The MakeMeThinner Support Forum

[desertmomma]

Today is day one for me and my hunny.

I have been lurking for a week or so since I found medifast, and our order came last night. I am 145.(short and small boned too) So I have 20-25 pounds to lose but if you only knew what issues I have had trying to lose it. Its been a constant battle to lose the same 5 pounds dozens of times. I am at the end of my patience with myself. On the other hand is my husband, who is 315 today and not sure what his goal is because he doesnt know whats even right for him. Hes tall and big boned and carries the weight very well, but hes not healthy. He is prediabetic, and has some chest pain, etc. We have 6 kids to keep up with and we have tried it all low fat low carb low calorie, and it never works....I hope to gain support here..are there any other small losers here?I know it will be slower for me but how slow? I hope to be here and get support and eventually support others. Thanks for a place to come talk.

[cthrn007]

Hidey-ho desert Momma!! Welcome!

I am so excited that you and your husband have made such a wonderful choice to give Medifast a chance. Big or small losers and fast or slow losers - we've got them! I too had lost and regained the same five pounds over and over again for years before I started Medifast January 7th. I chose the full fast (six shakes a day and no food) and I am a few pounds shy of my goal of 30 lbs already. I do not think that is slow at all being that it took me years to lose the other ten... One can never tell how fast or slow you will lose but we can promise that it is impossible NOT to lose weight if you stick to the plan through both thick & thin!!

There are lotsa ideas and lotsa people here to help both of you jump any hurdle along the way... read around the old posts and keep on sharing your thoughts with us all here!

Here's to your shared MF success!!
~C

[desertmomma]

cthrn007
I feel nosy, feel free to tell me non of my buisiness, but what timeframe was your loss? I began at your start weight with diet and exercise but it wasnt enough, so I am curious with stats so similar t mine how fast MF took it off for you. Thanks

[cthrn007]

Not at all nosy!! Started Medifast January 7th and two months later I lost well over twenty lbs... would have lost even more had I found this website earlier!! Also, I excercised a lot though which slows down your weight loss, but for me, not only did I want to reshape a few things BUT I know exercise will be KEY to maintaining my weight at this level so I wanted to start making it a habit!! So, technically I might have been at goal faster if I would have followed the rules and didn't exercise the first three weeks... then gradually added it back.

ARe you planning to do the full fast (6 shakes a day and no food) or the 5&1 with 5 shakes a day and a lean & green meal?

~C

[raederle]

Hi Momma,

I started at about 143 and my goal was (and is) 125; I'm 5'5" and not big-boned, so 143 ain't pretty on me! Like you, I had been losing and regaining the same 5 pounds for a few years (after losing about 40 pounds and getting stuck there). I was sick of it, sick of low-carbing and low-calorie-ing (is that a verb?). I was eating "healthy," working out like a maniac, and getting nowhere. So I found MF and gave it a try. It took me only about 6 weeks to get down to 125.6; the first 10 pounds came off quickly (3 weeks), and the last 7 came off more slowly, but they did come off. Unfortunately, I went on a trip to Vegas that had been planned a long time before I started MF, and I derailed myself just as I got close to goal. But I knew I would eat alot in Vegas and considered it a planned MF vacation; I also knew I would come back to MF to finally make it to 125.0. So, I'm in the second week of my post-Vegas restart, and doing well. Only about 3 pounds to go before I can officially declare victory and (unlike on my Vegas trip) make a gradual and sensible transition to "real" food.

I'm *very* happy with MF because I didn't have to work my tail off to lose the weight, the food is good, the program is basically foolproof if you read carefully the materials that come with your first order (and the great info here), and I've retained muscle while losing fat. On other diets, I lost some weight but still looked flabby because I guess I was losing as much muscle as fat. Not good!

Anyway, you probably will lose more slowly than some others might because you have less weight to lose, but you will still lose it faster on MF than on any other plan. I'm convinced of that! And the best part? I've never found any other bulletin board community with so many great people on it-- this place is reason alone to hop on the MF wagon!

