[Ct. Yankee]

Good post, Sarya, well written and to the point.

Joan

[FluffyNoMore]

I'm going to be in the minority also too. Sorry. I didn't sound like she was being mean to you...it sounded more like concern.....and not knowing your friend and your relationship, that's what I got from it. But you're comeback was an insult. I probably would've been mad and hurt if I were your friend. Especially if I was the bigger one and I was basically called fat. LOL!

Of course I get hurt when my friend of 136 lbs was complaining to me the "fat girl" about how FAT she was. Anyway, it's times like that when you question who your friends actually are...

[GucciGoo]

I guess it would be the same if I took her purse or shoe shopping with me, knowing I make more money than her. I can buy a really nice Coach purse, and then ask her 5 times if it is okay that I am buying something she really wants, while she gets to watch...

[butterflygirl]

Hey Beach Baby,
I love that answer!!! I think I may use a version of it next time one of my friends starts asking me if it is bothering me that she is eating ice cream.
I always smell everything that my friends, DH or kids have. It makes me feel like: 'OK, I remember pancakes' But do I want to eat them? No way, not when I feel so good, and everyone is telling me how great I look. 31.5 pounds off!!
That feels better than pancakes taste.
Keep up the good work,
Butterflygirl

[PJinCali]

Hmm, I bet the rest of that lunch was quite and uncomfortable. Based on your last comment, maybe it is time to add friend changes to your food changes These friends may not be the support you need.

When I go out with friends, I make sure they are friends that support me. When they ask "will this bother you?" (and they usually do). I tell them that I have chosen to change my eating habits but not theirs. They can have whatever they want but I am sticking to my program and I love them for the support they do give me. I love my friends and know they would never intentionally try to make me feel bad or sabatoge me.

Good luck Beachbaby! You are doing great on the program I'm so sorry you had this bad experience

[Ketann]

Beach, I could be wrong, but I'm guessing your relationship with your friend is strained right now. I understand, because since right before I started Medifast I stopped talking to my cosest friend. It wasn't so much about weight loss support, but just ongoing problems. I needed a change if I was going to suceed at this. From what you said, she doesn't sound very supportive, so I don't blame you for saying that.

I'm not suggesting you do what I did. Maybe after your comment, she knows not to do that. I'm glad you didn't buckle and cheat. That's a real test you passed .

I hope if there is a strain, it will work out. Losing friends is tough. It has been for me.

Hugs,

Keturah

[sheila]

Hi Beach.Well you certainly got alot of responses from this post havent ya?LOL Well, my opinion is..... you had every right to tell your friend what ya did. I have some friends that do that sometimes,And although I have never said anything like that to them, believe me, I have thought it! I dont really think it was mean, if anything, maybe she will see you shrinking and that could motivate her to try mf too...who knows! you are doing great though, just keep that will power!

[Mike]

I have had situations like that myself. When I was losing weight before I had people who would put stuff in front of me knowing I couldn't have it and then say... oh yeah, you can't have this.
I have found that most people are supportive, and the ones who aren't I just chalk up to being jealous. Eventually, after seeing how successful that you are, you may find them asking more about your program, and then you can lead them to the TSFL site. Good luck. Cheers

[lifelovinaries]

I thought it was a great response. If you told her once it didn't bother you, she should have just enjoyed her meal and let you enjoy yours...Sounds like she was harboring a little bit of jealousy over the fact that you were able to be so disciplined. OH WELL!! Maybe when she sees your success, she will think of jumping on the bandwagon!