by Hyperion » March 4th, 2006, 8:28 pm
Miranda,
You don't hear a lot of people posting your kind of problems because they abandoned. Right now, you didn't.
First off, your husband. He tells you you look good, then it's a sign he accepts you how you are. He sees you struggling with food, and he wonders why... I mean, in his head, you are fine. You have some pounds to lose, but hey, he loves you... Then, ask yourself the question: why are you doing this? Why do you wanna lose weight if your husband tells you you're fine?
Miranda, you want to lose weight because YOU want to feel more comfortable with your body. The reason why you want to lose weight is YOU, not your husband. Now there are two ways of ruling that out. First, you can quit your project to get thinner and continue living happily with your husband, even though you'll eventually experience some shame for not going through this project.
Or, second way, you need to have a serious discussion about your husband. I'm talking a discussion when you put your feelings on the table. Tell him how it's important for YOU to get thinner. For him, it may not be a big deal, but if it's important for you, and you make him realize that, he'll support you (more than 2-3 days).Remind him how it's important for you. Tell him what bothers you; the candies, breads, requests for going out to dinner, etc...
Now I can't guarantee he will help, but in my opinion, love is based on mutual respect, and mutual support for each other's projects.
Take some time to think about it and make your decision. This is not an easy one, but remember one thing: love is the most powerful ally you can have in ANY project you take on...
264/150
Began: 2005-11-03
Finished: Never
Went to 150, then began gym to build some muscle; currently 173.8! (Need to cut some fat)
<b>Discipline is the art of choosing between what you want now, and what you want the most.</b>