I just read the post about "eating problem" and I couldn't agree more. I come from a long line of eaters. We eat, in my family. We eat when we're happy. We eat when we're sad. At holidays, we cook enough to feed an army, and we eat most of it. Consequently, my parents and oldest brother are severely obese. My middle brother and me, we are "obsessed" with weight control. We have dieted since we were kids. I remember realizing I was fat in the third grade. I used to cry when we had to weigh at school so that the teacher could put it on our report cards. I remember weighing 110 pounds in 4th grade. I didn't realize how much power food had in my life until I met my husband. My man is 6'3" and slim. He eats to live, literally. He only eats when he is hungry. I eat because it's time. It's lunch time. It's supper time. It is time for a snack. Whatever time it is, I will eat. I eat to celebrate. I eat because it feels good. You guys, it is a disorder. I think that society has gone out of its way to persecute the fat. I am an RN. I will tell you that I have seen how the medical community has ostracized the obese. A perfect example: a nurse that I respected greatly in the ICU stood in front of a DYING 50 year old, 350 pound woman and said "I guess you shouldn't have had all those burgers!" I cried for that patient. How could anyone be so heartless. Since that event, I decided that if anyone in my family is ever hospitalized, I will not leave their side. I will be "that horrible family member in room # whatever" that the nurses hate. I will have a nurses' butt if anything like that ever was said to someone I love. The obese are seen as less of a person, less deserving, somehow. How did society get this way? It breaks my heart. Obesity is a disease, just like diabetes, or lupus, or whatever else. It is dangerous and deserves aggressive research and treatment. People think fat people are lazy, they're slobs, they are gross, etc. It breaks my heart. My parents and brother are hard working people. My mom is a grade school principal, my dad is a respiratory therapist who works double shifts, my brother has his Master's and has a professional position with the Red Cross in Philly. Do you know how many comments I have heard from people when they see my brother? It is infuriating that people make judgements so quickly! At the same time, it kills me to watch my family kill themselves. My dad had a heart attack in 2000 at which time he was diagnosed with Type II Diabetes. His MI was very minor and angioplasty cleared all blockage. To me, this was God kicking him in the butt, telling him to shape up. Since then, I would guess he has gained at least 50 pounds. He doesn't watch his diet AT ALL!!!! He doesn't visit the doctor regularly. He knows better, but doesn't think anything will happen to him. It makes me cry knowing that he is just a time bomb. I live each day, wondering when he is going to have another MI. It makes me sick. I feel powerless. I can't make my family lose weight. I pray all the time for them. My brother actually decided a year ago or so to get into shape. He did really well for awhile, losing more than 80 pounds, but has recently "fallen off the wagon". I am hoping that my success with MF may influence them in a positive way. I know I am rambling, but I just wish that society would change. People are so judgemental and hurtful. I saw a post by Hyperion that said something about how fat people have better developed personalities. I am probably misquoting, but I agree. When you can't depend on you hot little butt to take you where you need to go in the world, your personality and intelligence has to go a long ways. We are not a shallow, snotty, superficial people. We are good people who can contribute so much to this world, given the chance. I feel such a since of belonging here. Thank you all. You are wonderful people and I love you all even though I barely know you. We can overcome our disease, not because we want that hot butt (though, I desperately do), but because we need to be healthy, and good examples to our kids and grandkids. Sorry for the ramble, but I had a few things to say. I talk too much!!
Love You!
Lora