The MakeMeThinner Support Forum

[falisamarie]

OK this is my ninth day on the program and I am already starting to doubt myself I love the program and how I feel but yesterday was really hard. I have a wonderful husband a 5 wonderful children 3 girls 17,15,13 and two boys 11,12 the problem yesterday was that on the weekends it is like a free for all in the kitchen with everyone coming and going it seems like there is always someone cooking or eating! I did make it through the day without any slips but it was hard I know that they are all supportive of me getting my weight off but why is it they always want to come sit with me while they eat their deviled eggs or bbq pork sandwiches I know that this program is right for me and I know that it is working but how long will I feel weak I feel like such a whiner but I know most if not all of you will understand and could maybe give an encouraging word or two

If you have read this far thanks for listening

Lisa

[5eh]

You're doing awesome Lisa!!!!!

After reading several posts and joining, I'm sure everyone here can applaud your diligence in not giving in to temptation!



Keep up the good work and know you've got everyone here supportin you!

[MusicalMomma]

Hey Lisa! I totally relate to feeling weak! Wed-Sat were extremely tough for me (day 1-3 were easy, guess I'm an enigma haha). You did great! You passed the test! You were strong and didn't cave when deviled eggs and bbq pork were staring you in the face, calling to you, begging you to just take a little taste...YOU KICKED IT'S BBQ DEVIL BUTT!!!!! You Da Woman!!!!!! Keep strong, it's monday now, the weekend is over!

[Lauren]

Morning, Lisa, and welcome back to the weekdays...a much more sane and structured time for us Medifasters! Ahh, breathe a sigh of relief!

Anyway, your kids are not babies, and there is no reason why you can't ask them to help out in the kitchen and fend for themselves. I am guessing that as a mother of five you are used to being supermom, making all the meals, and totally involved. Well, you can still be a totally involved mom, but remove yourself from the kitchen environment a bit. Why not make it a fun project, have your kids take turns putting together meals to "help mommy lose weight!"

And there's no reason why you can't just tell them that you are feeling a little weak, and their sandwhiches and stuff are killing you! I suspect most of your family is supporting you in this diet, so try to include them in the solution, instead of having them be the problem!

Good luck!

Lauren

[SueInSLO]

Hi Lisa!!

First of all, you deserve a medal for raising 5 kids! You must be an awesome Mom!

Second, as Lauren said, they are not babies. It looks like they're all old enough to realize that "Mom" is doing something for herself. "Mom" is getting healthier. "Mom" is going to be around a lot longer because she is taking care of herself.

Have them pitch in or pre-make things for them when you having a stronger resolve. Drink a shake while you're cooking for them. Post a before picture on the cupboard so you can look up if you feel like you want "one bite".

The hardest thing for me was to put myself first. I always put my daughters first when they were younger and now I was putting my fiance first.

This is MY time. I want to be around for my fiance. I want to be here for my girls and future grandkids. I want to feel good about myself.

The only person that is going to REALLY, REALLY take care of me is ME!!

You can do this! We can all do this. One step at a time. One MF meal at a time. But, we'll get there. Hang in there through those tough times and come post!

Good Luck!
Sue

[Wannabe]

Oh wow! Do I ever understand!! Lisa, it looks like we started about the same time and we both had to deal with a lot of temptation over the weekend. You had it a little worse though, with 5 kids in the house as opposed to my 2.

My husband (whose idea of cooking is to throw meat on the grill) came home from the store Sat. with all the ingredients to make chicken tetrazinni. I LOVE the stuff! I refused to have anything to do with the preparation but I had to contend with the yummy aromas wafting throughout the house! While hubby and children were eating I was online reading...right here...trying to stay strong. Talk about whining! I let my hubby know in no uncertain terms how difficult he was making this for me and asked why he had never felt like cooking my favorite dish when I wasn't trying to lose weight!

The important thing is, you didn't give in to the temptation and neither did I. Give yourself a big pat on the back!

