by Carrie » February 20th, 2007, 6:15 pm
Day 16 here. I haven’t journaled in a couple days so I figure I need to sit down and think about what I’m doing in terms of what’s going on in my life and my eating plan – make sure I’m keeping it deliberate.
I’ve finished week one of my class, four more to go. I have some concerns about the homework and being able to get top grades at it – it’s a good percentage of my grade. I really don’t like classes that grade that way because you aren’t given the opportunity to learn the material before you’re graded heavily on it – seems to defeat the purpose of a ‘learning’ environment. Anyway, I’m working my way through the material.
I’m still mulling over my friends visit – she arrives March 14th. I’m not sure where I am with it in terms of remaining 100% compliant. When we were teenagers weight was a big source of competition for us. I know right now that she is heavier than I am and she will not be dieting when she gets here. Though she would never do it consciously, I have some concerns about her encouraging me to ‘take a diet vacation’ with her and ‘indulge’. I still feel fragile about my plan and am not sure I’m strong enough to handle that sort of situation. So, I do want to have a clearly defined plan in action when she arrives and be prepared to handle these things.
Lately I have been having dreams about food. Two nights in a row I dreamt of being someplace like a buffet and resisting and resisting and then just caving and pigging out. I’d start eating and while I was doing it I’d be thinking ‘why are you doing this, this isn’t what you want, etc etc’, and wound up feeling really bad about it. When I wake up it’s like ‘geez, cut me some slack, I’m following my plan, so I DREAM about cheating, sheesh!’ There was an after effect though, I noticed that the ‘guilty conscious’ and negative feelings followed me into my day. But sitting here writing about it, I realize that I can control my reaction to it and use it as a motivational tool. I can choose to look at it as a reminder of why I’m doing this and how the other way of living makes me feel, and take it as encouragement to keep moving in this healthier direction.
I’ve noticed that I’m making a deliberate effort to separate my emotions from my thoughts, and this is something that I have never before paid attention to. Whatever I was feeling was the overriding motivator in my life. I did have a bit of a challenging weekend with regards to how my feelings were affecting my thoughts. When I began to feel anxious or have stray thoughts about eating, I made a conscious effort to think it through and tell myself that eating wasn’t going to help the loneliness or boredom. And follow that up with reaffirming that my intention is to create a healthy body because I care enough about myself to do so. Whatever is lacking in my life that I’ve looked to food to give me, I need to learn to give myself in a healthy way.
I don’t know whether or not I’m building a recipe for success, hopefully all this internal searching and dialog is moving me in the direction of getting to my goal.
Now: 2/5/07: 233.6/220.0/145
1st time: 3/1/04, from 266.5 to 195.4