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[vegas star]

I have not posted for a while, and I haven't been on program. I lost my mother 2 weeks ago and everything just came to a stand still for me. I haven't gained any of the weight I lost but I haven't lost any more either. I plan to start up again next week. It just seems as if nothing will go down. In the past I had the beginnings of an eating disorder and I don't want that to start up again. If anyone has any suggestions for motivation, I would be very greatful.
Vegas star

[Nancy]

Dear One ~

Oh, I am so very sorry to hear about the passing of your Mother.

Although losing a parent is inevitable, it is by no means easy.

The words of the Apostle Paul to the Romans always gives me great comfort:

"For I am convinced that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, not height, nor depth, nor any other created thing shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord."

You have been undergoing an extremely difficult time; so be very kind to yourself. In some ways when life is unpredictable and when emotions are stretched, it is vital to have good nutrition, to get plenty of rest and try to return to one's routine.

Our prayers are with you, Vegas Star.
xxxooo

[fedup]

Vegas Star- I will keep you in my prayers as well... losing loved ones is so hard... impossible to put into words isn't it?... I lost my father at a young age (19) and still have my moments.... one day at time is all one can do. I'm sure their are lots of prayers and good thought channeled your way right now. And don't be afraid to ask for any support you need! From us here on this forum, but also from any support you have there at home. Talking with someone can help, if you decide it is right for you...

[sudaoning]

Vegas Star,

I am so very sorry about your loss. I lost my own mother nearly 20 years ago when I was still in my 30's. Do not push yourself too quickly. Be very gentle and caring toward yourself. Do not hold your grief inside, but allow yourself to experience and express it in whatever way seems best to you.......cry, talk, walk, find a place alone and scream, in your own art......whatever is personal to you. Know that this will pass and life will return to some normal level with time.

Donna

[hawaiiwhatnot]

vegas star,

My sincerest condolences. It is such an incredibly sad time in our lives when we lose those we love the most. My suggestion for motivation to you to start MF again is to remember how you felt when you were on it. To do something positive for yourself is uplifting, and you are in need.


Also, I think about my Mom in Heaven, and how proud she is that I am taking care of myself. I miss her dearly, and well relate to the burden of grief you are feeling. I used to send her flowers every year on my birthday to thank her for having me. Both parents are there, and I feel I owe it to them out of my undying love and respect to live my life here as best I can. That thought often gives me motivation to get through trials and tribulations. I find comfort also in my belief that we WILL all meet again someday - on the corner of Hallelujah and Glory Streets as the song says.


We are always here for you vegas star.


Your MF Pal,
Camille


God looked around His garden
And He found an empty place
He then looked down upon this earth
And saw your tired face.
He put His arms around you and
Lifted you to rest.
God's garden must be beautiful,
He always takes the best.
He knew that you were suffering,
He knew that you were in pain.
He knew that you would never get
Well on earth again.
He saw the road was getting rough
And the hills were hard to climb.
So he closed your weary eyelids
And whispered, "Peace be thine"
It broke our hearts to lose you but
You didn't go alone.
For part of us went with you
the day God called you home.

[Mrsshrinkinglady]

Vegas Star,
My sincere condolences on the loss of your Mother.
This is a tough time for you and I wish you peace and serenity.
Mary

[vegas star]

To my MF family, I can't tell you what the things you all have said mean to me. Camille the poem wa beautiful, I printed it out to remind me of my faith. I know it will be better in time.
Vegas Star

[LongWay2go]

VS - So sorry to hear of your loss! I lost both my parents in the same year a few years ago and I know how devistating that can be, especially when you are close. You are in my prayers, my dear!

I too have a poem for you that I buried with my sweet mother, and I place a copy on her grave with every visit. I hope it will bring you some small amount of comfort, as it does me!

The Dash Between Those Years

I read of a man who stood to speak
At the funeral of a friend.
He referred to the dates on her tombstone
From the beginning......to the end.

He noted that first came her date of birth
And spoke the following date with tears,
But he said what mattered most of all
Was the dash between those years.

For that dash represents all the time
That she spent alive on earth...
And now only those who loved her
Know what that little line is worth.

For it matters not, how much we own;
The cars...the house...the cash,
What matters is how we live and love
And how we spend our dash.

So think about this long and hard...
Are there things you'd like to change?
For you never know how much time is left,
That can still be rearranged.

If we could just slow down enough
To consider what's true and real,
And always try to understand
How other people feel.

And be less quick to anger,
And show appreciation more
And love the people in our lives
Like we've never loved before.

If we treat each other with respect,
And more often wear a smile...
Remembering that this special dash
Might only last a little while.

So, when your eulogy's being read
With your life's actions to rehash...
Would you be proud of the things they say
About how you spent your dash?

By: Linda Ellis ©

Yours in rememberance,
~Gerald

[susan]

vegasstar, so sorry for your loss. i lost my mother and husband within moths of each other .but the lord substained me and helped me he is always there when you need him.
susan

[vegas star]

I can not tell you what it means to me to have read all your expressions of concern and caring. I only hope that I can be of such great comfort to someone else as you have shown to me. I may give out but I will not give up thanks to all of you. It is so ironic that I should recieve poems from several of you ( all very beautiful). I wrote an expression of sorts that helped me reaffirm my faith and the faith my mother had.

No more Tears

You'll wake today and I'll be gone, I had someplace to be.
I have a job that I must do so do not cry for me.
Just know I'm with you in your heart and happy as can be.
I've served my purpose here on earth,
I've done what I could do.
The tears you shed are not for me
But only just for you.
I now can walk on streets of gold, shed all my pain and woes.
I praise my Lord and reap rewards he promised just for me.
I prayed to be free and God heard my plea,
He's faithful to His Word.
I've never known such joy and peace, just with my Lord and me.
I know no hurt, no fear no harm
I'm safely in my Savior's arms.
I had to go to star my life anew that faithful day.
I've got so many organs here especially for me to play.
So now it's time for me to go, but know my faith was true
Don't cry for me I'll be close by and always loving you.
Vegas Star

[Nancy]

Vegas Star ~

Your tribute to your Mom is precious. You really have penned a lovely poem. Your Mom must have been a wonderful lady. Cling tight to your faith and the hope that is ours for those who believe.

[hawaiiwhatnot]

That's beautiful vegas star. Your Mom is smiling too. Thank you for sharing your faith and heart. Camille

[fedup]

Vegas star- What beautiful words. Keep tight to your faith. Remember you're in our thoughts and prayers.