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[MusicalMomma]

Until last week, I was doing SO well on Medifast! Cravings were extremely few and far between. I was never hungry. I felt GREAT. I was happy. Life was good!

THEN, I decided, "since everyone keeps asking me about medifast, maybe it's time to become a HA". So, that's what I did! Ever since, the cravings have been TERRIBLE. I have given in to them a times. YES, I know, don't need or want "tough love" right now thank you very much, I know how weak I am and don't need or want any "it's all up to you" talks. I am seriously struggling here. I don't know what my problem is!

I had the same issues a couple of year ago, when I started going to Curves. I was doing SO well! Losing weight moderately and firming up! THEN, my bubbly personality was noticed and they offered me a job there! Oh yeah! I fit in SO well and kept all the ladies there motivated and laughing up a storm! Then I started binging AGAIN and picking up weight AGAIN!

It's like, every time I commit to the next level, I crash, cave, and lose site of what brought me there to begin with!

Should I just forget being a HA and go back to simply working the program? Oh gosh, I sound so pathetic! Believe me, no one is tougher on me than ME.

I don't even really know why I'm posting this...perhaps for some accountability....perhaps for some added support...perhaps just to blow off some steam.

All I know for sure is, I PRAYED for a program that my hubby and I could follow! The VERY NEXT DAY, I got an email from my friend, now HA, with her medifast testimony. I KNOW this program was sent to hubby and me! I do NOT want to fail again! I KNOW this program works!!!!

OK, I'm done rambling! Thanks for reading.

[RoleModel_Mom]

Hi Joyce,

Don't be so tough on yourself! Mistakes happen! We are all humans! What counts is YOU PICK UP AND MOVE ON!

I personally think if cravings are really that high...just take a day....cave in to the cravings....start back the next day....that way atleast you will be over it.....atleast it works for me that way....may be not for everyone....but for me!

I would say just take it easy on yourself today and start back on the program tomorrow....you may have to deal with the first 3 day issues! That's the only downside to this! Oh...Well!

And Joyce, I really love your posts and your personality (from what I can imagine through your posts)....when I didn't see very many posts from you past two days...I did suspect...you are feeling down a little bit! Cheer up...girlie...you are awesome! I know you can make it to your goal with your good spirited attitude!

Somedays are good and somedays are bad for everyone...I would say just lay low on bad days and they will pass.

I am not sure if any of this is making sense, but my point is...go easy on yourself. From your posting, I can see you are being too hard on yourself. You did a great job so far...little slipups are okay!

[FORMOMMY]

I'm not going to give you the "tough love" as you called it. I do want to ask you a question though - did you PRAY about becoming an HA??? You said you prayed about a program and God answered your prayer. I was just wondering if you did the same thing for the Heath Advisor job.

See, if you did then God will give you the strength to do it. If not, then you need to pray now to seek His guidance and His Will. Once you have a peace that this is what you are supposed to do - you need to lean on Him and he will get you through this rough patch.

You have the best personality to be an HA - don't get me wrong. But if this isn't what you are supposed to do, then you are going to have a difficult time no matter what. If this is what you are SUPPOSED to do, then you will not necessarily have an easy time but you will definitely have an advocate in Him and you will be an amazing HA!!!

Just my opinion....take it for what it is worth. Either way, I think you are awesome and you have done a great job losing weight and encouraging others. Don't doubt yourself but most importantly, don't doubt what the Lord can accomplish through you.

[DogMa]

Maybe you're trying to sabotage yourself? It does sound like it. On some level, are you afraid of achieving your goal?

As for being an HA, I'd say take care of yourself first. Maybe taking care of your family and yourself AND other people is just more than you can handle right now.

I, too, became an HA not that long ago - but with no clients, which is partly (mainly) my own choice. One reason is I'm not sure I'm ready to help other people when I still have so many issues of my OWN to deal with. Maybe you're feeling some of that, too? And having people notice your success and start seeing you as some sort of role model can be a lot of pressure. Maybe it's not the kind of pressure you're ready for just yet.

[bzlife1967]

Oh Joyce, we all love you. You are so great to have around here! Thats the great thing about this board, say whatever your thinking, vent, rant, praise.... we all go through it.

Only you can make the decisions for you. The health advisor thing I have thought about too, but have way too much on my agenda now to add one more thing. Have a heart to heart with yourself, pray and contemplate, you will come to the right decision.

Maybe you should have a cheat day... just so you can feel crappy the next day and know it wasn't worth it??? Just an idea! We're behind you no matter what. You know that.

