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Lizabette · by **Lizabette** » March 3rd, 2007, 1:56 pm

Be still my heart! :heart:

I never thought I'd see the day... :shock:

Gorgeous be thine avatar.
Liz :heart:

DogMa · by **DogMa** » March 3rd, 2007, 3:55 pm

Ha. Thanks, Silver Fox.

bikipatra · by **bikipatra** » March 3rd, 2007, 5:52 pm

DogMa wrote:Ha. Thanks, Tim, although I really don't mind. I'm just glad it was some sort of glitch.

So back to me. I decided it's wrong to have him help my friend move and then break up with him. But I've also decided I definitely need to break things off. So here's the plan. I'm going to bail on tonight because I really just don't feel like doing anything. And I'm going to suggest we meet for dinner one night this week after work, and I'll just do it then. Which still gives me a couple of days to figure out what to say and how to say it.

Sniff....my vicarious soap opera life is all but over...

Sojourner · by **Sojourner** » March 3rd, 2007, 7:21 pm

bikipatra wrote:Sniff....my vicarious soap opera life is all but over...

No way, Biki...didn't you read the part where she's checking out a new JDG and has signed up on eHarmony? It's not over by a long shot - new characters are about to be introduced; so, stay tuned! Shoudn't someone have been slapped by now, though?

HeeHee, Robin...and you say you're life is boring!

DogMa · by **DogMa** » March 3rd, 2007, 9:29 pm

Well, I admit, it's been less boring of late (ummm, if you don't count the time with JDG - sorry, that was mean).

So eHarmony sent me nine guys. Three I nixed right away for various reasons. Four, I initiated contact with (they have a "guided communication" system they encourage you to follow) and one initiated contact with me before I had the chance. But of those, I put one "on hold" because a clean house is apparently very important to him AND he's "not much of a dog person" (I should have just closed it, but I didn't quite know what I was doing at the time), and one I "closed communication" with because our "must have/can't stand" lists didn't jibe at all.

It's an interesting system. First, you send them 10 multiple-choice questions you select from a huge list they give you. Then the other person answers and sends you his list of questions. Then you answer those. Then he reads your answers and sends you his list of "must have/can't stand" traits - I think you get to pick five of each (and I think he sends them; it might be that you send them first, but I forget). Then you read those and if you want to, send him your list. Then you move on to little essay questions - you send three, and you can either pick from a list of suggestions or write your own Then they answer and send you their three questions. ... And then I forget what happens next, because that's where it ended with the dog-hater.

The one I really want to hear from is the vet.

bikipatra · by **bikipatra** » March 4th, 2007, 2:40 am

Sojourner wrote:
bikipatra wrote:Sniff....my vicarious soap opera life is all but over...

No way, Biki...didn't you read the part where she's checking out a new JDG and has signed up on eHarmony? It's not over by a long shot - new characters are about to be introduced; so, stay tuned! Shoudn't someone have been slapped by now, though?

HeeHee, Robin...and you say you're life is boring!

Gawd, now there's too much drama. I am trying to have a vacation here Robin f you can keep your e-hormones in check...

DogMa · by **DogMa** » March 4th, 2007, 6:38 am

Ha. Well, the vet put me "on hold" and gave the reason as "other." Although at least he didn't close it permanently, which is a step further.

The matches they sent today were "extended" (where they basically relax your requirements for you) and they all identified themselves as Christian. Sigh.

ETA: That's weird. Now it says it's not on hold, although he still hasn't answered my initial questions. I wonder if he's new to the whole thing, too, and clicked the wrong thing or something. Oh, well.

DogMa · by **DogMa** » March 5th, 2007, 8:24 am

Oy. So after I made up an excuse and canceled Saturday, I was all set to call him Sunday and break it off.

Then he started showing up at my house, before I got a chance. I don't answer my door normally unless I'm expecting someone (and I'm generally in PJs if I'm home alone), so I didn't answer. He came EIGHT TIMES. One time left flowers. Another left two gourmet dog treats. But EIGHT TIMES, calling several times in between. But I didn't want to talk to him at first because he was at his friend's house, and then he was driving. So I called and left him a msg at home. And another. And one more, finally, at about 10, saying I was going to bed and needed to talk to him, so I'd talk to him the next day.

So this morning I had an e-mail from him, asking if we could meet for dinner tonight and saying the one thing he hadn't left me was some chocolate-covered strawberries he'd made for me (forget that I've told him repeatedly I don't normally eat that stuff and that I'd gained a couple of pounds and was struggling to get them off). Sigh. And saying he was going to get tickets to a hockey game and to a murder-mystery thing we'd talked about (in a very casual way, as in "Have you been to one of these before? Did you like it?). So I said no, I couldn't meet for dinner and please hold off on the tickets, but I really need to talk to him and I'll call him tonight.

So he e-mailed again and asked if he could come by tonight just for a few minutes, to bring the rest of the dog treats and to show me a video he made for me (he followed with an e-mail saying it was short, and something to help me with the grief I experienced earlier in the year). Double sigh.

Karli · by **Karli** » March 5th, 2007, 8:47 am

ooops on him. I am even feeling smothered now :roll:

.

*wonders what will happen next* :popcorn:

DogMa · by **DogMa** » March 5th, 2007, 9:06 am

Well, I know what's happening next on MY end, at least. I'm going to call him after work and end it. And I'm not going home until I have, because I'm a little worried he'll be waiting outside my door.

Karli · by **Karli** » March 5th, 2007, 9:12 am

Yeah, it's all a bit much. I don't blame you at all for ending it. I guess I am just curious how he will handle, but, he is a big boy, he will learn to deal. Isn't it funny how the more they want you, the more determined and clear your own mind becomes on what you need and want ? It's an odd thing, really, because by trying so hard, he thinks he will win you over when in reality, it's just helping you further make up your mind to end it.

DogMa · by **DogMa** » March 5th, 2007, 9:22 am

Exactly. I still wasn't completely sure yesterday. Now? I'm so done. Because EIGHT TIMES. Even in his voicemail, he admitted to five. Which is still way too much.

DogMa · by **DogMa** » March 5th, 2007, 9:25 am

And on a separate subject, started low-carbing Saturday night (without increasing fat too much, though). And walked/ran today 2 miles. I'm at 132.4 today. Still a bit above goal, but down from 133.6 yesterday. I'm hoping the low-carbing will do the trick, while still giving me plenty of calories so I can keep running. (And it's not COMPLETELY low carb. I'm still having my apple and PB, for now.)

Lauren · by **Lauren** » March 5th, 2007, 10:29 am

Robin, I know you're going to think I am jumping the gun, here, but I swear I'm not normally the panic-type:

Change your locks.

He's had access to your home, and he's already exhibiting way, way, way too much bizarre behavior with the driving up 8 times (even 5 would have been wholly inappropriate). Considering he doesn't have much of an active social life (based on what you've told us), the relations he's had with you have possibly been infinitely more significant to him then you realize.

I've been stalked, and this is how it begins. Considering he's had your keys and been in your home, I would seriously recommend you change your locks. Even if he sounds perfectly normal after you break it off tonight, I am thinking that anyone who calls and comes by that many times is feeling desperate, and desperation leads to very weird behavior.
Oh, and meet him out at a public place, don't invite him in again.

Good luck!

lauren

Serendipity · by **Serendipity** » March 5th, 2007, 10:37 am

I am so over him!

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