The MakeMeThinner Support Forum

[nickieluv]

Thanks! It's working so far.

[dede4wd]

I'm an oldie, kind of a goodie and will try to post here more!

I really appreciated the discussion going on here between Nickie, Lauren and Dogma. I am really examining why I'm in this cycle, why Ithink food is a reward and a friend and although I'm not sure I'll be completely okay with it by the time I reach goal, I realize that I will need to remain ever-vigilent, make exercise a habit and not considering junk food a treat, a help or a friend.

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[DogMa]

Hey, I was nowhere near fully resolving my food issues when I hit goal. I'm STILL not there. Which just shows, to me, how long it can take to work that stuff out (and why I'm glad I started so early).

But again, if that stuff is paralyzing you and standing in the way of your weight loss, then maybe it's better to wait. I was able to do both simultaneously, so I did.

[DogMa]

And DeDe, it's so good to see you back! Perceived cankles and all!

[Tawanda]

I read a motivational essay online a couple months ago that really stuck in my mind. It was about *conflicting desires*---in this case it was my desire to be healthy, fit and at a normal weight versus the desire to eat whatever I wanted, in whatever quantities I wanted and whenever I wanted.

The two desires, obviously, do not give the same end results so whichever desire is strongest in my mind is the one that I will do, no matter what I say or wish.

It is an obvious thing once we give it a little thought. We will do what we desire the most and our end result will be molded by what we do......

I think about this every time I think about something I want to eat -- will it get me to the goal I'm wanting the most.... fulfilling the food desires of my inner child (my inner child is a selfish brat that wants what she wants when she wants it or she is determined to make me miserable ) or following the intelligent thinking of the mature person who knows that healthy and fit will give me the life I wish when I'm older.

[dede4wd]

Yep, it's like there's a switch in my head, for which voice i'm going to listen to. If I could figure out how to flip that switch permanently and not consider bad food a friend or a reward and not get that poor me other people can eat what they want attitude, I'd be driving a much nicer car.

What I've realized is that for me it will be a battle and daily (if not every meal), I need to decide if I want health and to feel good about how I eat or if I want to eat a dozen cupcakes because some guy dumped me! Right now I'm winning the battle going on in my mind, but I do know it will be a daily battle for life!

Mind over matter, right? I have a bunch of size 9 and 10 clothes in my closet that I'd REALLY like to get reacquainted with!

[katesmom]

I have a bunch of size 10 clothes in my closet that I refuse to get rid of too !
Perhaps I'll save one special one, so that when I reach maintenance I can post my picture in it !

Dreams??????????? Maybe, but I'm willing to make them a reality...

T-You crack me up with the "inner brat" story...! I have one too that just won't say "No" to anything, so I have to say it for her ! She has had her way, MUCH too often !!!

Toodles....Yeah us !

[DogMa]

I have to stop and think like that a lot, too. And admittedly, occasionally the answer is I really DO want that burger/ice cream/order of fries more than I want to be thin right then. Especially when I know that ONE of those things won't make me fat. But my inner adult needs to step in an awful lot. My inner brat is LOUD sometimes.

Oddly enough, I think I do much better on a program than I do on maintenance. It's much more clear-cut when I have a defined goal.

[SuzyQ66]

Okay...I have been out here lurking for about a week and have been contemplating whether or not to come out and say 'hi....I"M BACK!!!"

In once sense I am not happy to be back because I have gained the weight back...but the more I dig into these messages boards the more I realized that all of you were part of my weight loss journey and I need to get back here and start again.

I was doing very well and keeping the weight off until I got very sick around Christmas of last year (2007). I came down with the flu (the real flu - influenza), I don't recall ever having that before. This put me down for several weeks...it then developed in bronchitis which developed into pneumonia. Needless to say that I was sick for 3-4 months. And guess what happened - I put on an awful lot of weight. Those darn comfort foods.

I tried to get back on Medifast but failed. Got really disgusted with myself and Medifast and just gave all my Medifast supplies away. I tried a different program that really didn't work too much - didn't help that I really didn't work the program - go figure.

So about a month ago I placed an order to Medifast. I tried to get back on track and had some problems - gosh it's harder than ever to get on track. But last week I told myself - even if only for a month. Well I did great last week - but messed up this past weekend. I really need a swift hard kick in the butt.

I came on the boards today and it reminded me that support is a big part of this journey. I can't do this on my own. I don't know where this journey will lead me - except I am hoping to shrink this body. With your help!!!

Tawanda - Congrats on your success. I read your recent post about "The two desires, obviously, do not give the same end results so whichever desire is strongest in my mind is the one that I will do, no matter what I say or wish. " Something clicked in my head...which prompted me to finally post. Thank you!!

SuzyQ

[dede4wd]

Hi Suzy!



Let's finish this together

[SuzyQ66]

Thanks Dede...yes...let's finish this once and for all - together!!

[DogMa]

Welcome back, Suzy!! I had that horrible flu, too, last February. Thankfully, I didn't get the bronchitis or pneumonia you had, but I was sick for weeks and then just "off" for a while longer (starting a new job and career didn't help, either). It's definitely tough to get back on track after a setback like that, but good for you for taking that first step!!

[SuzyQ66]

Thanks so much Robin. I really appreciate the encouragement. I am getting the flu shot this year. I don't want to go through that again.

[DogMa]

Ha. I've been debating about it. They actually come right to our office with flu and TB shots, but the consent form has been sitting on my desk for a week. I don't want the flu again, but last year the flu I had wasn't a strain covered by the shot, anyway.

[Tawanda]

Suzy!!!! Welcome back! I'm sorry to read that you've had such a struggle, but so thankful you came back here.