that tries to one up you in the dieting arena?
I have a weird situation that is so frustrating at times. My friend, who is a very special person, but quite insecure, is driving me nuts these days. I think everyone knows someone like this--they do everything you do. If I buy a movie at the store, so does she, if I start a new hobby, she does too, and when I start a new diet, she does too. I don't mind most the time, but lately it has been quite interesting.
We started Jenny Craig at the same time, and she even requested the same consultant...after a couple weeks, the consultant told me that my friend was trying to pump her for info about how I am doing etc.---and it was not a good situaton. The consultant said my friend told her she was jealous that I didn't have as much weight to lose as she does, and she wanted to beat me to our goals. She has become very obsessive about dieting (talking about it) and her family have even called me telling me they are concerned about how obsessed she is with her weight loss. We have all caught her lying about her weight loss, telling us she has lost way more than she has, and for what reason? She does not talk about anything else, and its becoming an unhealthy fixation. I ended up quiting JC as it was not good for me, I had some health issues going on, and had to have a hysterectomy suddenly---so I didn't tell her I started Medifast. It has been a lovely break from the drama. (I am enjoying having this to myself without having to deal with the daily competition, which is so draining for me emotionally. )
I just feel so bad I don't know what to do! I try telling her in indirect ways that I am proud of her and her achievements, (hoping she will see that I am not competing with her, so she can relax), I also tell her my motivation to lose weight is to become healthy and if it takes several months I am happy about it, just to know I am taking care of myself...but it seems to fall on deaf ears. I don't think I can come out and just address the issue straight on, as she is a very high strung person that tends to freak out about things easily. I just don't understand why she is doing what she is doing--we are friends and should want to uplift each other.
I don't know if I am alone with this odd battle, but it is really upsetting to me to have my friend lying to me and not be able to just confront her and tell her to stop. I don't know if any of you have ever dealt with this issue, but I would love some advise if you have any!