The MakeMeThinner Support Forum

[j0j0ruca]

Please try out the new JDate dude....I need a little less conversation a lot more action in this journal. It's my only soap opera.

In total agreement! I use to miss being single but I've noticed with the curreny guy I have not once said to myself in the past 6 months that I miss dating/being single. I do however love hearing about others I do know from personal experience that when I got annoyed with them over little things - it was time for them to go bye bye.

I know all over los angeles you see the jdate billboards. Ricki Lake stated in her Us Weekly interview (it is state testing and I have nothing to do but read trash plus I figured she was a inspiration for the weight loss) that she signed up for a minute then decided she wouldn't meet anyone there.

He is out there - somewhere!

[DogMa]

We had a story a few weeks ago about JDate, and how more non-Jews are joining it because it has the highest success rate. Which kind of defeats the purpose. But I'm definitely trying the other guy, assuming he e-mails back.

At first I could have sworn it said he wasn't a pet person, so I didn't answer his e-mail. But then I looked again, and either it changed or I was looking at something else (I'm not sure which; I asked him, actually, in my response).

He's a professor, although I don't know of what. He has a law degree. He lives and works in the same town where I live. So we'll see.

[j0j0ruca]

I once joined a site called DATEMYPET that basically is dating site for people with pets/petfriendly or people looking for playdates for their pets. It was just starting out at the time so it was slim pickings (plus I didn't PAY so I had no no frills membership) - not sure how it is now. I had joined after seeing it on one of the news stations.

[DogMa]

Argh. He apparently made plans for us with two other couples for Saturday (we had talked about it but didn't make any definite plans, partly because I have a vet appointment for both dogs that morning and won't be available till noon or later). So I emphasized again that I won't be available that morning (it's a festival that's an hour away and only open till 5), but if he goes ahead and gets tickets, I'll have to wait till Sunday because it's not right to mess things up for the others.

[ChynnaDoll]

LOL, Robin i just love following your love life girl..you make dating seem soooo much FUN!..to bad i'm married....oops didn't mean'it..lol!

Listen, did you know about the latest dog food recall? (Royal Canin) this thing is getting worst...so scary...ya just don't know WHAT to feed your babies. There's this site called Itchmo's...it's a dog talk forum..i joined..it's keeps you updated on latest recalls.

Ok, keep having fun:+)

Chynna~

[DogMa]

Yikes. Maybe I should just let them have the bunnies!!!

One of mine is on IVD Vegetarian Diet because he's allergic to most animal protein. The other's on some organic food from a small company. So far I haven't seen either on the list, thankfully.

[DogMa]

Sigh. OK, so after a miserable day at work and all the stress about when/how to break up with JDG ... it could have been a lot worse. My teammate at work was ordering a pizza when we left (and her husband was working, so it was just for her). I was thinking of where I could pick something up, and decided instead to buy a steak and have that with my veggies instead of chicken breast.

And then I had a small piece of dark chocolate. And then grabbed a bunch more chocolate for a full-on binge ... but put it back and had some pistachio nuts instead. More than I should have had, but still, a much better choice, I think.

And now I'm done. My first inclination when I was up a bit today was to cut way back, go back on program, whatever. But when I typed it into FitDay and saw such a low calorie total, I knew that wasn't right. So ... back to my plan, and I'll be doing the 3-mile tape today and probably an extra walk tonight because I didn't run this morning. And then back to my normal workouts tomorrow. No excuses.

And I'm thinking I'll just go along to the thing on Saturday, and break up with him when we get home, so he can say goodbye to the dogs and I can have Sunday to myself and go to the gym to work off some of the stress (and he can have Sunday to deal with it before he has to go back to work). And that'll be the end. It's not too weird to break up with him after we go to this festival thing, is it? I really don't want to mess up the day for the other people by not going. But it seems better to do it that night than to wait and have him drive all the way out again the next day. Plus it'll be later, so he'll have to go home and it won't drag on forever.

[j0j0ruca]

Are others going with you two to the festival or is it just the two of you?

I personally think you should do it now, giving him enough time to find someone else to go with or change his plans all together. Also if you know that you are already going to break up with him - I'd think that would just put a damper on the mood at the festival - perhaps finding yourself more annoyed with him and frankly why put yourself through that. On the other hand what if you have a grand time and prolong the break off another few weeks until he starts to annoy you again - vicious circle.

I once had a guy after a week of seeing each other call me to tell me he just didn't see it working. I actually respected him more for being upfront and not dragging it on. Of course he called 3 months later saying he made a mistake - too bad so sad.

[bikipatra]

Yeah, it's a little weird to go on a date and then break up. Makes you seem insincere and confused. Make the cut clean.

[DogMa]

Problem is I need to do it in person this time. And I won't see him till tomorrow night, which isn't enough notice at ALL to cancel Saturday.

But maybe I can cancel Saturday now, and then break up with him tomorrow night. I just e-mailed and told him my vet moved my appt to later in the day, and that it would probably be better if the other people went without us (or if wants to go, that he should go without me, although I know he won't do that).

[bikipatra]

Problem is I need to do it in person this time. And I won't see him till tomorrow night, which isn't enough notice at ALL to cancel Saturday.

But maybe I can cancel Saturday first, and then break up with him tomorrow night.

That seems less cruel.

[j0j0ruca]

That sounds like a good plan - canceling Saturday first and then seeing him later to do the actual break up in person.

Now you mentioned in past posts about him crying - has he done this before when you have brought up not seeing him or are you justguessing he might do so since he seems more emotionally invested in things?

I'm so nosey - ehehe sorry.

[Sojourner]

Robin ~ I agree with my latina sistahs...do it now.
Unless, of course, you really want to go to the festival. I know that you always like to do the "nice" thing, Robin, and it's great that you're considerate of other people's feelings; however, I think you should put YOUR needs first, for a change. Why is it more important for the others to have a good time and not yourself? So, they'll have to change plans. Big deal. They're adults, right? They'll handle it. Do what's best for you.

[j0j0ruca]

Sojo - I'm so glad you said it. I wanted to but I didn't want to offend.

There are times you really need to take care of yourself and put yourself first. It is ok to be selfish at times

[DogMa]

I know, you guys are right. Tomorrow night, it is. And I'll talk to him further about canceling Saturday by e-mail (but do the actual breaking up in person).

As for the crying, he cried when I first tried to break up with him. A lot. And loaded on the guilt about how he wasn't sleeping, and his blood sugar was up, and he was getting in trouble at work, etc. None of which will work this time. I KNOW he loves the dogs, and so I'll let him see them tomorrow night to say goodbye. And I'll do it in person rather than being a coward and doing it by phone again. But that's it.