by DogMa » June 2nd, 2007, 1:37 pm
OK, I do appreciate that everyone's concerned. And I did e-mail earlier to tell him that I was getting tickets on my own and that I'd like him to return my money but that if he didn't, I'd consider it a small price to pay.
So ... six voicemails and one visit later (no, I didn't open the door, and I actually had the phone in my hand to call the cops when he finally left), and he left me: the tickets, a letter, a scrapbook basically detailing every minute detail of everything that happened from the moment he first e-mailed me last December (but only up until Valentine's Day; I'm not clear whether he did it all as it happened or did it in the past couple of weeks since I broke up with him, but either way, creeeeepy; he had a printed TRANSCRIPT of the first voicemail message I left him, complete with every "um"), and some roses. And he's now told me three times that he loves me. He even went so far as to block his number, so I wouldn't know it was him calling. Except I only know one person who has a blocked number, and I had just talked to her.
Obviously, I'm not responding in any way. If he comes to the house again, I WILL call the police. Other than that, I'm just going to ignore all voicemails and e-mails.
Meanwhile, the prof seemed nice - and normal. He was married for 15 years, has been divorced for eight, has been out with people he didn't care to see again. Seemed aware of the world. I had free tickets to an outdoor concert tomorrow night and was going to go with a friend; she's been sick, though, so I asked if he'd be interested in taking her place. Told him I'd call tonight after I checked in with her to see how she's doing. My one concern is he has two kids (17 and one a little younger) and only sees them a couple of times a year, but I figure I don't know the whole story and maybe there are reasons. Although I'm not sure what they'd be.
I see no reason to leave JDate because of one bad experience, though. I've been on there on and off for years, and this is the first nutcase I've met. The others haven't worked out, but they weren't crazy or anything (well, except conspiracy-theory guy, but even he never called or anything after I said I wasn't interested).
Anyway, hopefully this is the end of it. I just hope he doesn't come by tonight, because I want to watch the game in peace.
Robin
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