The MakeMeThinner Support Forum

[LilMsTexas]

Dear Medifast Family,

Most of you know that two weeks ago I flew to Texas for my Aunt's funeral. While there I was able to spend some much needed quality time with my parents without my husband or boys. It wasn't very long, but it was a time I will treasure for the rest of my life.

Two days after I returned from Texas (September 22nd) I received a phone call at 10:30 p.m. that my Daddy had died that night after a fall in the garage. He hit his head and died instantly they believe. My Mom came home to find him there. My husband was in Florida at the time on TDY and I was there alone with the boys and going insane. Darren had to fly home the night day to one airport, and then meet us at another airport so we could all fly home to Texas together. We arrived home around midnight Friday night, made funeral arrangements Saturday morning (my mom waited for me to get home to make arrangements) and had the Funeral on Sunday. We were without power most of Saturday and all of Saturday night because of the hurricane and that added to our stress of course.

The past week was spent helping my Mom get everything figured out as much as we could. We own a business and Mom has never ever had a single thing to do with it and knew absolutely nothing!! My Daddy had always handled ALL of the business and bills ect. My Dad was an only child and so am I. This past Friday my grandma was to get out of the nursing home to move in with them because she can't live alone and she misses qualifying for medicaid by .79 cents. We can't afford 3400 dollars a month to keep her in the nursing home. So...her affairs have been turned over to me and I am frantically trying to figure out how to keep her in the nursing home. I will have to sell her house to accomplish this I'm afraid.

We flew back from Texas yesterday and I'm back at work today. This is the first week of the month and you all know that means "check-in" for me and it's overwhelming even on a good month. We have lost four officers now and two more are on their way out. To say we are overloaded at work in the understatement of the century.

I got on the scales today at 145.2. I am eternally greatful that I didn't weight 160 because I have eaten and eaten and eaten and eaten all the "comfort food" in the world the past week. So today I am struggling to get back on the full program to get myself back in gear and lose this 10lbs hanging around. I never made it to 135, but I had been maintaining at 140-143. Now I'm trying to get back in gear so I can have this weight off before the holidays.

My Daddy was never as proud of me as he was about my weight being off. He wanted my weight off more than anything in this world. I believe he was more proud of my weight loss than the 3 college degrees I have. Don't get me wrong...he loved me unconditionally...and he was proud of me for so many reasons.....but mine and my Mom's weight has been an issue my entire life. (There's the baggage friends)....but at any rate...I am determined to get the rest of my weight off and have him running around heaven bragging about his beautiful daughter.

I haven't even begun to grieve right now. I honestly believe I'm afraid to. I'm on the verge of tears every moment and to exhausted to give in. I am back on program so that I will be healthy and not fall into old ways of "eating my way to happiness" which we ALL KNOW DOESN'T WORK!!

Anyway..I just wanted you all to know where I've been and where I'm at. I'm devestated on a level I can't explain. As with all death that comes as a surprise I am still in shock....but I am sooooo thankful for the previous weekend I spent with my parents. God took me home because he knew Daddy would be leaving me soon. I am eternally greatful for that gift.

I'll be talking with all of you more now hopefully that I am back home. I can't handle much else this year so keep me and my family in your prayers.

Love as always,
Christi

[shkov]

Colin and I enjoyed getting together with you guys the other nite, just wish the circumstances where much different.


Colin and I have placed our first order of Medifast, so we are giving it a try also. You look amazing and if it will melt us away like like you, we will be hooked also.

Take care!


Shana

[LilMsTexas]

WOW SHANA...I'm so excited for both of you....I really am. I honestly had to read this over and over and over again to realize who you were. It didn't seem possible that it was really you. You will love it and PLEASE contact me as often as you need or want to for advice and help on this! Knowing all the little ins and outs really makes a difference. Plus...I can really help you know about some things to add some variety. Use this website like I showed you and look in the Lean Cuisine section to find recipes for spicing things up Call me and talk to me about it after you get everything...I'm VERY excited for you both because it really works and you'll be AWESOME TOGETHER!!

It was so great to see both of you two by the way....I really enjoyed getting closer with Colin and I'm looking forward to an even closer relationship as the years go by.

Be in touch...love as always,
Christi

[Lady Bug]

Christi:

I am so sorry for your loss. How sad. My thoughts and prayers will include you and your family. Please know that your MF family will be here for you at all times. You have always been there when we needed a shoulder and so will we.

Take care,
Evie

[Ash's mom]

Hi Christi,

I am so deeply sorry for your loss. Your father sounds like a wonderful loving man whom you were so blessed to have in your life. In his likeness you are a beautiful, loving, and strong person.

It is so hard to believe sometimes that God would never gives us more than we can handle....and I'm sure you are questioning this right now. That being said, He must find you an exceptionally strong person and knows you will make it through this.

Please take care of yourself and know that we all care about you deeply and are keeping you and your family in our prayers.

