by TamiL » February 12th, 2004, 8:51 am
Hey Maisie
when I read your post..it made me cry, only because you and I have alot more in common than we know!! I too, always tried to look my best for my x-husband, that was the only time of my life that I was "thin". I thought if I didnt look good, that I wouldnt keep his attention, because He was a very handsome man, and much younger than I. Well, let me tell ya...I got to my thinnest, and he still left me. and for the last 3 years I ate over it, I still think of him, have not spoken to him since our divorce was final and found out that he is getting married to the women he ruined our marraige with!! that ate at me forever...I have NO PICTURES of us or him to look at..only negatives, for that Someday when I may be able to look back and not have it hurt so much!!
I found that when I thought of him..of my life as I knew it before he ruined us and everything we had...I WOULD EAT...so I wouldnt FEEL the pain..and I think that is what you did last night...but Maisie..in order to CHANGE this ROUTINE/PATTERN..we have to FEEL It all without eating over it!! I think thats what triggered you to EAT the bad stuff..when you were looking at pictures and items that brought you back....
The trick is now...to get back up..and start anew...TODAY...get those pictures off in the mail to him..but those memories away..and DONT LOOK BACK!! someone once said to me..."your living your life as if your looking in your rearview mirror..youll never see whats ahead of you if you keep looking back"....as hard as it is for me somedays...I still cry..but you know what? IM going to find a MAN that is trustworthy, treats me like I should be and loves me for whats inside, not just outside!! IM DOING THIS PROGRAM to get myself back, the person I lost through all this pain of this divorce and loosing who I thought was my soul mate!! I KNOW THAT ONCE WE FEEL BETTER ABOUT OURSELVES...everything else falls into place...it all just goes together..like peices to a puzzle!!
dont beat yourself up over the mini binge...just do your shakes today...and DONT GIVE UP!!! feel the pain you need to...cry...be angry..go for a walk or do something with the energy..but just dont EAT OVER IT!! we will get to where we want to be....we WILL PREVAIL!!!
Im with ya girl...all the way
your shakin pal
Tami
ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE IF YOU BELEIVE!!!
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