Anyway, welcome! We're glad you found us!

[desertmomma]

cthrn007
I am doing the full fast....food choices scare me... I have had so many diet failures because I find the legal cheats. This is my only way to gain power over food. It consumes me...Im either binging or starving the same 5 pounds and I am near an eating disorder. This is my healing I think. When I near goal Ill do 5-1 and get to the gym. Thanks for the great motivating numbers. Its all I have to hold onto right now


And Rae- after lurking long enough to know your "nickname" and to know that what you say will apply to me, its neat to finally speak to you out of lurkdom. Thanks for being so thourough, when Im sure new members are a dime a dozen and sometimes never return to hear your replys. I assure you we are here for the long haul. Its time. Thanks again

[dlr2424]

Desertmomma....WELCOME TO YOU & YOUR HUSBAND.....& HAPPY ST. PATRICKS DAY .... :D ......Ditto to what everyone has said!!!...And If you do lose slower than you would like...not to worry....there is always someone who will lose slower or faster...but you will lose & if your compliant you will cross the finish line into THINVILLE....whether at the speed of lightning ........or the pace of a stroll... ..you'll make it there and we all will be cheering you on..... ...just think even if it took you a year ...what other plan would give you the nutrition...education...& support that MF provides?... ....so my best to you both for a blessed journey

Donna...dlr2424

[dlr2424]

This is my only way to gain power over food. It consumes me...Im either binging or starving the same 5 pounds and I am near an eating disorder. This is my healing I think.

Desertmomma....you will be amazed at the healing you will recieve...so many of us have beared our soul...revealing our deepest secrets or darkest moments..thinking NO ONE would do what we have done..only to find out so many of us have experienced similar situations...sometimes funny...sometimes sad......it is amazing what one will due to achieve thinness...what prices or sacrifices we may have made in the past to obtain what we so long for desired ..... From before I can remember I was obsessed with weight... my sister was heavy..and kids made fun of her....so in my mind I interpeted that as... "people only like you if your thin"...how sad... my life was consumed by my weight and would do mostly anything to achieve being thin..
...When I was 18.. I weighed 130. I was 10-15 lbs overweight...My girlfriend refered me to her GYN Doctor who was dispensing diet pills from his office..they were speed... better known as black beauties. He sold them to me 1 month at a time. They worked wonders and my mind again interpeted them as the KEY to being thin. Well each month when I would weigh in he would call me in his office and was very affectionate....being very affectionate myself I didn't see it as a big deal...My goal was the pills....As time went on he was becoming too affectionate...He would ask me if I loved him...I never wanted to hurt anyones feelings ...I was a people pleaser...so my response was "I love you like a dad" (wasn't recieved very well)... I thought he was going thru mid-life crisis...I was only 18 ..and very naive...... until he went a little too far & crossed the line....A few years later he was arrested on many counts of rape & sexual assault....1/2 his practice....I never came forward ...I wasn't even angry...Thank God I wasn't one of the rape victims....It wasn't until I was 35 and in counseling that my counselor helped me to realize what he had done ...She asked me to put my daughter in my place...when I did it was then I understood and also became angry...Fortunatly I am much wiser now and would NEVER allow my children to venture on any of the weight loss paths I took....Unfortunatly, I now have great difficulty in having a male doctor, counselor etc. and freeze...Thank God for women medical professionals. This was a dark secret of mine for 25 years. How sad that my mind put such a value on being thin that I would compromise my worth. If only I had or any of us had been shown a different way years ago...if back then we had the knowledge & support we now have with Medifast we all could have speared ourselves alot of emotional pain. So Desertmomma, I hope you find healing in your MF journey, as I will surely be praying for your success....ENJOY THE TRIP TO THINVILLE....

Donna...dlr2424

[doglover]

Welcome Momma! I know you will do great things along w/ all of us here. Keep coming to this post daily (ok, maybe more than once! ) and you wil find all the help you can possibly imagine. Post your success, vent your frustrations, and if you have any, post failure. We are all in this together. We will succeed together!

