The MakeMeThinner Support Forum

I'm so sorry, Scottsmom, I wasn't implying that you were having a pity party. I just mean that it's easy to fall into pity party mode and not face our responsibilities. I had a 15 year pity party. I spent alot of time being mad at people who were insensitive. I also spent alot of time being mad at my husband for wanting me to be a better, more healthy person. I was actually mad at myself, but as long as I had someone else to focus anger on, I could avoid the truth about me.

I do agree that there are genetic tendencies toward obesity, but I don't believe that obesity can be compared to diseases that we have no power over. We can assure our cure with behavior modification. Thus, society sees the overweight person as undisciplined. How can we deny that? Most of us are undisciplined. So we are targets for ridicule and jokes by insensitive people. Maddening? You bet, but will it change? Probably not in our lifetime, unless we form a powerful lobby and give lots of money to a bunch of politicians who will then take us seriously and know that they need to keep us happy to get our votes so they will pass a law making it illegal to snicker at us and then it will be politically incorrect to make fat jokes......ok, sorry, I'm just getting silly now.

You know you will never find all of anything that think one way. But, your post does make you stop and think...so, thanks.

On Larry King Live last night they had all this stuff on heart disease and it also makes you think. Thanks for the reminders.

This has been a VERY interesing post I've enjoyed reading it. It hurts me when someone makes mean spirited comments about me (or especially my husband!). On day, at McDonalds, Jon and I were having A SALAD and I over heard a loud drunk guy tell the woman he was with..."I better stop eating or I'm gonna get as fat as that guy over there." I was FURIOUS!!! I kept my peace until I left ONLY because I didn't want to embarrass my husband any further. But that got me to thinking. (I know this isn't medically related, but bare with me.) That guy was an alcoholic. And most people that make insensitive and mean spirited comments are dealing with their own addictions of some kind (alcohol, drugs, pornography...etc) it's just not always visible to the human eye. It's an immature way of "making myself feel better at someone elses expense." Just some food for thought

It's bad enough that we beat up one ourselfs but it makes it worse when someone else does. I can feel your pain. It's not going to change. We have to change how we react to it. We are beautiful inside and out.