The MakeMeThinner Support Forum

[KeleeGrl]

Chynna, ditto what Tawanda said. I read ALOT, but don't always respond. Sorry to say, but I recently hadn't been following your journal and apologize since I would have been highly concerned if my dog had eaten any of the re-called dog food. My dog is just like one of my kids (since both my kids are in college now) and its usually just me and him when my husband is out of town. I would have been frantic. I'm so glad for you that everything worked out and they are fine.

I see you are from Upstate New York...wherabouts? I'm in the Ithaca/Syracuse area. Hang in there with us...and don't take anything personally

[SuzyQ66]

See ChynnaDoll - we all want you to stay.....

[DonicaB]

Hi Chynna~ I'm sorry that I have not been more supportive. I certainly did not mean to hurt you in any way.

I must admit that there have been times that I have felt that some have not taken the time to get to know me as well. I do agree that there are those who have been here longer and are better acquainted than others. And I do see where they would be more apt to respond to one another. But I think we are kidding ourselves if we say we don't like to be acknowledged by others. Therefore, I apologize for not being more attentive to your needs.

Chynna, I certainly hope you plan to stay.

DonicaB

[MerryMary]

Hi Chynna ...
Can I ditto what Donica said so graciously? At times I spend far too much time merely reading the forum and hardly have the time to respond. I also believe that, as Jo pointed out, members of this forum get to know each other over time.

But I promise you, now that I know you appreciate and look forward to the feedback of others, I will make visiting your journal a priority! I have some family issues that have recently developed, but I would keep you advised when I need to take flight.

BTW, I used to have 3 Labs ... now I have 2 kitties <img src="http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/16/16_1_10.gif" alt="SmileyCentral.com" border="0"><img border="0" src="http://plugin.smileycentral.com/http%253A%252F%252Fimgfarm%252Ecom%252Fimages%252Fnocache%252Ftr%252Ffw%252Fsmiley%252Fsocial%252Egif%253Fi%253D16%252F16_1_10/image.gif"> <img src="http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/16/16_1_21.gif" alt="SmileyCentral.com" border="0"><img border="0" src="http://plugin.smileycentral.com/http%253A%252F%252Fimgfarm%252Ecom%252Fimages%252Fnocache%252Ftr%252Ffw%252Fsmiley%252Fsocial%252Egif%253Fi%253D16%252F16_1_21/image.gif"> (and a host of wildlife near my home that I provide "treats" for). The pet food poisoning was horrible and had many of us frightened. I still look at the list of foods to see if my pets are threatened. I hope your pets are doing well.
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Mary

[ladyhawke]

What Pashta said.


I'm here for ya'.

[nickieluv]

Chynna;

I'm sorry you've been feeling this way. I can see why you would think it was 'cliquey' here but I don't think it's ever intended. For me personally, I always check out the new posts, but if the subject heading doesn't seem like something I know anything about, I don't read it or post. And there are only about 4 or 5 journals I regularly go to, but that's not to exclude anyone, it's just that I can't take the time to read everything. Those few people have been extra supportive to me and I try to return the favor as I can. Like I read Robin's journal all the time, but I haven't posted in a long time because I haven't had anything helpful to say. In the summer when I'm not working I hope to catch up and be more active everywhere on the boards, not just in a few places.

This board is a little microcosm of life. We all have people we are drawn to and want to spend more time with.

I know how it feels to bare your soul - or even just ask a simple question - and not get any responses. It's happened to us all, I bet. But please don't take it personally. I'm sure if everyone had read about your animals, they would have been concerned for them. But we don't all read everything. It's not to be mean. But yes, in the end, we do have to look out for ourselves and pick and choose what we can contribute.

I think if you'd maybe posted something on another thread, with a title like 'need support' or 'feeling lonely,' you would have gotten tons of support and maybe found a connection with a few more people, started an online relationship in terms of checking out each other's posts more closely. No one here wants to be neglected, or to do the ignoring - but sometimes we need to ask for what we want straight out.

I hope this came out the way I meant it to. I feel badly that you've had these feelings and I hope things turn a corner and you can get what you need. I can't promise I'll be checking your journal all the time now, but please know that it's never been an intended slight.