-Heather

[Mommy2girls]

Christi,

I'm so sorry about your dear daddy. Such a shock and so fast. You certainly have a lot going on right now, and I admire your resolve to NOT eat your way back up the scale. You deserve all the comfort food in the world, but you know it won't comfort you back.

I'm sending you some big hugs and while it doesn't seem like right now is the time/place for you to grieve, please, please, please make time for this in the near future. May angels watch over you as your entire family deals with the death of someone you love so much.

Hugs!

[suzyq]

Dear Christi - you certainly have been missed around here - even more so considering these difficult circumstances. You will definitely be in my prayers! Keep doing whatever you need to to get through it - sometimes keeping so busy that you can't deal with it until you are a little stronger is a very wise thing. Just hang tough and take care of yourself!

Susanne

[24KaratGold]

Christi, dear heart, I wish there was anything I could say to make it better. I know this pain too well. I'm so sorry, hon. Hang in there, and if there is anything I can do, or you just want someone different to talk to, feel free to be in touch.

[ljm498]

Oh Christi, I am so so very sorry for all that you are going through. I don't even know what to say other than that you and your loved ones are in my prayers and thoughts. How wonderful that you got to see your Daddy once more before he was called home. I know your plate is overloaded but please, please try to find some time for yourself. And I can't believe that you have the strength to even think about your weight right now. Way to go!

Be well and take care!

[TamiL]

Christi....you and your family are in my prayers tonite....Im so sorry for your loss. They say God never gives us more than we can handle...I question that at times..but he knows.. each and every one of us...its hard to understand why things happen when they do....why he takes people from us too soon or so quickly.....but just know that you will make it thru...and we are all here for you!! your an inspiration to all of us here on this forum...
my deepest sympathy...

Tami

[lauradr]

Christi, I am so sorry for your loss ,it is hard to to loss a parent, I lost my dad a few years ago, but glad your back with us you are a great inspiration for me on the board, I will keep youu and your family in my prayers.

[Lisa Renee]

Christi,

I am so sorry for your loss. Words cannot explain how you must feel right now. I can't even believe you made it through this without breaking down. It is a true testament to your spirit. I noticed in your post, many positive things. That last visit you had with him, that is so important I imagine. What a Godsend. I dream about being able to visit my mom one last time before she goes to heaven and for her to see me at goal.. This must have given him so much happiness. I think parents stick around sometimes, just to see their kids really make it. Once they know you are doing well, they feel the 'permission' to go on. Thank God you had that with your father.

I want you to know that many of us here are hugging you from our keyboards and don't even forget that you have a family here that will always be there for you.

Sincerely,
Lisa

[tumbleweed]

Oh Christi, I am so sad for you, you and your family are in my prayers! stay strong........ we women get more than we think we can handle at times but we are strong and the good Lord and your freinds and family will give you strentgh as well...... I am sending lots of cyber hugs out to you right now....

[Nancy]

Dear Christi ~

Please accept our sincere sympathy for the loss of your Daddy. It is so hard to know what to say when a person is faced with devastating news.

You have had a very emotionally challenging year – you have had great losses this year and many personal rewards as well.

Your Grandmother’s situation is so sad – just .79 is preventing her from receiving the Medicaid and care she needs. Bureaucracy seems to always get the best of us so we must pray about that situation for her and for you.

It must bring some comfort to know that you had a positive last encounter and your relationship with your Daddy was reinforced just prior to his passing.

For me, it always feels better to have few regrets. We are reminded by your experience to make right and to live fresh with our relationships with all peoples.

Christi, you are a beautiful person and we are really proud of you for being in charge of your eating habits during a very stressful time.

Weight control is hindered by lack of sleep, emotional stress and changes in our routines. You have done well to remain in the front row of the “weight ball park” – in my experience, there is a sense of safety when I am on my program – when everything else in my life is insecure and I feel like I am walking on Jell-O I know that my little packets will keep my blood glucose within normal ranges, that I am fueling my body with the best possible nutrition available, it takes minimal time to prepare, saves me $ from eating at Ptomaine Alley and it gives me the feeling that I am in control of at least one thing in my life!

King Solomon wrote about the events of life in Ecclesiastes chapter 3…there is a time for every event under heaven –

A time to give birth, and a time to die;
A time to plant, and a time to uproot what is planted.
A time to kill, and a time to heal;
A time to tear down, and a time to build up.
A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance.

We pray that you will have more times to laugh and dance and to rejoice over the days you had with your Daddy and your Auntie.

Life is a precious gift.

[Jan]

Christi,
I am soooo sorry for your loss. I waited for Nancy to respond because I knew she would write just the right thing!! Sometimes I am at a loss for words -- at least the right ones. Please know that I'll be praying for you and your family. My dad is 99 1/2 and has been having a few problems lately. I just thank the Lord that He has given Dad such a long life since I was a" late in life child " and might not have had this number of years with him. I'm so glad you were able to spend some time with your dad.
jan