The MakeMeThinner Support Forum

Hi Michelle,

I'm so sorry I missed this post yesterday! I feel your pain. I've been there! I recently went through just what Fluffy went through too. I've learned more than I wanted to about friends/family that WANTED me to fail to make themselves feel better.

We just need to get you through the first week, honey! ANYTHING we can do to help, you know we are here! I'll be home in 2 weeks and I'll be happy to come over and NAG you to death if you'd like!

I decided to just quit listening to the people and commit to MF for a month. Was it hard? YUP. Did it suck? Yes, but after 2-3 weeks I realized exactly how much of my weight loss problem is emotional. Realizing I'm serious, the family and friends are on board "until I gain it back" like they told me I would (of course). Well, I didn't have to make a deal with myself this month. I PROMISE it gets easier if you can just get through the first 3-4 days. It's all mental and emotional, we can get you through this!

I agree that you need to decline to spend some meals with your mom. I believe she doesn't want the attention pulled from her. She thinks it gives her power and you don't need that right now!

I'm with BZ, I'm making a voodoo doll of your ex right now!

It's fine that you're using this as your journal, we just want you healthy and happy! We make good cheerleaders AND drill sargeants, whichever you need!

I've been there, I'm mostly still there. I just won't listen to THEM. THEIR plan doesn't work for ME...this does. When you've decided you've just HAD it, you will work the plan and the plan will work for you!

I hope you're doing better and I'm SO proud of you for not waiting until Monday!

PM me ANYTIME!

DeDe

dede4wd and MissAnne, I will be in Phx the evening of 4/21 would y'all like to get together for a Lean and Green??? I would love to meet you.

PM me or let me know, heck maybe if all our schedules can get it together we could do it monthly??

U guys up 4 that?

Geri

Hey sweetie, I didn't mean to imply you were making excuses, I found the whole posting quite inspirational myself. be good.

The negative people can no longer get to me.

MISSANNE, I am so sorry you are surrounded by all those negative people. You should definitely keep telling yourself they aren't going to get to you. But...if they keep trying to get to you, it's time for some intervention!

You remind me so much of myself 10 years ago. I was letting everyone around me heap their negativity on me and I was so frustrated I didn't know what to do. I stayed upset, stressed out and very unhappy. Just like you are now.

It seems to me that you are taking all the garbage everyone is dumping on you and sweeping it under the rug. I say (even though you didn't ask) it's time to take the garbage and throw it back at them! If someone says "oh you'll just gain it all back anyway so why try" come back at them with something like "why do you feel it is ok for you to put me down and heap your negativity on me when i am trying so hard?" or "please respect the fact that I am working to improve myself and my health and keep your negative comments to yourself". If you keep acting like it's ok for them to say those things to you, they will. This is the bottom line: people who truly love you and care about you will not do that to you. If they continue then they don't really have your best interests at heart.

Try the direct approach. If they continue with the negativity, let them know how it makes you feel. If they still continue to heap mental and emotional abuse on you inform them that although you love them and care about them you are going to have to seriously limit your contact with them. And do it! You need to treat yourself with the same love and respect that you give to everyone around you.

Believe me, this approach does work! I went from being everyone's doormat/whipping post to having people treat me with respect. And along the way I learned to like and respect myself.

Hang in there MISSANNE, we are all here for you...don't forget that!

Geri,

I THINK I WILL BE IN TOWN ON THE 21st (believe it or not!) I'd LOVE to get together! PM me! Melissa, are you in? We can have a GREAT L & G and make a voodoo doll of the ex-husband! Okay, I'm just kidding, I don't even HAVE a voodoo doll. Okay, I'm not!

DeDe

I can relate.

My family is very supportive of my weight loss efforts and know how I struggle to get the weight down. However, when I date someone and it doesn't work out or I'm not dating anyone, my mom tends to beleive it's due to my weight! I can't win.

Now, I ignore my mom when she gets on her kick. I have a wonderful boyfriend who loves me for who I am and is ecnouraging me to lose the weight. He told me that he loves me, he couldn't care less about my weight but if it would make me happy to lose it, he's all for it. He is my exercise buddy (currently long distance but soon we will be together).

Beleive in yourself that you can do it. I know it's hard not to cheat; I've surprised myself by not cheating once on the diet. When I do out, I stick to plan and make healthy choices. I don't sabotage myself. When negativity occurs I walk away. I've lost a 10 year friendship with someone because she couldn't understand how important it is for me to lose the weight.

Anyways, everyone here is supportive.

Good luck!

Allison,

What you posted is Wonderful! I'm going to use a couple of lines you wrote because my comebacks tend to be a little bit more from a five-year old than me. I'm kind of an "I know you are, but what am I?" type. I just take it most of the time, but proving them wrong is a long time off and I need to nip it in the bud now too! Only a couple of people. Everyone else is THRILLED that I'm doing SOMETHING to fix myself!

Thanks again!

DeDe

Allison, Great post!!!!

Lise, I know where you are coming from, anything that goes wrong, Mom is like "Do you think it is because of your weight?" I know she means well, she was an airline stewardess in her younger years but has been overweight ever since the 3 "kids". Just take it with a grain of salt and go on and keep on shakin!

You all are so GREAT!!!!

Hey Michelle!

Monday is here! I can't wait to hear about your progress.

Just imagine how good it will feel to see "that jerk's" face when you are at your goal weight looking stunning!

You are so young....just plan on looking like 20 at the age of 30!

Keep us posted.

What can I say that Lisabette didn't say in her beautiful post. All I have to say is "what she said."

See you soon, Michelle! I'll be in town next Wednesday, PM me if you need ANYTHING!

DeDe