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[StrivingSister]

Good Morning Good Morning!

Had a great night's sleep, though it was a liiiitttlle longer than I was supposed to, but that's okay.

When I went to my boxes to get my morning MF meal, to my surprise, "someone" opened up a previuosly closed box of PB bars leaving just SIX in their place! I then looked around and found reminents of bronze-colored foil wrapper near the computer and in the garbage!

The culprit - My Middle-Eastern Husband.

Now, the reason why I mention his ethnicity is because soon after I got married, I was soon to discover that there are actually people that equate food with love. "I don't ever eat without my love"; "If I taste something good, I can't enjoy it unless my love has some", "How could you eat the last bite of something?", "If you make a face when I'm about to take from your plate, that means you don't love me and you don't want to share yourself with me". LITERALLY.

I was not raised like this. It sounds nice and in theory IS nice. But when you are not used to this perspective it can be very difficult. Unfortunately I have had to do explain away a lot of my actions and remind him that this really doesn't mean that I am a selfish person. Food for me does not equal love. When something is naturally in you or not in you, it's very hard to overcome it. Efforts often get interpreted as being fake. As you can see, we have had a lot of adjusting and compromising to do!

So, I had to treat this situation very carefully. I know him, If I tell him by mouth, he will immediately cut me off and believe/say "You're just being selfish with food as usual!" So, in order to nip that in the bud, I wrote him a quick note explaining what the program is designed for and how it works and that these packets/ bars are meals and shouldn't be used as snacks if you are not on the program. At the end, I reiterated that it's not about me not wanting him to share or taste.

When he woke up, after morning greeetings, I gave him the note. After the first sentence, he made a comment (expected) so I told him to read until the end first. He then stated that he understood and that it makes sense. He also said that before he finished that he immediately thought of "the selfishness" fisrt - way to go wife for knowing her hubby!

Anyway, I just thought I'd share.

Gotta begin Day Two!

[Nicki]

What an thought provoking situation .... thanks for sharing. I love hearing about traditions of other cultures. Its amazing how ideas on even food can vary. Sounds like its made things very interesting for you!

[Kido]

That is an interesting difference in culture.

I am glad that your husband understood and also thought about you when eating your bar. Maybe he will be a little more supportive with you MF'ing.