Hey, gang! Hope you're all having an excellent weekend thus far!
So, I had an interesting thing happen at work yesterday, and I thought it may relate to others here, so I figured I'd share...
I have always been a closet-eater. Since as young as I can remember, I was sneaking food, because even as a young child, when I was cute and a little chubby, and by no means at high risk, my sister was skinny, and my pediatrician (who was my uncle), commented to my mom that they should "watch" my diet, I was suddenly the one getting the apple when everyone else had the cookies...I think I just felt from the youngest age that I was somehow being deprived or punished or whatever - all I knew was that my sister had tastycakes while I had cucumber - and it sucked! :-) What's funny, I don't resent anyone in my family for it (except my uncle, but he's easy to resent anyway! ha), they just did what they thought was right. But the lesson I was learning at an early age was that I didn't deserve the yummy foods, and so I had to sneak them. Forever after that I was sneaking foods, and even when I was on a diet, would still feel like I was sneaking even healthy stuff - grabbing a fruit or veggie late at night when no one was looking. I can't explain it, but put it this way - my friends NEVER understood how I got so big, they said they never saw me eat anything bad!
Anyway, since I started Medifast, I tried to be very aware and very public and very open about my eating. I never apologized for carrying around my MF foods, and I would joyously and loudly consume them in front of anyone, anywhere. I think I was especially bold about it in order to teach myself not to hide the food, that it wasn't necessary. Well, since maintenance, and for anyone reading this who is confused by my diet -please know that I've become a runner, and run about 30 miles a week at this time, so food and eating is different for me - I eat veggies ALL THE TIME. Of course, I still eat my multiple MF supps a day, plus 2 lean & greens, and fruit, etc, but I always have veggies with me - I don't leave home without them! Seriously, not exaggerating, I have a baggie of baby carrots or string beans or celery with me, in my purse, the way others carry gum or lipstick (yeah I have those too!)! I also bring in veggies to work in ziplocs, and I munch all day long. I am not advocating this for anyone else, it's just what works for me.
Recently, my colleagues, who have all been so wonderful and amazed and supportive of my success, have made a couple totally innocent comments about my veggie munching, one said it was cute, I was like a little bunny with the carrots, another said something like "wow, veggies again, don't you get sick of them?" (uh, never), anyway, nothing loaded in the comments, just idol chatter. So yesterday, when my coworker said something like, "what do we have this time?" I just got annoyed, and snapped "why does everybody care so much about what I am eating?"
Ok. Here's the thing: I am not a defensive person. I am also not a conflict-oriented person, and I almost never "snap," especially in an office environment. So I sat on that for a moment, and I realized why I responded this way. And I went to my coworker and said to him that I apologize for snapping - he didn't think I snapped, and said it totally was fine - but I wanted him to hear the situation. I told him that I spent my whole life hiding my eating, and I suddenly felt that with a few different comments made about my eating, that urge to "hide" my food again. Even though I was eating something SO innocent (asparagus), I suddenly thought I should be sneaking it, because people had opinions. And that freaked me out! And while he is not the most insightful dude in the world, he totally understood it, and said that he just thinks people make stupid chatter, and if they walk by my office and I'm munching, that's what they'd talk about - if I was filing my nails (which I would not be doing), they'd maybe say something about that. Made sense.
So I realized that the urge to sneak food may never leave me, but I am going to make an added effort to continue to be really public and open about my eating, in order to continue to fight the urge to be a closet-eater - because there isn't a damn thing I have to hide (nor do any of you!), and I deserve to live an open and honest and viewable life, including my eating habits!
I am not sure if this will make sense to anyone else, so if it didn't click with you, sorry for wasting your time! haha But if it did, I am glad to have that connection with you (but sorry you've had to deal with it too!).
Anyway, all is still great in my world - exercise and running have been amazing, food/eating/weight has been great and consistent, I am still about 13 pounds below my original goal, and about 7-8 pounds below my final goal, and 2-3 pounds below my "yay, this is perfect!) goal, so I am riding the good wave. And I have a consultation with a 3rd surgeon on Monday regarding some post-weight loss, uh, tweaking, so I'm happy!
Cheers to you all!
Lauren