Geri

[Arklahoma]

Joyce ... Sometimes it just feels good to vent in print. We are all here for you and will help in any way we can. Just let me know if I can be of service in any way.

[Pashta]

Sounds like being an HA is just one too many stressors for you at the moment. I suggest trying it later once you are almost at goal if you still want to. Take it easy girl.

[Bonnie]

Joyce

I lost 50lbs which was my first goal. Then I became a Health Advisor and I had all the excuses in the world for not going further and reaching my second goal. I am now doing the 5 & 1 plan and in 3 weeks I have lost more weight, gained more will power, lost enough inches to fit 3 pair of pants I had in my closet and I am confident that I will go to my second goal.

You know how I finally did it - I said to myself "NO MORE EXCUSES" and it worked.

The second thing I did was I bumped up my Medifast meals to every 2hrs until my stomach shrunk. I also made sure I was drinking so much water I felt like I could float all the way to the restroom every hour.

The third thing I did was make sure that I was so busy I did not have time to think about food.

Now it is easy!!!

Try it and let us know how it works for you..

I love all your posts and you are a great INSPIRATION to all of us.

[lifelovinaries]

I wouldn't exactly consider this tough love and please don't be offended by statements made by a newbie. But it seems almost as though you are trying to make excuses for yourself because it is hard to admit it if we are scared of failure (failing ourselves or others). Someone above said "NO MORE EXCUSES" and I agree-- just say to yourself "Excuses are tools of the incompetent which build monuments of nothingness and bridges to nowhere..." So pray on it and see where God leads you. If it turns out that it was not in his plan for you to be an HA, there is NOTHING wrong with you stepping down. We still love you just the same.

[falisamarie]

Joyce I really want you to sit down and think about what you would tell me if I were in your shoes. You know that you were led of God to become and HA and it is devil that is testing you. I know that words do not make it any easier. Since I signed up to be an HA I have gone through very similar feelings. Maybe it is time to stop trying to do this yourself and hand it over to God entirely. He brought you and Jon this plan and he opened the door for you to become and HA and a great one you will make. Girl remember if you have to take it hour by hour or minute by minute. You will come out the other side victorious! I am just a phone call away any time of the day or night for you. I love you woman you are my main inspirer and encourager and now I hope that I can return the favor.

You are in my prayers

Lisa

[MusicalMomma]

Thank you all for your support and kind words.

One point of clarification, please don't read into my random thoughts and frustrations as "making excuses". I was simply trying to figure this out.

I don't want this to become a sermon, but to answer FORMOMMY's post, I prayed earnestly about becoming a HA, the same way I prayed about going on medifast to begin with. I questioned if this was the right time, but when two people came to me wanting me to sign them up, I had my confirmation.

Like Robin said, I need to work through my own issues AND if people ask me "how can I join up?" then I can show them the way! Otherwise, I am not going to pound the pavement, looking for clients. I will simply trust the Lord to send people my way that need this program as much as hubby and I do.

Like many of you so validly pointed out, FEAR is my root problem. Someone once said that fear is "False Evidence Appearing Real". I have ALL the tools I need for success. Now I have to USE those tools and face my fears! Easier said than done, but Failure is NOT an option. I promised myself that this time I was going to make it and I will! With God's help, I will!

So, after a heart to heart PM session with my HA, my mind is straight. I got a grip. I am ready to face the next three days of hunger and know that it will yeild a bountiful harvest of health!

Bonnie thank you for the practical advice...I will definetly space my meals a little closer together for the next three days!! I'll keep you all posted! Thanks again

[pennyh]

Joyce- you can do it.look how far you have already come

[LovenElvis]

Joyce - I have found that being an HA has keep me motivated even more. How can I help MF users if I don't make progress!

You would make a great HA! However, do what makes you happiest!

Laura

[lifelovinaries]

I'm glad you have worked this out. All it takes is a little soul searching. Enlisting the advice of others is sometimes what we need even though they may not all say what we wanted to hear. I'm glad God has shown you that you actually had it figured out all the time. At times, we are here to vent and others are here to give us the good, the bad and the ugly. Fortunately (or unfortunately, however you look at it), a post leaves us open and vulnerable but it also allows us to see soooo many other points of view and opinions. Bottom line--the only opinion that REALLY matters is your own and YOU have confronted fears and started on the journey of working through it. Our sole purpose was to hold your hand and march beside you on that journey. Mission accomplished!!

[Lizabette]

JOYCE,

Just wanted you to know I am thrilled for you. I have read through the posts and silently prayed for you!

Your strength comes from the Lord, and He is so ready and willing to hold your hand and keep you from falling.

Love and admire you.

Lizabette