The MakeMeThinner Support Forum

[DonicaB]

I was sharing with my husband about how encouraging this forum is to me and was telling him about some of your successes. In the process I happened to mention how exciting it was when one of you posted you were in the 50# club and I couldn't wait to be there.

I think he was a little shocked at the 50# remark. He has no idea how much I weigh. Is that bad? He got on the scales yesterday to check his weight and I peeked over to see what it was and then he said "Your turn". I freaked out and said "No, I'll let you know when you can see." I figure I will tell him what my top weight was long after I am no longer there.

He is a wonderful man but definitely doesn't get the weight issues. He comes from a family that believes if you need to lose weight you just eat less. (Yeah right!) He is a fantastic husband and has never once made me feel like he doesn't love me because I have gained weight. He never says anything negative about my weight and has always been very encouraging. I know deep down though he wants me to be thin again and I don't blame him. I want to be thin again too.

Is it OK that I have not told him my top weight?

DonicaB

[doglover]

My hubby has no idea of my weight. Yesterday when I reached my goal I told him I had reached my first goal of 26 lbs lost. He was thrilled but never asked how much that is. I carry weight very well so I am sure he thinks I weigh less than I do!

No, I don't think it's weird. I think it's a girl thing.
Donna

[24KaratGold]

I'd like a show of hands from those of you in the listening audience who HAVE told your husband what you weigh.

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Didn't think so.

Carry on.

[ShineGirl]

It's definitely not bad that you didn't tell your husband how much you weigh. It's your weight and if you choose to share that info. with someone than it's YOUR choice. Don't feel bad.....Keep up the good work! Krissie

[ljm498]

Believe it or not, my dh knows. But, it wasn't by me just being forthcoming. You see, dh is a stick. High metabolism etc. And one day he was complaining that he thinks he's getting fat because, God forbid, his size 28 waist jeans were tight. Well, it just ticked me off and it just came flying out of my mouth. I said something to the effect of well, you could be 214!!!! I said it for shock value and for reality to slap him upside the head. The dear man didn't even flinch (thankfully for his sake). He did shut up really quickly though

[raederle]

24K-- too funny!

I agree with the others-- you aren't a bad person or a sneak or mistrustful if you don't tell your DH what you weigh. All in good time-- if you want to tell him later, when you feel better about the number, I see no problem with waiting!

I did tell my DH what I weighed when I got to goal, but the funny thing is, he has no idea what 125 even means. We met in college, when I weighed 180, but we didn't start dating seriously until years later, when I was down to about 150. Now that I'm at 125, he appreciates the loss because he knows I've been working so hard at MFing, but gets this vacant look on his face when I say, "Gosh-- remember when I was in college and weighed 180? Can you believe I'm more than 50 pounds lighter now?" He says, "You were 180? I don't think so. Well, I always thought you looked great." I think most guys just see the person they love, and don't get a lot of meaning out of the numbers like we do. (Thank goodness!)

That's what I need all *you* guys for!

[itsgonnaworkthistime]

My husband knows my weight. He is actually doing medifast too. (don't tell him I told you!!!, I think thats a guy thing....no one needs to know his business...)

Anyway, currently I am 4 pounds less than him. I'm okay with that, but I am dreading the day he passes me up, because as we know the dang men lose much quicker than us snails.....However he never comments about my weight, and is actually very encouraging. It is great having someone to do this with too.

Maura

[bikipatra]

My husband weighs me so he knows.

[DonicaB]

I'm glad to know I am not the only one who has keep their weight from their spouse. I guess I am just embarrassed, even with my husband, that I allowed myself to get to this point. Though, he certainly understand I have been through a great deal of heartache for the past 11 years. (which by the way happens to be the same amount of time I have not been able to lose weight, GO FIGURE)

Thanks for the support.

DonicaB

[bikipatra]

as soon as my chest is small enough where I can see over it to see the scale I will weigh myself.

[kassilou]

I don't tell my dh, either. He might know, as I keep my journal on the computer and he's come near me when I had it up and couldn't close it fast enough, but he's never said a thing about it to me in our whole 14 years of marriage...and I've put on about 60# in that time. I don't even put my ticker so that it shows my actual weights, only the amount I've lost and have yet to lose. Even in my ticker shows pounds lost and yet to lose, not my actual weight. Anyone can approximate where I started, but the actual number is not known.

I guess for me getting into onederland will be a HUGE milestone. That will be my "proof" to myself that I can really do this, can go all the way with it. Once I get there, or when I hit 100# lost, I'm planning to change my ticker to actual weights. I might even tell dh what I weigh then, cuz I'll finally be less than him!

[dlr2424]

I'd like a show of hands from those of you in the listening audience who HAVE told your husband what you weigh.

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Didn't think so.

Carry on.

24K... that was pretty funny.... ...and ohh so true!!!!!

Donica...nothing wrong with that.....I've been with my husband 29 years...and have never told him... ... (unless of course it was one of the few times I weighed in the 120's ... and then was happy to share .... ...even when I was being wheeled into delivery and the nurse needed to know my weight...I lied... ...my husband was right there...I was mortified...I was 184...he was only 170...at that point there was no other option... ...how was I to know they administered anesthesia according to your weight...
Donna..dlr2424

[Nancy]

Great post!

NOPE, NO WEIGH did I ever tell Terry how much I weighed!

Not until I got to Onderland.

I still do not want him peekin' over my nekkid shoulder when I leap on the scales.

Last summer we were with some friends taking a tour of homes (you know, The Street of Drools) and there was a large scale in the master BR.

This Dorkster with us wanted me to get on it. It was afternoon, Sunday - pie day...no way did I want to get on - water retention, heels, clothes, group of people standing around me, NO WEIGH!