The MakeMeThinner Support Forum

[Karli]

Okay, I just have to chimey chime in here. Hubby and I dated for 6 years before getting married and we decided to wait until we were married for da kine, if you know what I mean.

That might seem pretty absurd to some people, and we had relationships (and "stuff") before we met, but he and I started off as friends and just felt it was too important to risk messing up (plus my own personal issues... yadda yadda). Anyway, I don't think either of us have a single regret about that, I know I don't -- we have the rest of our lives together to do our married stuff.

So all that just to state that I am all in favor of taking things slowly.

[nickieluv]

Not to hijack Robin's journal but I have to agree with Karli. My main regret is that I did not wait until I was married. When you're a kid I think it's hard for someone to explain to you how important it is to have something that special between two people - when you see it all the time advertised on TV etc. that sex is just what people do now instead of shaking hands! I really hope that I can somehow get through to my children that there are so many reasons to wait for marriage. I envy people out there who can know that there was never anyone else intimate with their spouse. I bet it does a lot to curb jealousy.

[Sojourner]

Yeah, so.......my DH and I had been together for nearly 13 years before we actually got married (6 years ago)--but we lived together for 11 of those years and da kine'd every chance we got!! AND, I don't believe either of us have a single regret about that!

But that's just us. Different strokes, right?

Robin, you and JDG sound SO damn cute! It was great of him to even attempt to fix the fence; he's a very sweet guy, huh? As for The Peck Heard 'Round The Forum...I totally pictured Kevin & Winnie from the Wonder Years! Awwwww!

[Karli]

Yeah, so.......my DH and I had been together for nearly 13 years before we actually got married (6 years ago)--but we lived together for 11 of those years and da kine'd every chance we got!! AND, I don't believe either of us have a single regret about that!

hee hee... yeah, different strokes. Everybody and every relationship is different. But, I just think that if Robin wants to take it slow, there are reasons (moral or otherwise), and I just can understand that. No judgement on others, and I don't believe there is a certain sure walk to failure or success in any relationship; it's always very individual.

[DogMa]

If I can just chime in here ...

I have no real moral objections, to be honest. I think what I really need is some major therapy (I'm going to call this week if I don't forget). And some time to figure out if I even want to keep seeing him, let alone anything else. He's so very nice, but SO frustrating ... although I think he's realized that the pop-culture thing is really a problem, and not just for me. First there was the "Desperate Housewives" thing, then the other night when we were out with the other couples, someone mentioned Britney Spears and her baldness, and he had NO idea what she was talking about. All his friends were giving him a hard time about it.

Oh, and weight the same. Ran/walked today, though. Yay, me.

[Arghh!]

Ran/walked today, though. Yay, me.

YAY you!
Hey I'd love a guy that had no idea about Britney Spears!

[bikipatra]

I hope you know it is 8am in Hong Kong and yours was the first journal I checked before I even wrote in my own to get the scoop!!!!

[DogMa]

Hee. The dating trials and tribulations of DogMa. I'm honored, though. How is your trip? I should have signed up for your travelogue, but I kept getting distracted by shiny objects. Is it too late?

[bikipatra]

Hee. The dating trials and tribulations of DogMa. I'm honored, though. How is your trip? I should have signed up for your travelogue, but I kept getting distracted by shiny objects. Is it too late?

The trip is fine now that I have gotten some rest! 12 hours last night! And I am a "problem sleeper!" I was exhausted. Just PM me your email address and I will be happy to add you to the travelogue updates!

[JeepGirl]

Hmm well we might you let you chime in here geezzzz


I think it is cool he doesnt know about Brittney..that is driving me batty. The radio station here today had someone shave her head this morning on air for a stunt

[DogMa]

But that's the point. You can't avoid the story if you TRY, so how did he not know anything about it??

Now if he would just stop referring to what killed his dad as "prostrate cancer" (and he had a similar thing like that last night, which I can't remember) ... oh, wait, more than one, now that I think about it. One I can't remember, but one was when he referred to "adjectives and proverbs." Sigh. I would generally just think he misspoke, but he's said the prostrate thing repeatedly. Combined with the lack of knowledge (and apparently, curiosity) about the world, now I'm starting to think the basic problem is maybe he's not that bright. But I don't know. His friends seem relatively smart.

[JeepGirl]

OMG! I know someone who says Prostate like that and it drives me nuts!!

Hmm at not being too bright but his pals are smart. Ya know they say there is one sour grape in every bunch

Maybe he doesnt want you to think he is concerned about the frivolous matters so he will seem more intellegent? Wanna bet he watches E! and knows WhoWoreWhat to the Oscars?

[Serendipity]

I have a friend who pronounces chiropractor as "Quy -ropractor" and vicariously as "vorasiously"......but she's bright otherwise.

You can correct him gently by repeating the correct pronunciation. That's how I taught my kids correct grammar.

As for the Spears thing. I wouldn't worry about that one. Alot of people don't watch TV. That's a sign that he has a life. On the other hand, maybe he watches the history channel or ESPN.

[DogMa]

He watches shows about cars and trucks. Nothing else, apparently. The thing is, I'd be fine with him not knowing much about TV. It's that he knows nothing about TV, politics, current events, movies, books, etc. Pretty much everything except cars and trucks. He doesn't watch regular TV much, but he also doesn't watch - or read - news. Or read books or magazines, other than car magazines.

And sorry, Jeepie, the only way he knew it WAS the Oscars was because I told him so. He's definitely not shying away from mentioning anything to do with pop culture; he knows it's my job and a major interest. Now he's trying to watch some of my favorite shows, but that's silly PLUS he's picking shows that you can't just come into in the middle, like "Heroes" and "24." I tried to explain that to him.

OTOH, he LOVED the play we went to. So much that he's apparently told everyone at work about it, and now they all want to go see it, too. And he's all excited about seeing it again (another local theater company is doing it in April). And we have the comedy thing on Friday, although I kind of wonder how much of the improv he'll GET if he's so clueless about what's going on in the world.

It just worries me that he doesn't know pretty much anything that's happening. Heck, I mentioned the Dow's big drop yesterday, and he hadn't heard about that, either. It's really, really hard to work for a freakin' newspaper and talk to someone who has no idea about current events or entertainment or anything else. Every time we talk, the conversation hits a million stopping points because I make a reference he doesn't get. Or bring up a subject he's clueless about.

[TheShadow]

Apparently he doesn't watch the surgery channel or he would have heard prostate pronounced correctly. My husband likes to say "viola" when he means "voila" and "bo-hemoth" when he means "behemoth". He does it for a joke cuz he knows it bugs the crap out of me. Our mutual friend pronounces them that way because she thinks that's correct. Arrrggghhh!

I used to date on-line a few years back (okay, 10 or 12)and I couldn't go out with anyone who had really bad grammar or spelling. It just ruined my impressions of their intellect. For gosh sakes, at least use spell check when trying to impress someone!