by DogMa » March 6th, 2007, 6:30 am
I've swapped 'em out, too (umm, after locking myself out a few times), but these I just had rekeyed because the handles were special.
Anyway, major drama last night and ... I just don't know. We had the most honest talk we've ever had - I think - and I told him I'll think about it. For starters, his uncle who has cancer, who I knew wasn't doing so well lately, apparently now is hospitalized with an infection and not expected to pull through. So I feel awful for even doing this now, but I didn't want to put it off.
So the eight visits? Apparently were his friends' idea (the ones who live nearby, who he was visiting). They wanted to invite me for dinner, and told him to keep trying, and that I'd appreciate it. Idiots.
The business about not knowing anything about what's going on in the world? He says wasn't really true, and he was acting that way because a) he liked having me explain things to him and b) he thought from something I said in my profile that I wanted someone very different (which wasn't at ALL what I said - what I said was that I really admired the relationship of my aunt and uncle, who after 50 years still adore each other, but who also maintain their own interests). He also listed a billion times he wanted to hold my hand or give me a hug or whatever and held back because he was afraid I'd think all he wanted was sex. He told me I'm beautiful and he couldn't believe I even answered his e-mails, let alone went out with him and sent him a Valentine's gift and took him out for his birthday. He said he knew this was coming and he hadn't been able to sleep or eat the past few days. Sigh.
One concern: He did ask several times if there was someone else. Jealousy issue or a natural question? I'm not sure.
And the thing Saturday night? He had set up one of his bedrooms to look like a beach because I'm from Cailfornia (although I actually don't like the beach), and we were going to watch the movie there. The video was something he had his friends do, a video of the ball dropping on New Year's Eve, because my New Year's was so bad (which it wasn't; yes, I had just put Maggie to sleep and my uncle wasn't doing so well, but he WAS out of the hospital at that point and I just worked that night as usual).
The upshot? I told him I'd think about it. He promised not to call or e-mail or anything until he heard from me. (Oh, and in the course of the conversation I actually did tell him the thing I was going to tell him a few weeks ago. Or, more accurately, he guessed it. And was fine with it.)
I just don't know. But I AM reasonably sure he's not a stalker. He hasn't come by, he didn't e-mail this morning, he hasn't called since last night.
And I realize his "strategy" doesn't make sense. But I also know people do stupid things all the time.
Robin
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