Congrats on the 10# loss! I'm at 11 right now and hanging in there! We can do this!!!

[falisamarie]

You guys are the best!!!

I talked to my mom and told her I was feeling down and she reminded me that I do suffer from clinical depression and it is close to that not so special time of month so my hormones are in an uproar so she encouraged me to hang in there She also told me she had told some of my uncles how much I have lost and they were amazed and once everyone knows you are losing it is harder to falter and feel like a failure in everyones eyes I know you should not care what others think but in this case it is very motivating

Thank you for all your kind words

Lisa

[MiamiBlue]

Falisamarie I applaud your restiance. I am the mother of four and I know how hard it is. This is only my 2nd day and it is very hard to stay motivated and not eat the things I used to eat. Especially this time of year. I am a big time cook and love cooking and baking during the winter months. I almost feel depressed. I'm trying not to make my decision difficult on anyone in my house so it has been really hard for me. My biggest problem is in the evening. This has always been my own "personal downtime." I loved to snack. I'm finding the evenings (around 10 pm) especially hard. My husband thinks water will fix all my cravings. I'm not so sure. I'm hanging in there though. I remember reading something that Nancy said along the lines that we all know what food taste like, but I want to taste what thin is like. I'm trying to stand by that. I've never had to worry about my weight, but after the birth of my twins (11 years ago)! my body hasn't been right and the weight has been creeping steadily over the years. I want to feel thin again and I keep thinking about this hoping that will get me through. I made me a shake in the blender with the dutch chocolate, crushed ice, water and the sugar-free vanilla syrup and it tastes just like a Wendy's frosty to me, now if only I can find something to help with these pretzel cravings of mine, I just may make it through this beginning phase. Anyway, I wish you all lots of success.

[cydj21]

Lisa, I too think you are amazingly strong.

Today is day nine for me as well. It isn't easy all the time it is. Sometimes, it's surprisingly simple....like tonight when I, for the second Monday in a row, passed the pizza box without opening it and sipped on my water at my weekly pizza dinner/meeting. There are other times when it is nearly maddening. For instance, have you ever noticed just how many commercials on television center on amazing looking food? Well I have over the past week! I will spare you the complete details of the commercial I saw today that had me drooling but it had a lot to do with peanut butter and chocolate cookies...two of my favorites!

I guess what I am trying to get at is this...we have a lot of pressures, and a lot of challenges in the months ahead. All we can do is take each one as it comes and celebrate the small victories. You are not alone. Last week I became very overwhelmed with the size of the battle in front of me...it made me feel like I was destined to fail. Then I thinkabout it now and I realize...two of my overweight friends still weigh what they did last week, and I'm seven pounds lighter. We are doing this for ourselves because we deserve it, and you are transforming into an amazing role model for your children. Not only will you live a longer, healthier, happier life to share with them, you are also teaching them how to be healthy and happy themselves. Lessons like that are invaluable.

When day ten comes, if you are still overwhelmed just remembered how much you have accomplished. I know you have no desire to start over, you have no desire to fail yourself, and you have no desire to explain to your kids why you gave up. Luckily, you won't have to. We're doing this together, and we're doing it right the first time. Every day I get through, I am so happy with myself, and so excited at what will be. I cannot wait until we can post our "after" pictures. Don't forget to praise yourself for the good you are doing. You are already one of the strongest voices on this forum....don't forget to save some of that strength for yourself! You are wonderful and you deserve this.

[Lady Bug]

Lisa:

A dozen to you Lisa for not caving in when everyone else was eating. I don't know if I could have been as loyal that early in the program. I applaud you. You are already a big part of this forum. I'm so glad you have joined us.

Keep up the good work. I know there are days that can be discouraging (thinking the lbs are not dropping fast enough), but this is the best plan around. I know because I've been on all the rest.....sometimes more than once.

Lisa, thanks again for your post, you are doing great.

,
Evie