Seaside,
Not a dumb question. A really important question.
Although my weight has been up and down my whole adult life, the last run up started 7 years ago when within just a couple of months: I met DH (lots of dinners and drinks out), started a new job (no time led to fast (read: unhealthy ) food) and found out that I couldn’t run anymore (bad knees). Then, finally, in 2003 I had some success with the South Beach Diet. However, I only went so far; I flattened out for a year. Then at the end of last year, I went on vacation (too many Monkey La La’s – an island drink sort of like Bailey’s Irish Cream on steroids) and then let myself fall victim to the holidays. I gained back 10 pounds.
It was in March of this year -- after an event when I was particularly disappointed in my weight—that DH and I had a talk. We talked about my need to get the weight off and we talked about some of the “roadblocks” in my way. I am very lucky; he is extremely supportive and would do anything to help. (Some of the fun we have is when he “blames” himself for my weight gain – after all it started (this time) when I met him!)
One of the problems was my need to cook a nice meal for him – a very trim and fit man who has never deviated more than 4 pounds in his whole adult life.
We decided that – for a while -- I would only cook things for him that I wouldn’t feel the need “to taste” while I cook. So, I only cook simple things – it’s too hard to spend a lot of time preparing a meal that I can’t enjoy. For him, I cook pasta with simple sauces, sloppy joes, waffles, eggs, burgers, bratwurst, steak… Living in a big city we also have all kinds of convenience foods – it’s kind of an adventure for him when he tries them to see if they are any good. We sometimes order in Pizza or Ribs for him and I put on my MF halo
and eat MF Chili with salsa and MF Crackers. Importantly, he now often shares in the lean + green, but he gets more: for example, for him I might add cheese, egg, and croutons and/or toast to his grilled chicken salad. Finally, we keep a supply of cereal, yogurt and juice on hand if he feels the need to eat more.
And now, most importanly of all, he is thrilled with the result, so there are no complaints about his food.
I hope this helps. Good luck. You can do this.