First, forgive me if my responses are repeats. I read your original post, Zink, and nothing else here. Jumping in, nonetheless.
The fat acceptance movement -- yeah, I bought that lie, too. For a long, long time! Some of my family members have been on me about my weight since I was 7 or 8 years old (I'm completely serious, here!). The only time I was thin was when I literally starved myself (about 500 calories a day--hey, I was 17 and I don't think you were even born yet). When I finally started eating again, I put on 60 lbs in less than a year. I still have the stretch marks. At that point, I poured all my energy into accepting who I am, weight and all, not realizing that what I thought was self-esteem was really defensiveness. It was an in-your-face defiance based on hurt, let down, disappointment and failure after failure after failure. And, to be honest, until I was over 275 and older than 39ish, I still considered myself a strong, healthy person. (Actually, my labs said so -- but, really, what they said wasn't that I was healthy, but just that I wasn't sick...yet.)
Zinkette99 wrote:There are so many studies that show that obesity is not linked to health! It's all about how fit you are and now what the scale says!"
This really only applies to extremely fit, muscular athletes. They're the only ones for whom the BMI chart just doesn't really apply. Ask to see the research to which your friend refers. There's PLENTY of research that links obesity with health: diabetes, heart diseases, arthritis, sleep apnea, cancer, respitory diseases, infertility... Dr. Andersen has a book coming out, "It's Not Your Fault," that goes over some of the research. According to what Dr. A has found out, obesity is quickly replacing smoking as the #1 cause of preventable deaths in our country.
Regarding her comment that she doesn't think it's any kind of way to live -- this is an opinion. She has no first hand experience. It's only her impression, not based on having done it! I was worried, too. How could I POSSIBLY be satisfied on less than a 1000c a day weighing over 300 lbs?? And then there were some of my friends saying it was unhealthy to lose weight "so quickly." Mostly, as I confided in my sister just after I ordered my first package, I was afraid this one wouldn't work, either. It sometimes surprises me that only a few short months ago, I was so overcome with hopelessness; I had accepted the "reality" that my life would be a long, painful decline into disability and finally death. THAT is no way to live!!! Thanks to Take Shape for Life and Medigrub, I am living like I haven't ever before!!! Yes, I'm healthier and thinner, but my outlook and self-confidence are undergoing incredible make-overs!
Zinkette99 wrote:I know God (Or Allah, or Yahweh, whatever your religious preference) made us all different. And what is good for someone else is not good for another. But I think there is a huge canyon of difference between being 160 when you should maybe be 130 and being 350 pounds. So I don't want to offend anyone by this. I think God doesn't make junk but sometimes we tend to treat what He gave us like it IS junk and try to convince ourselves thats how He made us. I just don't buy it)
There are MANY passages in the Bible that speak to caring for our bodies! PM me if you're interested in references.
It's unfortunate, Zinkette, but you're right. Sometimes when we change, so do some of our relationships. Hopefully, your friend will see the light before it's too late.