[DogMa]

Ditto to a lot of what's been said. I've been on the forum forEVER, and am now in maintenance and living my life, and I just don't have time to read everything posted. I read the journals of folks I've connected with - like Biki and Nickie and some others - and respond when I actually have something to say (and the time to say it). I was very active here in the beginning, but now I mostly let other - and newer - people (especially people still on the program) respond to newbies.

As for the dogs, I'm obviously a huge dog lover. I suspect you'd have gotten a bigger response - if that's what you were looking for - by posting about it in the What's Shaking area rather than in your journal. My feelings about my journal are the same as many others'; I write it for me, and while responses are welcome, they're not necessary. If I'm looking for an answer or support or whatever, I post somewhere more public.

Good luck to you, whatever you decide to do. And I hope your dogs are OK.

[ChynnaDoll]

Hello my fellow shakers. Thank you for ALL the uplifting replies you so graciously extended me this week...they were very MUCH appreciated.

Being away for awhile, gave me the chance to really relfect on what was more important to me, whether to stay away for fear of adversity from some, or to return and continue to be the upbeat, supportive and encouraging person i've always strived to be. So i've come to the conclusion that life is just to SHORT for me to continue being depressed and unhappy. I am here for a purpose as we all are, and that is to try and reach my goal to a healthier life.

I am truly sorry if i've caused any hurt or pain to anyone...honestly, it was not my intention. Somehow or another my journal entry was misunderstood by some and understood by others and seemingly triggered some negative reactions from myself and some from others, and THAT i regretted happening. I want to move past all this and hopefully re-unite peacefully with my MM family. I would be remiss if i didn't tell you i've really missed you all.
What really helped me in arriving at the decision to rejoin this forum in addition to the encouraging remarks from you, was a few affirmations i held close to my heart. I really tried to digest what they were saying, and they were particularly helpful to me when i was feeling a bit melancholy, and i would like to share them with you...who knows, they may very well help to soothe another soul too.

This was my favorite one..."Tough times never last, tough people do."....here are the rest..."Today I will have an emotional detox. I only choose to think positive thoughts."...."I love and accept myself as i am, for I know that I am always doing the best I can in any situation."....the last one and my next favorite..."I release the past and embrace the future. I look forward with joy and anticipation trusting in the process of Life." With this said, i am 100% ready to continue on with my MM journey with you. I hope that i will be equally recieved. May God bless you all.
Love,
Chynna

PS: I am going out to dinner tonight, so i will you in the morning:+)

[KeleeGrl]

Glad to have you back Chynna!!!

[MerryMary]

Being away for awhile, gave me the chance to really relfect on what was more important to me, whether to stay away for fear of adversity from some, or to return and continue to be the upbeat, supportive and encouraging person i've always strived to be. So i've come to the conclusion that life is just to SHORT for me to continue being depressed and unhappy. I am here for a purpose as we all are, and that is to try and reach my goal to a healthier life.

I am delighted you have come to that conclusion, Chynna. We are the only ones who can allow people to have control over our feelings. Our true joy comes from within

I'm happy you are back ... <img src="http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/4/4_1_201.gif" alt="SmileyCentral.com" border="0"><img border="0" src="http://plugin.smileycentral.com/http%253A%252F%252Fimgfarm%252Ecom%252Fimages%252Fnocache%252Ftr%252Ffw%252Fsmiley%252Fsocial%252Egif%253Fi%253D4%252F4_1_201/image.gif">

Mary

[DonicaB]

We are the only ones who can allow people to have control over our feelings. Our true joy comes from within

Chynna~ I'm so glad you decided to stick around. We are here for the same purpose. I look forward to sharing in your journey.

Mary~ I want to say how much that quote above touched me. It is so true and those were words I definitely needed to hear. My joy definitely comes from within and I hope that it overflows. Thank you for sharing that.

DonicaB

[Pashta]

Hey, Chynna! Hope it's a MF-friendly L&G!

Glad you decided to stay.

[Tawanda]

Chynna, I, too, think it is great that you decided to continue your journey within this group.

[SuzyQ66]

Chynna - I too am also thrilled you came back...we all need you just like you said you need us.... Welcome Back!!

[nickieluv]

Come back come back wherever you are - hope you enjoyed your dinner out, and I will try to be more supportive from now on!