Donna - wow. What a strong and couragous roll model you are. I cannot even imagine the pain of what you've been through. Thank you for your courage to speak out and share. I am sure others will learn and be made stronger by your words. Hugs to you!

Donna

[raederle]

Donna-- what a scary story! Thank you for posting that; it's a real eye-opener about the awful, unhealthy things we put ourselves through for weight loss, struggling for a better body image, etc. You really were courageous to have examined what went wrong, how that awful doctor only made things worse in so many ways, and now, to have pulled through it all and made yourself a great life with a great family... I'm proud to know ya!

And momma, it's great to meet you! I was a newbie too, of course, (and a lurker for some time before that!) and I certainly appreciated it when people took time for me, so I'm very happy to pass that along if I can. We're all glad you're here. Your resolve and determination will build on themselves as you stay on MF one day after another; it does get easier as you see it working, and as you learn that you're gradually gaining control over food again. At least, that's how it's worked for me. I was equally capable of eating an entire pizza and plate of cheese fries by myself or of starving myself completely for 4 days. It was ridiculous, and frightening. I still don't understand *why* I sometimes stuffed my face til I was almost sick, but at least with MF I am learning to eat several healthy mini-meals a day, so I'm avoiding those urges now. (If I'm pretty much always eating some MF oatmeal or downing a cup of bouillion, water, or tea, who has time for binging? )

Anyway, stick with it, and I think a sense of control and confidence will return quickly. Until it does, keep coming here every five minutes! Works for me!

[24KaratGold]

Welcome desertmomma! Which part of the desert are you in? I bet it's blooming wonderfully now, or will be soon, because of all the rain we've had. Let us know!

Good on you and your hubby for doing this together. I think it really helps to have a "real life" buddy, as well as the awesome support to be found on this forum. Good luck with the program, and come visit here often.

Donna -- what a story. How lucky you were to have escaped the very worst of it, but what a price you've paid. They do say that that which does not kill us makes us stronger; I'm a little tired of being so d****ed strong, myself. Your strength and your spirit shine through in your postings, and I for one am very glad you're here. Thanks for all you do.

Onward and upward, all.

(Edited: typo)

[desertmomma]

Donna, Thankyou for the sharing of yur weight related low points. I too have used nasty illegal methods to stay thin....nearly cost me my teeth too!

Everybody else thanks for the warm welcomes.
Today is hard. I am just plain hungry. Just had some chilli, and it barely calmed the pangs. Im finished with 3 packets of food, and its not even noon! I think broth is soothing the pain.... How many quick soup broths a day ? 2? I know the ketosis will hit tomorrowish but my hunger is consuming me.

Hubby on the other hand feels great. He feels light and energetic. He is a heavy overeater....... huge amounts daily, so he lost 6 pounds in 1 day hahaha.....my 1 pound in one dayis my sail and you guys are the wind. Im going, but man my growling stomach. No quiet meetings today thankfully.

Ill check in tonite. Thanks again![/i]

[cthrn007]

Hi there Desertmomma!

Yep - the first few days are the hardest for most... don't forget that you can add 3 stalks of celery, two full pickles (not sugary or bread and butter though) and two fast soups are fine! Also, it will NOT effect ketosis if ya add another shake!!! Are you doing ok with the 100 ounces of water??? That really helps too. Some have taken something like Lactaid for the tummy rumblies too!

I am sooo glad to hear your hubby feels well... before ya know it you will too!!

Keep on shakin' and congratulations on your losses already!! Isn't that motivating!

~C

[raederle]

Guys have all the luck!

Catherine's suggestions are great! I would add only that I had success using Tagamet to calm the hungries, because sometimes the hunger is really just your stomach over-producing acid (it's used to lots more food, after all!) You might not want to bother with this unless the hunger lasts past the 3rd day, but I found that the closer I get to goal, the more the hungries creep in for me. Could be psychosomatic, but if so, the Tagamet has an equally effective psychosomatic result!