Triskets ~
It is with pleasure that I read your recent posting here - hooray!
You are looking up and forward to improved health and even though your husband may not be patting your hiney right now and encouraging you as much as you'd like, we will do it for you cyberly!
Sometimes friends and lovers
don't know
how to encourage us. As some have already mentioned, there may be some who are afraid that if they tell you how proud they are or how good you look that you will quit too soon! or think that they are implying that it is about time we did something about our largeness.
You just keep doing the right things, Little Darlin' and you will reap a huge reward. He'll be ecstatic in the end.
I know I've written about my precious husband Terry many times but he truly is a amazing guy. He never made me feel like I was a blob or a slob when I felt like one. He
loved me unconditionally when I did not love myself.
In my last few dieting attempts before I found Take Shape For Life and Medifast products, he was not very vocal or as encouraging as
I wanted him to be as I put myself through the vigors and rigors of dieting.
I think that he had lost hope for me, too. He had seen me fail so many times. He had shelled out a lot of money on diet programs, diet pills, gym contracts that I did not fulfill and see me give away all the fine clothing that we had worked hard to earn the money for and so he was also tapped out financially and emotionally.
Triskets, your husband may not be as involved in your weight loss program as you are - he probably hasn't read the MakeMeThinner Forum like you have from beginning to end Thank you very much, I might add for doing so - you are an informed loser, Kiddo!). He doesn't hold out the hope yet for you that you are beginning to know now.
Give him some space. He will come around. Soon he won't be able to keep his
eyes and hands off of you. Seriously! I have been married 34.5 years, 1 month and 5 days and I feel like a bride. My husband holds my hand in church, he offers to help me when I'm preparing supper, he runs to open the car door for me, he brings me Medifast oatmeal or Hot Coco as a bedtime snack. When I speak before a group of people, his eyes shine. He surprised me in Baltimore in December with a new leopard print enameled gold band ring just
because he can!
Do not allow the failure of others to fill your emotional tank to cause you to cave in and fill your food tank with remorse, guilt and fatness...do the right thing, Friends!
This weight loss phase is merely a phase. It is not the rest of your life.
Maintenance is very hard.
It is the day to day living and foody events that make it hard. Weight loss is clearly defined; maintenance is not.
I have struggled a lot lately. I have an auto-immune disorder and it is acting up right now and my Prednisone dosage has been increased. It (the steroid) makes me feel hungry - physcially it empties out my stomach very quickly and mentally I am hungry. It (the Prednisone) also puffs me up, making me look bigger and weigh more because of fluid imbalances and it is really tough to fight it. I have to really work hard to prevent eating a condo-sized portion of grub. I feel like a predator circling its prey. It takes some major serious self-talk to keep me from devouring no-nos...
Triskets (and others), we do what is best for us. It is
all right to be self-centered when it comes to your health. If we are out of control with food, we will not be in the best shape to combat illness or to combat our emotional battles. Well-being and quality of life are dependent upon choosing what we put into our mouth...
Here's to
good slurpage and
heart-happiness to us all!